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Courtship Principles in the Song of Songs

 

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20 Principle of love “the very Flame of the LORD” in courtship.

First I will give the principle, then you can see how Solomon and his bride to be lived out that principle in thought, words, emotions or actions in the verse.  And then below are further explanations of the text for better understanding.   How each one in courtship applies these principles may vary quite a bit.

  1.  No courtship or dating if you think you have the gift of singleness.  Song 1:2-4

  2.  Godly character is number 1 in a potential spouse.  His Name and Love to God was praiseworthy Song 1:2-4

  3.   Principle of holy character again.  Do the friends of the two of you approve of each others character and courtship? Song 1:4

  4.  Both must be saved.  Do both have a solid testimony and life? 1:5-6

  5.  Do not stare at each others current and past sins or further oneness will not happen! Song of Songs 1:6

  6.  A.  Closer intimacy in getting to know them.   Always wanting to grow in the knowledge of your spouse.  Not just more knowledge but more and more sensitive information is shared.  At whatever pace each feels comfortable. The intimacy or knowledge of and affection for the other grows and intensifies.  A desire for closer intimacy must always be wanted by both and at the right pace in order for a blossoming courtship.  All throughout the first 3 chapters this principle is at work in an unstoppable manner due to the very “flame of the LORD” Song 8:6 being in both of them.

  7.  B.  Both must have Love the “very flame of the LORD” in them. Song 8:6

  8.  She asks the one she loves 1:7, he answers 1:8 with wise advise.   Can he listen and give wise advise? Song 1:8

  9.  More mutual desire for closer intimacy by both.

  10.  Solomon admires and recognizes her beautiful moral character.  Her pursuit of him was approved of and delighted in by Solomon Song of Songs 1:8-15. God would want you both to be fellowshipping enjoying one another, delighting in the Lord and each others Godly  behavior 1:9-2:6.  In Song 1:9-11 Solomon is praising her noble character as a husband is supposed to do.  Prov. 31:28-30

  11.  Is there a physical attraction? Song 1:10

  12.  Love desires the greatest happiness of the object of its affection.  Do you desire holiness, love to God, Christ alone?  Herein is where holy happiness is.  Song 1:11

  13.  Does she see him as valuable, precious and worth dying for in order to have him close to her heart  Song 1:13?

  14.   If one person desires to be closer and the other does not then the relationship with not blossom.  Here their eyes are fixed on each other and they are immensely enjoying it.  Do you both have eyes focused on the one you love Song 1:14-15?

14. Can he or the tow of you together provide a firm stable home?  Financially, is he able to stay out of debt or is he climbing out of debt but still able to provide both physically and spiritually? Song 2:3

  1. Does she enjoy and feel safe under his leadership and protection Song 2:3?  Can he lead and protect?

  2.  During courtship, do you continue to want closer intimacy and further expressions of love from the one you are courting Song 2:4-6?

  3.  Are there boundaries being set?  Is there a guarding of your heart?  Song 2:7

  4.  There’s a time to propose, when all is right and the rains are gone and flowers appear.  He needs to time the proposal  Song of Songs 2:10-13?

  5.  Is there open productive sincere communication Song 2;14?

  6.  Can you work together and resolve issues biblically Song 2:15-17?

  7.  Is he charming and are you attracted to him? Song 1:16  (put the charm on out of love at the right time and place, not to soon and not to much)

 

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2. Context and Background of the Song.

The Context of the Song of Songs is a time of the greatest spiritual world revival ever.  The king to whom peace belongs brought revival to all the nations. The land was flowing with milk and honey. Solomon’s army was matchless.  His wisdom unmeasurable and as a lesser Christ Matt. 12:42 he reflected the glory of Christ better than any other type during his reign on the throne of God as king of kings in Jerusalem.  All the enemies of God did the work outside during Solomons reign. The Shulamite worked outside Song 1:6 so she was sunburnt and was an enemy of God in slavery by people who weren’t her near akin relations.  Her mother’s sons where the Israelites!  They were enemies. 1 Chronicles 8:8  Then she gets God’s love in her “the flame of the LORD” Song 8:6 and she desires to have a close intimate relationship with her king in marriage.  And thus the Song starts with her expression her most delightful desires.

It is also important to notice that the love they share in this conjugal relationship is the “very flame of the LORD”.  Meaning only believers would compliment and highly value holiness which consists in Love to God.  They have communion in holiness. They both delight in each other’s holiness.  The moral beauty or excellency of the heart.  Someone without the “very Flame of the LORD” in them would not delight in true holiness like the couple in the Song.

1. Verse:  Song of Songs 1:1-4

“May he kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!
For your love is better than wine.
“Your oils have a pleasing fragrance,
Your name is like purified oil;
Therefore the maidens love you.
“Draw me after you and let us run together!
The king has brought me into his chambers.”

Explanation:  She desired to be married. She wants to be married to the king because of “his love” is more delightful than wine.  But if either party believes they have the gift of singleness then don’t date at all!!

Advice: Do you desire to be married in God’s timing (Song 2:7) to a godly person?  Some people are meant to be single.  If you have a desire to be married then get married to a godly person.  If you have no desire for marriage then don’t date or court at all.

Do you want to be married?  Courtship is for those who desire marriage but engagement hasn’t happened.  Love desires the strictest union with the object of its affection.  That union is most strict in marriage.  God would want both to desire marriage, some desire singleness and don’t want to be married. No sense in spending time getting to know someone of the opposite sex in a “dating” context if you have no intention for marriage, fellowship is good and okay but not courtship or dating. Song 1:2-4

2. Verse SS 1:2

Explanation: It’s his character or holy “Name” that is pleasing to her like pure oil poured out.   Solomon’s character is expounded on in Song 5:10-16.  Solomon possessed infinite wisdom and knowledge, he was desired above all other men. Song 1:3

Advice: Do you desire marriage to a godly person because their Christlike character or name is pleasing to you like perfume being poured out?  A proven Christlike character is a must.

The Husband/king should have a godly character worthy of praise and rejoicing in. She like all the rest of the single ladies loved Solomon primarily because of his godliness and experiencing his love was better than wine and his name was like perfume poured out? Song 1:2-3  It was his unmeasurable wisdom that God gifted him with along with many other things about his character that drew her affection out for him.

3. Verse: SS 1:3-4

Explanation: The friends in verse 1:4 “Rejoice and delight” in Solomon because of his holy character his name is like perfume poured out.  So many wonderful promises came with the name which means king to whom peace belongs.  It was a world wide revival.  And Solomon was king of kings and Oh “His Love is more delightful than wine”.  Solomon was humble and prayed for wisdom.  He was not selfish, he loved God and His people Israel therefore the people and friends rejoiced and delight in Solomon’s love more than any other earthly pleasure because really it was God’s love through Solomon, the “Very Flame of the LORD” Song 8:6 that tasted so good, it was more delightful than wine. Song 1:2.  Other’s rightly rejoice and delight in Solomon for who he is and what he has done.

Advice: Do other’s rightly rejoice in who the husband is and what he has done?  Do the friends of the two of you approve of each others character? Is their Christian character approved of by other believers/friends/pastors?   In a biblical marriage both should have “the very flame of the LORD” in them. Song 8:6.  Meaning that both are walking in obedience.  It is advised as well to not date anyone in Church discipline because they are continuing in sin and may not be truly a Christian.  Matthew 18:15-20

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Song of Solomon 1:5-6

[a]I am black but lovely,
O daughters of Jerusalem,
Like the tents of Kedar,
Like the curtains of Solomon.
“Do not stare at me because I am swarthy,
For the sun has burned me.
My mother’s sons were angry with me;
They made me caretaker of the vineyards,
But I have not taken care of my own vineyard.

4.  Verse: Song 1:5-6 “Dark am I, yet lovely”  “My own vineyard I have neglected.”

Explanation:  The sunburnt bride tells her testimony to the daughters of Jerusalem.  She admits her sunburn and that she was an enemy of God (compare 1 Kings 9:20-23 with 2 Chronicles 8:8 and her working outside and being in slavery was because she was being treated like a prostitute outside a covenant relationship with God. Song of Songs 1:6-7

While she was an enemy to the kingdom of God and His king, the Shulamite gets born again. Compare Song 8:6 love is “the very Flame of the Lord” with her already experiencing God’s love the very flame of the Lord through Solomon.

Advice: Do they have a solid testimony?  The point her is that she gives an honest accurate testimony.

The bride to be regretfully recounts her past sinful life as an enemy of God in slavery by her mother’s sons who took no delight in her to the one she loves.  They hated her and were angry with her and made her take care of the vineyards.  She worked outside and got sunburnt.  Having a sunburn carried a certain stigma with it.  Not only that she was of a lower class but that she was an enemy to the kingdom of God and him who sat on the throne in Jerusalem.  Now while having that sunburn, I assume she heard about the coming messiah and put her faith in Him to save her from her sins.  Then wants to marry the king  Song 1:2-4.  She is a new born believer, looking like an enemy of God with a sunburn to tell the whole story of a past sinful life.  But now she is changed, she has a new heart Ez. 36:26, Song 8:6.  She runs into the daughters of Jerusalem and they see her sunburn and she says “Dark am I, yet lovely”  yes I was an enemy and I am sunburnt and dark, yet I am lovely also.  Sunburnt meant you were evil, like someone continuing in sin, like prostitutes Song 1:7.   Though they have every right to judge her by outward appearance only, she cries out “Do not stare at me because I am dark/sunburnt darkened by the sun”..

5.  Verse: SS 1:6,8 “Do not stare at me…”

 

Explanation:  Here is the main principle of Love.  It desires the strictest union with the object of it’s affection.  In context they are only courting so the word love in the first 3 chapters is one of a brother, sister, friendship love with a desire for a closer love relationship, Lord willing.  Provided he doesn’t “stare” at her because of any past or current sins.  Obviously two can’t become more one easily if someone’s always judging the other based on their “sunburn”.   Her sunburn is the effect of a past sinful life of neglecting her vineyard/God given duties so she was enslaved and needed redemption before the “very Flame of God” united her to king Solomon, the lesser Christ, but the greatest reflection of Christ so far.

Advice: Do not stare at each others sins, past or present. If either one judges the whole person based on the some sins that are in the others persons life, then there will be no moving forward!! This is key because many people see a person on one date and come to a conclusion as to who the person is. Don’t jump to conclusions.  Well, if they have been around church for a while and others know them, use all the info to come to a better conclusion for the good or bad!  “Stare” at the new creation, not the old one popping up here and there!  Now if they are continuing in sin without godly sorrow, repentance and faith in Jesus Christ then pause, pray, get help.  But do not move forward if either one is staring at the other judgmentally. Deeper intimacy in the courtship will not happen if there is not forgiveness in the hearts of both.

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Song of Solomon 1:7-8

“Tell me, O you whom my soul loves,
Where do you pasture your flock,
Where do you make it lie down at noon?
For why should I be like one who veils herself
Beside the flocks of your companions?”

Solomon, the Lover, Speaks

“If you yourself do not know,
Most beautiful among women,
Go forth on the trail of the flock
And pasture your young goats
By the tents of the shepherds.

6.A  Verse 1:7  Closer intimacy must always be wanted by both in order for a blossoming relationship.

Closer intimacy must always be wanted by both and at the right pace in order for a blossoming courtship.  All throughout the first 3 chapters this principle is at work in an unstoppable manner due to the ver “flame of the LORD” Song 8:6 being in both of them.

Yes, she feels as if Solomon may reject her because she is a descendant of David’s enemies and was an enemy outside the flocks of his friends in Song 1:6. But Despite fears of rejection she still pursued or drew near the one she loved because his name was like perfume poured out Song 1:3. She asks where could she find him and how could she get closer to him in Song 1:7.  He lets her know that he could be found in 1:8  She follows his instruction and they meet in 1:9 with him praising her noble character.

Notice that Solomon does not push her away or stare at her sunburn which was a result of her sinful past.  He overlooked her baggage and unredeemed flesh and tells her to follow the tracks of the sheep and rest under shepherd tents.  He told her how to get near him so she could be near to the one she loves.  Where do you graze your flock and rest your sheep at mid day?

6. B  Some more advice

She wants to be near him in 1:7 then he tells her how to get near!  Song 1:8

 

7. Verse:  SS 1:8

Explanation:  King Solomon was also a shepherd of sheep also Ecclesiastes 2:7.  But notice who he is shepherding?  It is the Shulamite, Solomon is giving her advice in Song 1:8 and then compliments her for following it in Song 1:9.  They have their roles down even in courtship.   The husband shepherds the heart of his wife to be.  How are you shepherding skills?  She wants to be near him and find rest Song 1:7.  He tells how to be near him 1:8 and the he compliments her noble character in 1:9

The husband must have heart shepherding skills.

8.  Verse Song 1:8  Mutual desire for closer intimacy.

Explanation:    In verse 7 she cried out to her lover and wanted to be where he was.  He lets her know how to get close to him in verse 8.  She is to 2 things and find rest thereby.  First she is to “follow” the tracks of the sheep and “find rest” by the shepherd tents. She clearly wants to be near the one she has affections for.  In the course of the courtship people will help out to get the two of you closer. Friends, family, parents, older brother, another brother or sister in the Lord, pastors etc.  Here the woman asks her shepherd king lover how to get close to him in verse 7.  He tells her how in verse 8, she speedily obeys, he compliments her noble character in verse 9, says she is beautiful in verse 10 and promises to make her more beautiful in verse 11.

Mutual meaning that in Song 1:7 she asks the one she love.  She loves him, the one she asks the question to.  The one she loves answers back most delightfully and with compliments.  “If you do not know most beautiful of women”.  Now I suppose there is a right time to compliment her beauty and a right manner.

Not distant and insincere but as close and intimate as a brother and sister in Christ could get.  Iron sharpening iron etc.  Song 1:8

So here in verse 7 she wants to be closer and in verse 8 he tells her how to get closer.  Spending more time together, near one another was a mutual delight in this blossoming relationship.

Advice:  If one person doesn’t want closer intimacy then there is no blossoming courtship. Whatever is causing one of the two or both to not want to work together making it possible to be near one another then this evil fox must be caught.

 

9.  “To me, my darling, you are like
My mare among the chariots of Pharaoh.”  Verse SS 1:9 

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Explanation:  Verses 9-11 go together.  Solomon is complimenting his bride to be’s fearless and swift pursuit of him like a mare in battle.  It was noteworthy, praiseworthy and the most beautiful thing about her.  And then everyone involved in adorning the bride with more beauty promises to make her more beautiful in Song 1:11

Here Solomon compliments the bride to be.  She is fearless and swift in her pursuit of a closer more intimate relationship with Solomon because his name was like perfume poured out and since he was the greatest type of Christ living the experiencing his love would be more delightful than wine.  Song 1:2-4

A woman ought not to fear drawing near to a Godly man who character is known to be Christlike.

Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.

If you read them apart our out of the context of 1:4 to 1:11.  First she had experienced Solomon’s love and want more and more of it. She doesn’t want to waist time getting closer in 1:4, she gets over her fears and asks the one her heart burns for how to get near him in 1:7, he tells her how in 1:8, its like they are having a conversation that ends with him telling the one he loves to “Follow” and “find rest”, so she does.  Solomon then compliments her character as she obeyed his voice and “followed the sheep” and found “rest” near him the one she loves in Song 1:9.   Solomon uses an illustration of a horse in battle for her king.  Both the outer appearance and inner heart attitudes are being praised here, for what good is a timid horse in battle.  She is fearless.  What good is a slow weak horse in battle?  What he see’s as praiseworthy is her swift powerful words and actions that were consisting with what God would want her to do.  God would want her to listen to her shepherd.

Understanding the king of peace to be gracious and loving, he/He would overlook her sin and not reject her.  Even though she still had a sunburn which gave all who saw her the impression that she was an enemy of God.  Solomon does not treat her like a prostitute continuing in sin and worthy of rejection Song 1:7, this is Love and Grace that can’t be bought, and , she is fearless in her pursuit to get near to Solomon so she follows the tracks of the sheep and rests her young goats by the tents of the godly shepherds.  In so doing Solomon sees her as fearless, beautiful and swift pursuit.  They meet and he compliments her character like a good husband praising his wife.   He likens her character to a “mare harnessed to pharaoh’s chariot” (honorable position, fearless in battle, beautiful, swift, valuable, best of the best, persistent)  Solomon is praising her noble character in accord with Proverbs 31:28-29. Knowledge of Solomon’s love (1:2) cast’s out all fear of being despised (Song 1:7).  Really, this is God’s love in Solomon that she see’s and wants to experience over and over again.

Advice:  If both parties have the Love of God in them then there should be no fear of being rejected because of current or past sins because anyone having the love of God in them will be forgiving and gracious.  Forgiveness is a big one in marriage, you will be sinning against one another time and time again yet less and less often as time goes on and you become more one with God and each other.  Do both of you have a forgiving character?

10. Verse Song 1:10

He says “Your cheeks are lovely with ornaments, Your neck with strings of beads.”

Her cheeks are lovely.  Her cheeks are beautiful and so is her neck.  Both are beautiful with their precious adornments.  Attraction.  Her beauty and adornments captivate his eye.

Is there an attraction?  Her cheeks and neck are beautiful with earrings.  This is like a statement at dinner when she got ready for the first date and she is beautiful and the suitor compliments her.   A nice gesture to let her know what he thinks of her.  Not that her external beauty is the only thing a man looks at, for character is #1, which he compliment in the previous verse, but there has to be an attraction.   In 1:9 it was her character and in 1:10 it is her external beauty as well.  She is altogether beautiful both inside and out.

 

In a spiritual sense

Explanation:   He says “Your cheeks are lovely with ornaments, Your neck with strings of beads.”   If you compare Song 1:10-11 with Prov. 1:9  and Prov. 6:20-21; 7:3; you will see that what Solomon is saying about her beauty is that her listening to and obeying the commands of God which are compared to “a garland to grace you head and a chain to adorn you neck.” Also, in context the “Jewel” that makes her beautiful in Song 4:9 is the one glance his direction when Solomon wanted her to listen to him.  Not only did she listen but lovingly obey.  She asked a question in 1:7 he gave instruction in 1:8 and she listened and obeyed and that made her precious in his sight.  This is what steals his heart away.  This one act of obedience is one of the many acts of obedience on her necklace. And it is what God wants her to do, God would want her to listen to her husband.

In between wanting to be near Solomon and following the tracks of the sheep and resting her young goats by the tents of the shepherds she “wrote the commands of God on her heart and bound love and faithfulness around her neck”  so Solomon says these are like Jewels making her morally beautiful and lovely!

Advice:  To the man, are you seeing and complimenting her use of the word of God in her life?  To the woman, is he complimenting your Christian character?  Some guys may be slow to this, but if they read the Song and know their role then they should start doing this.  Maybe not as beautifully as Solomon did, remember he was the wisest man who ever lived, but he should be getting better at this.  This will encourage you to gather more jewels of virtue thus adorning your heart with a most excellent beauty!

11. Verse  Song 1:11 “Your morally beautiful, we will make you more beautiful”

Explanation:  If the suitor has the flame of God in him and is wise like Solomon he can promise to make her more beautiful more holy!! Song 1:11.  This is the role of the husband reflecting how Christ’s love sanctifies the Church.  Eph. 5:25-32  The greatest degree of holiness is where the bride will be the happiest, therefore the husband does all he can to help her grow closer to God.  And here Solomon promises to make her more precious, valuable and beautiful to him by sanctifying her by the Word of God.  Notice also the “We”  All who are involved with her beatification promise to make her more beautiful, holy, to make her more morally beautiful!!  One of the main roles of a husband in marriage is to sanctify his wife and present her blameless before Christ Eph. 5.  Here, Solomon has just complimented her inner beauty and now basically says “I will make you more beautiful” more and better Jewels he will make for her good and God’s glory.  What confidence not arrogance.  The suitor should have the skills to help the bride to be grow in her relationship with God.  Not only should he have the skills but it should be his greatest delight to do this through his selfless sacrificial love and words that are sweeter than honey.  This iron sharpening iron should be somewhat happening in the courting phase.

Advice:  To the woman, if you are morally beautiful and he is helping you become more beautiful then he will be a good spiritual leader in the family.  But if this is absent in courtship then it will surely be absent in marriage.  Also, if your courting is limited due to your parents choosing then it is advised to see if there has been someone else he has been discipling.  Another man perhaps.  If the one he has be discipling has benefited from his guidance then that is a good sign. Eph. 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.”

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12.  Verse Song 1:12-14

Explanation:  After getting a taste of who he is and what kind of person, do you see him as valuable, precious and close to your heart?  After Solomon’s compliments she is being wooed closer.  She feels him to be precious and valuable to her “myrrh”.  His word of encouragement and promisee to make her more beautiful make her feel him to be most valuable and precious to her, because she wants to be holy.   His words are beautiful and refreshing to her soul like seeing gorgeous flowers in the dessert. He is speaking directly to her heart thus he is as one resting close to her heart/bosom.  You have to remember she was an enemy in forced labor (1 Kings 9:20-21 with Song 1:6) and now she is seated at his table!

Advice:  To the woman,  Do you see his spiritual leadership as precious and valuable to you? and is he the kind of man that can make you more morally beautiful and keep his promises in better or worse times til death do you part?

13. Song 1:15-16 “Doves eyes”

Explanation: She has doves eyes and so does he Song 5:12.  Doves don’t have peripheral vision. They only look straight ahead.  They also are the symbol for love.  They also only have one mate for life.  Her eyes are focused only on Solomon.  He is the perfect husband, king of kings, infinitely wise and loving.  What girl would take her focus off a man like that?  Now even though we don’t have infinite wisdom, but he should be the only one she has eyes for.

Advice:  Only have eyes for the one you love.  Have doves eyes.  If your mind and eyes are on other women or men then this is a fox that needs to be caught.

Also note that she compliments his looks and character.   Handsome and charming!! Verse 16.  Put on the charm in courtship but not so heavy when in the “getting to know you” phase.  When and how much you should do depends on timing, degree of intimacy in conversation.  His words should be edifying and can be sweet to some degree in courtship but the husband ought to lay it on more after engagement and then in marriage it just gets sweeter and sweeter til she thinks his lips are “sweetness itself” after marriage in Song 5:16

14.  Song 1:17 “The beams of our house are cedars..”

Can he provide a firm stable home?  Financially, is he able to stay out of debt or is he climbing out of debt but still able to provide?  “our house”  Their dwelling place was luxurious, valuable, most desirable for its purpose “cedars”.   The best foundation.  Their mutual “our” dwelling place or places are cedars.   Their physical dwelling place had certain characteristics about it that are similar to our spiritual dwelling place.  The two can still work and make a living.   Can you live together without going further into debt?  Courtship may be a time for figuring out that between the two of them both him and her can they stay out of debt.  Oh, no debt but the debt of love.  If the woman continues spending money and going into further credit card debt before marriage what will they do in marriage.

Solomon during courtship is letting His bride know that she will be safe and well protected and provided for, for their dwelling place was cedars and their rafters were furs. By statement of fact.  I take this statement and Song 2:15 to be mutual.  Meaning that in Song 1:17 the context is “our”.  Our house.  In his chambers.  The majestic cedars were the foundation of their house.  i believe the scene is where lets say after their first conversation, he takes her into his chambers and points out the glory, majesty and beauty of it.  “The beams of our house are cedars our rafters are firs.”

For the covering of their dwelling place is firs.  Animal skins used for a reminder that the Wrath of God was averted and their sin atoned for to all who believed these to be types of the messiah.  Adam and Eve were saved from their worthless works by a substitute that God provided who dies in their place in order to be properly clothed in the righteousness that comes from God by faith.  God promised to send someone who would destroy Satan and crush his head.  It sure would look like Solomon was the messiah because of the peace that he brought among the nations would give indication that Satan was being destroyed at a descent rate as God’s Kingdom rule through Solomon spread to all nations.

Fellowship or communion with God through Christ.  She had faith in the coming messiah and so did Solomon. How do we know they both had faith.  Faith like Abraham who God said a truth, or a promise or likewise and the hearer believed God.  At this point they are credited “righteousness” by God Gen. 15:6. They also both shared the “Love of the LORD”  the “Flame of the LORD”  In them.  Which meant both a knowledge of God and love to him was what was in the heart of Solomon and his bride.  Song 8:6  “Our house”  What was on his mind?  What was on her mind?  Particularly their idea of God.  The oneness of their minds depends on “Doctrine” in the mind.

Love God with all your mind.  In order for the dwelling places of their minds to be on the same page.  Particularly Doctrines of God and what it all means to be in a Covenant relationship with Him and a right Biblical view of marriage.  All of these are intellectual information, which alone can’t save.  But where true Knowledge of God and Love to Him exist in the heart,  Higher truer ideas,  The Glory of God in the face of Christ upon the heart as we behold His Beauty.

Love with the heart is to love God with religious emotions.  Holy Emotions.  Holy Feelings that match the holy thought.  Humility of mind,  Right ideas of God, our relationship to Him and a proper heart response.  Our thought of God, or our idea of God and His idea of Himself must be the same.  What God thinks of Himself and what we think of Him must be the same.  We are commanded to have a right idea of God. They never will be exactly the same because God’s idea of Himself is infinite therefore our idea of Him will forever grow closer but never reaching the fullest most perfect infinite knowledge of God.

15.  Song 2:3

Explanation:  He is a tree, strong, mature and able to provide comfort in times of much needed shade.

Advice:  Does she enjoy his leadership and protection? and is she comfortable in his shade because he can provide and his words sanctify her and are sweet to your taste? God would want the man to enjoy leading the wife and the wife enjoy following. In 2:3 she delights to sit in his shade, this will only get better in marriage. But if sitting in his shade is not delightful and comfortable then don’t move forward until it is!  If this is going on now as brother and sister, iron sharpening iron, then it will surely happen much more in marriage and wouldn’t you want more of that?  You have to have whats going on in chapters 1-2 in order for the beauty of chapters 4-8 to happen!

16. Song 2:4

Explanation:  By now she is wanting Solomon to take her to the banquet hall and announce his love to her like a banner over her. Similar to an engagement party.  He does and it is all to much for her and she faints and falls into his arms!

Advice:  The point here is that she wants him to express his love to her more and more.  She is wanting closer intimacy.  There may be a point in the relationship where one or both do not want closer intimacy either physically or spiritually.  “Foxes”, Song 2:14,  may be ruining this courtship from blossoming and moving forward. Obviously if either party is not wanting closer intimacy for any reason then more of a separation will happen and not stricter union.

17. SS 2:7  “Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires”

Explanation:  Love is a beautiful thing in the proper timing and contexts.  A father loves his son.  A friend loves a friend.  A Christian brother loves a Christian sister.  Love not sinful lust.  Within love is a desire for the happiness of the object of your affection. The man loves the woman.  The Christian man ought to put her greatest holy happiness first, which should be holiness and love to God in purity of body and mind until marriage.  She was created to glorify and enjoy God forever by loving Him and enjoying obedience to Him.  His commands are not burdensome.  Which includes keeping your desires for one another Biblical.  I chose this video because the male keeps making advances but she is never ready yet.  In the Song 2:10ff, Solomon advanced and she retreats, but they work it out.

Advice:  Are you setting physical boundaries? Would holding hands cause either person to lust in their mind?  Would certain clothing cause lust.  Staying up late alone? Would certain flirtatious words or looks cause the other to lust?  Sinful lust in the heart is adultery of the mind. Mat. 5:28.  Don’t go to far to fast physically and emotionally!! Are the friends helping out with this through prayer and accountability?  No sex before marriage.  Each one should be striving to make sure that no one does anything to stir up lust before the proper time.  “By the gazelles and does of the field.” This is beautiful!  The buck follows the doe until she is ready.  The buck does not arouse her affections for mating but waits til the proper time, which in nature is when God has preplanned it and no sooner!  When the time is right and the doe is ready, it’s a rule of nature by God’s design for a beautiful marriage.

Guard your heart from lustful thinking and also all your hopes of future marriage must be Lord willing and not be expected or felt you deserve it or have earned it by doing good.  Your thinking of the future needs to always be with a Lord willing attitude. James 4:13  “Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” 14 Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.”  Taking a future, non real thought and acting/feeling as if it has happened is coveting.  Your love is then awakened before the proper time and now it is sinful.  Taking something to be your own wether real or imaginary is not consistent with truth, but fanciful imaginations.  Are you a prophet?  Of course not so don’t think or say “We will, we will do this, we are going to do that, “spend a year there” “make money” etc.

18. SS 2:10-13 “The Proposal”

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Explanation:  “The proposal”

Doves not only coo but they do not have peripheral vision.  Their eyes are straight forward on the one they love.  Do you have eyes only for her and her for you?  Doves have only one partner.

“Flowers appear on the earth”  this is a reference back to “Lily” Song  2:1 and “blossoming” of Song 2:15 meaning that she is beautiful, morally excellent and growing in spiritual maturity, beautiful flowers are appearing.  Morally beautiful things are happening, a godly relationship is blossoming in all kinds of ways like flowers appearing on the earth.

Sadly she goes into hiding because she has issues, “foxes” is the metaphor used to describe anything wether sinful or not that holds the relationship back from God’s intended purpose. There are foxes that she can’t catch, but soon they work it out together, because Solomon loved to hear her voice and see her face. So she communicates her feelings to him and they agree together to catch the foxes.  This is where communication, patience, love, working things out together etc. is tested, so it looks like wisdom to at least have one good fight to see how each person deals with conflict before the engagement of 2:16

Advice:  Here Solomon waits for the proper timing.  “The season of singing”, not fighting. “The cooing of doves” Solomon and the slave girl are cooing (video), batting of eyes, sweet glances, sweet words or text messages, all caught up in each other, skipping/stotting (video).  Imagine Solomon like this going to proposes to a woman who’s parents were enemies of his father David. 1 Kings 9:20-21

Doves not only coo but they do not have peripheral vision.  Their eyes are straight forward on the one they love.  Do you have eyes only for her and her for you?  Doves have only one partner.

“Flowers appear on the earth”  this is a reference back to “Lily” Song  2:1 and “blossoming” of Song 2:15 meaning that she is beautiful, morally excellent and growing in spiritual maturity, beautiful flowers are appearing.  Morally beautiful things are happening, a godly relationship is blossoming in all kinds of ways like flowers appearing on the earth.

19. Song of Songs 2:14-15 “Open Productive Sincere Communication”

Are the secrets out in the open that may affect the relationship? In the song she is hiding and not opening her heart to Solomon then she opens up! This opening up helps the courtship to blossom, the things that are keeping the relationship from blossoming are called foxes. Are you working these out together “”catch for us”, thus destroying the foxes! A fox is anything that is keeping the courtship from moving forward like sinful past, insecurities now, cultural differences, fears etc. Are you both able to solve conflict in a biblical manner? and in a way that each of you grow closer to God and each other?

20.  Song of Songs 2:15

Explanation: God would want each of you to be destroying the foxes that are ruining our relationship with God and also the foxes that may be ruining the courtship! In 2:15 there’s two vineyards that are being ruined by the foxes. The courtship may not be blossoming because either one may not be having a blossoming relationship with God!!  Grow closer to God and you grow closer to each other and the courtship will blossom. Which brings us back to 1:2-4. She is desiring a closer and closer intimate relationship with a godly man, Solomon. If either person is not feeling like becoming more and more intimate with each other in God/s timing of course, then by all means either wait or end it, because things are going to get far more intimate in marriage!

I wouldn’t say this was a fight, but there were some issue on her part and they worked it out.  Are you able to work your issues out biblically where both of you grow closer to God and each other?  It may be nice to have waited till you have had some disagreements to see how you are able to resolve these, you will have much more of them in marriage.

Advice:  Are you working together and desiring for all the foxes to be caught? so as to have the closest most intimate relationship blossoming both physically and spiritually with the one you love?

If Yes, then move to 2:16   “My beloved is mine, and I am his”  Solomon is hers and she reciprocates.

1 SS 2:16 Yeah!!!!! Praise the Lord they are engaged!!!

 

After the

21.  Verse 3:1-4  “Nightmare turned dream come true or not, its up to you!”

Advice:  Now make sure you keep doing all the above or the nightmare will happen, you will lose the one your heart loves!!

Explanation:  The enemy, slave girl, was in hard forced labor with no chance of Redemption ( “to this day” 1 kings 9:2o-21) other than the Kings kiss of friendship is now engaged to her dream king of kings, redeemer, friend, lover, wisest shepherd of her heart of a husband and now she has a nightmare that she has lost him.  She lost him because she noticed him gone one night and didn’t do anything about it, “night after night”  Almost all to late she goes about everywhere trying to find him whom her heart loves….Song 3:1-4

All night long on my bed
    I looked for the one my heart loves;
    I looked for him but did not find him.
I will get up now and go about the city,
    through its streets and squares;
I will search for the one my heart loves.
    So I looked for him but did not find him.
The watchmen found me
    as they made their rounds in the city.
    “Have you seen the one my heart loves?”
Scarcely had I passed them
    when I found the one my heart loves.
I held him and would not let him go
    till I had brought him to my mother’s house,
    to the room of the one who conceived me.”

In the nightmare she gets tempted to believe that her beloved is gone, perhaps she forgot His promise of 1:11, or doubted his love (she was an enemy before Song 1:6, ), or doubted his faithfulness.  It was true he was hers.  She got her prayer request partially answered, in promise to marry, she had given herself to him as well.  Pride may have set in because she was an enemy now exalted to the highest table with the king of kings, with knowledge and wisdom beyond measure as her husband.  To fast, to high of a quick exaltations will be the perfect recipe for spiritual pride, to think you are something when you are not.  She was an enemy apart from Solomon’s kiss.  She was  Pride would stop her “Let us hurry”  attitude of 1:4 and slow it down to a pause and rest in her pursuit because of the promise that her dreams will come true, no more pain, no more sorrow, no more hard labor, finally rest and satisfaction.

She goes to the watchmen, maybe because she thought an enemy had taken her lover away from her.  If Solomon was not where she thought he would be in the night.  If peace is not in your heart in the night, then you will think you have lost the one your heart loves.  No peace, joy or happiness  hmmm if gone then so must he be gone.. oh, what a dreadful lie, you can’t have emotions in a made up story in your head, it’s not true.  The truth is Solomon promised and he was a man of his word, plus he had every resource imaginable to keep it, both physically and morally due to his unmeasurable wisdom.  ( I take this as Solomon’s first wife and he sanctifies her before he sins with his harem and worships other God’s later in his life

In the nightmare she finds him after she passes the watchman it’s their job to look over Jerusalem, protect it from enemies and take care of the people. And you wake up and it would have all been a dream, he was there all along, you just had a nightmare.

 

Other Notes

  1. Godly couples that are dating will find the Song to be very encouraging because they would be applying principles of courtship from the wisest man who ever courted a woman.

  2. Solomon is the example for courtship and marriage.  Solomon was gifted with perfect wisdom so Solomon does nothing wrong in the relationship so the man courting the woman does not have to be perfect like Solomon but he should be striving and growing in wisdom like Solomon.

  3.  They don’t meet til 1:8.  She gave her testimony of her past as a slave girl needing redemption Song 1:6 and only knows of Solomon by way of her being in his kingdom.  If you could possibly approve the character of each before the first date.  This is not an absolute but wise if possible.  I believe getting character approval before you meet to be best, but not necessary.  There is no order to the process (except for cultural and/or customs).

  4. If you were to go through all of this I am more than sure that you will be confident that the person you are with is the right one that God wants for you. And conversely, if something is not right then put a caution flag on some things and if you can’t catch the foxes then either end it or don’t get engaged yet.

 

If all is going on then get married if not then wait, pray and fast and God will make it clear what to do and if you are growing closer to Him then your prayers one way or another will be answered!!

Much more could be said about dating from other verses in the Bible also, but I wanted you to at least get the gist of what the Song says about Biblical Courtship.  Stay posted and I should have more later.  God Bless!!

Let me know your Biblical dating experience HERE

 

 

 

 

Getting to know you phase

Before courtship is the getting to know you phase.  Either at church, outings or spending time together in an appropriate setting to see if you would like to pursue marriage.  Pursuing marriage is like courtship.  The only reason you are together is because both would want to keep spending time together and the reason or motive is that each person has been brought to the point were it is mutual that

Age

Where they grew up.

When dating were they on time?  This helps with faithfulness.

Can they keep a job?

What they do for a living?  How long?

Mother or Father.   Are you like them in any way?

Are they culture differences or customs?

Are they a member of a church?

Where they married before?

Do you both have theological views that are the same as Scripture especially in regards to the Character of God, Salvation, sanctification and marriage?

Favorite verses and why?

Like and dislikes in regard to food, restaurants, places, cities, countries, churches.

What they like to do in spare time?

What would they do with a billion dollars?

What are you most thankful for?

If your house was on fire and there was one thing you could take out, what would it be.

 

 

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Saved in 2000 at age 27. Nearly immediately I fell in love with the Song and grew very fast the first two years memorizing large portions of scripture purifying my mind the started chewing on meat to soon and struggled for 12 years and Christ has me on track like always but I just took the long way around and now I love leading others closer to Christ by seeing His love reflected in Solomons love for an enemy slave girl.

I have experienced God's love to me in the Song in ways that words can't express. There are many portion of the Word where she experiences extra ordinary outpouring of the Holy Spirit of God. If you have a burning desire for a close intimate relationship with God by experiencing His Love to you over and over again at greater and greater heights, depths, lengths and breaths then The Song of Songs is where you need to be.

I can help you with this process of Growing in the experience of God's love. As of 7-23-16 I have experienced everything prior to chapter 8. The Song of Song is progressive in experience. Meaning that if you are mature then you can experience the joys and extraordinary outpourings of God's Love shed abroad in your heart.

If you are not so mature then the delights in the first chapter of the Song will satisfy your thirst for experiencing the Love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Many Christian are living in sin because they do not know how to experience God's love and get hooked on Loving Him. It feels good to be loved and to love Him. His burden is not heavy and His yoke is light, Jesus said in Matt. 10:28

I believe God wants to use me to help beautify His Bride through the Song of Solomon.

If you see the book literally you will not understand nor grasp the Love God has for you. If you see the book and the verses in it relating to Christ's love to you then I would love to show you how to experience this Love to the fullest. I will pray for you daily and guide you every step of the way.

16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.

20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.

I grew up going to church but was a hypocrite. I lived my life how I chose but went to church on Sunday because my family went.

Mom and Dad divorced when I was about 5.

About this time I was sexually abused by "Bob" a made up name. This incident changed my life for the worst. I had no clue how to deal with it.

As I got older I grew in my hatred for Bob. I didn't blame anyone of my family because I was to young to know any better. Some of what happened during the abuse was in a bathroom. So overtime I would use the bathroom and look at my private parts that night would replay in my mind. My hatred for Bob would continue to grow each time.

Now I know this only happened to me one night. I can't image the pain other's go through who have had this happen to them over and over. Even as I write this now I cry with many tears for those hurting. God love you even though you may not know it or feel it. Go to Him in your time of need.

I was a really bad teenager. I only cared about myself and not even my family. I always came first in my mind. Even at the expense of hurting others. I was growing in my hatred for God by now.

I was going to church and was learned that God was in control. I thought well, if God was in control then He must have let me be sexually abused. I didn't understand this, How could a good and loving God allow this. I hated Him for it. My hatred for Bob grew as well. I was still using the bathroom and memories kept coming back. My heart grew even harder for Bob and God. As far as I was concerned God would have nothing to do with my life so I lived even worse. I thought I would be in jail or dead and I really didn't care, I thought it could be much worse than reliving your painful past over and over again. Little did I know that God's plan later would be to use these events to give me a burning passion for the closest most intimate love relationship with Himself through Christ mainly through the love poem in the Song of Songs in the Bible.

I remember hating Bob so much that the only thing that would relieve my pain was actually thinking he would suffer forever for what he did. I grew so much in my hatred for him that I had to continue to think that he would get even worse than what I imaged before. After some time I would only be relieved of hatred for him unless I thought he would burn in a hotter and hotter hell for all the suffering he put me through.

I never told my mom or family what happened, although I think some of them knew something had happened.

I grew up quite rebellious and even went to jail at the age of 20. I was living the fast life pursuing all my sinful desires and wanting more. It never seemed to be enough. I was quite happy in my sin but I just wanted more of it.

I lived life thinking I would die at a young age, riding motorcycle and living on the edge put me in the hospital many times and I should have been dead.

California at age 26.

I moved to California for a job opportunity at the age of 27. While trying to figure out what radio stations to program in my car, I ran across a RC Sproul talking about "people who have the faith that saves and people who only say that have faith" only the people who have the faith that saves will go to heaven. I thought "I don't think I have the faith that saves because my life was so bad." I searched the scriptures to try to get this faith. I found a church and thought people there could help me get this faith that saves. All along God kept showing me how sinful I was and that I deserved punishment from Him for living my life hating Him.

One weekend I read Matthew, Mark, Luke and John desperately trying to find out how to get this faith that saves. By now I knew that if you had the faith that saves that Jesus would be saving you from a life of sin. I still liked my sin and Jesus sure wasn't saving me from a life of sin, so I rightly concluded that I didn't have the faith that saves.

By the time I got to John, I saw "believe" everywhere. John 3:16 and other verses and wow the whole book was written so that you may believe. John 20:31 "these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in his name." So at night I would pray "I believe Jesus died for me, I believe, I believe. This was just an intellectual belief. I knew that in history and the Bible that Jesus died for everyone, so I believed it. But this belief did not change my life.

I would go on night after night saying the same prayer only to wake up the next day wanting to fulfill my sinful desires. The prayer wasn't working so I started to word it different each time hoping some prayer would work. After about 2 weeks of this I was fed up with it all, nothing was happening. I still was living in my sin and wanted more of it. A Christian hates their sin and does something about it, and certainly they don't continue to make plans to sin. The prayers weren't working so I gave up. I thought to myself "God, I tried with all my might, I searched the Scriptures, went to church, read the Bible and prayed all to no avail. If Im going to be saved your going to have to do it because I tried."

So I quit praying but still the Bible kept calling me so I read more. 3 Days later I was laying in a tanning bed and God convicted me really hard that I had offended Him by the life I was living. I was so scared of God, where could I run. You can't hide from God. It seemed like forever that I was under these terrors of being punished by a Holy Angry God. This lasted about 10 minutes then this is how I understood it. God let me understand that all that anger that He had for me for all my sin should come my way but He had poured that anger out on Jesus 2,000 years ago. I immediately started weeping an couldn't stop for about 20 minutes. All the sins that I could think of I confessed for that 20 minutes one after another after another, I was so sorrowful and grieved it physically hurt inside.

After I stopped crying I thought that was the weirdest thing that ever happened. I walked out of the tanning salon and stood outside and everything seemed so beautiful, the tree's, the birds, even the air seemed pleasant. Now I was really wondering what was going on.

I pondered all of this as I drove to work that day. I brought my Bible to work and was thinking what am I doing, I want to take my Bible to work so I can read it. As soon as I got to work I started reading my Bible. I couldn't believe what I was reading!! It all was so wonderful. It felt so good to just read my Bible. My client showed up and as I was training them the only thing I could think about was getting back to my Bible. I read all night and slept about 2 hours and was reading again.

I had sinful things in my apartment and I rounded everything evil up and threw it in the garbage. It was weird I was thinking but it felt good so I left it all in the garbage. I called my girlfriend to break it up and she thought I had another girl, I said no, I just think this is wrong we shouldn't be sleeping together. She didn't understand so I told her I was a Christian now and she still thought I had another girlfriend. She said "Im glad your a Christian, so am I" I thought to myself, "I have a strong conviction that sleeping together is wrong and she thought it was okay" I wondered how she could think that. Anyway we broke up.

I kept reading my bible and repenting, there was so much to repent of and I had lived a very sinful life. I was a thief for some part of my life and all the people I stole from kept coming to mind. I owed so much money. I was instantly in debt about $80,000. As I could I paid them back. As of 7-18-2016 I still owe about $25,000 but it sure is a joy to be paying them back.

The first week of being saved a car just about ran me over, they hit me but I wasn't hurt at all. The guy in the car felt so bad. I just looked at him and said "God bless you and have a great day, I am okay" smiled at him and moved on. Now I was really wondering what was going on because I normally would have cussed him out left and right and instead of cussing I blessed him. That was so weird. But again it felt good. I learned to do good by what my conscience told me was good and that it felt good. I got hooked on this feeling good by doing good and did it more often.

About two weeks after being saved I thought of Bob. I immediately prayed for him, something like "Lord help him.." then I stopped praying and said out loud "What am I doing?" I'm praying for a man that I hated my whole life, but it feels good and right, so I did it again. I stopped again midway in the prayer and started pacing around. I was trying to make sense of what was going on and couldn't figure it out. But again it made me happy to pray for him so I did. Bob would often come to mind when I went to the bathroom and each time I would pray for Him. The more I did this the less weird it got. And the greater my love grew for him.

I started memorizing large portions of scripture and this was wonderful because it felt like the words were cleaning my mind and as Proverbs 2:10 "For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul." I wanted more and more of this pleasantness. So I memorized even more and the joy got more and more.

Then this life changing advice came:

A friend from church told me to find a book of the Bible and really understand it. Read through the Bible and pick one and read it over and over and study it and really get it. So I started in Genesis and read through. When I got to Proverbs I really liked it so I thought that would be the book. I started by memorizing all of Proverbs chapter 3. After that I thought maybe there is a better book than Proverbs. So I read on. Then I came to Song of Solomon. I read it with quite some confusion. It wasn't as good as the other books, I didn't know why. So I bought a commentary on it. George Burrowes commentary on the Song of Solomon.

In the commentary I found that George and other saw the book as illustrating God's love to the Church. And not only illustrating it but displaying the Love of Christ better than any other book. This caught my attention big time, because I was having a burning desire for a closer relationship with God and desperately learning about His Love so that I could Love God. You see I had hated Him for so long that God used that old hard heart to spur me on in loving Him. I so much did not want to hate God anymore that I was on fire to learn to Love Him as much and as fast as possible. So here was a book that would help me do that. So I landed on the Song of Solomon. I committed to learning as much of this book as possible.

I memorized the first chapter and would repeat it often throughout the day. I didn't know much of what I was repeating but it sure made me happier and on fire for God. I grew so fast repeating the first chapter over and over again all day, like a dozen times a day at least. It felt so good and I never found any other book that caused me to weep so much. I would often weep everyday just reading it. I was to immature to know what was going on. Even though it hurt to weep so much, I felt like my heart was being cleansed from the filth that was in it by repeating it over and over again so I did. As I read the commentary I understood more and more. What God was doing in me through the Song was greater and faster than any other portion of Scripture so I tended to stay there often. I was so excited about God that I thought it funny that other's in church weren't the same way. Some where happy but it seemed most of them didn't seem to care much about God. They would talk about work, football the weather. The only thing I wanted to talk about was Jesus and God and how can I grow closer to Him.

About this time there was a mission trip to Ireland.

I started to have convictions that I should try to find Bob and witness to him. I kept praying for him but how could he be saved if he hadn't heard the Gospel that has power unto salvation. So I asked family if they had any information. Like me before, my family hated him and thought he deserved hell. After some time I got his name but no location or phone number. Either they didn't know where he was or didn't want to tell me. I prayed some more and then started to get stronger convictions to do something about finding Bob.

So I went on the internet and typed in "his name and child molestation sex offender court" thinking that some court record would have some info leading to where I may find him" I even talked to a private eye and he couldn't help. So I googled some key words and spent hours each day looking through each page. I believed it was God's will for me to witness to Bob. I wanted him to be saved. Really bad. So much so that I thought God would save Bob if I were to witness to him. So I didn't stop searching for him. I kept my computer on each day and went page by page. It took two years to go through about 15,000 pages but I found someone who matched his name in a prison for molesting his grandchildren. I wrote the prison and he wrote back. All kinds of emotions went through my body when I saw his letter from the jail. I didn't open it right away but two hours later God gave me enough courage to face my fears again and I opened the letter. He admitted to being the one who molested me. We wrote back and forth I told him I was angry before but now I was saved and that I loved him and believed God wanted me to talk to him. He read my letters over and over again. I shared the gospel in each one.

I got mad at Bob 2x. Once he said that he love me. I got really angry with him. He didn't love me. That night it was hard to love Bob, I had to call a friend to pray for me to repent, after he prayed I felt greater love for Bob. Then I wrote him back saying "I'm sorry but you can't say that you loved me. You did not love me you lusted after me." He admitted he didn't love as he should have and admitted that it was lust and sinful. Finally some conviction. Yet I only thought he was saying that because I was being nice to him. All his family had left him and he said I was the only "friend" he had.

Wether or not it was true Bob said that he had cancer in his arm and that the help the prison gives was not enough and if he had money he could see a different doctor and get help. I sent him some money and since I was in jail before I knew what it was like to be in there without money, so I sent him money.

About 4-5 months in the economy went down, it was 2008. Work was hard. I still sent him money and I had to work harder. This was a really good lesson for me because I had to "work hard for the benefit of someone who did not deserve it." This was one of the greatest blessing ever because I realized with great certainty that Jesus was in me. This is what Jesus did. Jesus worked his whole life for me and I didn't deserve it!! Christ was in me! This was one of the best feelings ever and it put me in worship for months.

Then a mission trip to Croatia.

Each time I had to leave my business and amazing as it is I was completely okay each time. I am a self employed personal trainer and it is normally absurd to just leave and start over, but each time I had enough work within 2 weeks of coming back. This is a flat out miracle. I trusted God to provide and he did. How many people can start up a business in 2 weeks. Only with the help of God. God was teaching me early on in my walk that as long as I did what He wanted me to do then I had nothing to worry about.

About 3 years saved now.

I Taught the 4 year old's at church Sunday morning for 10 years.

Left my business 2x for mission trips and God miraculously provided when I came back.

I taught 5 x a week plus held a job.

Sunday morning to the kids.
Sunday night with the 5th graders
Friday afternoons at Good News Clubs. Sponsored by Child Evangelism Fellowship.
Friday Nights with the Kids teaching through Pilgrims Progress, I did this 2x
Teaching Monday afternoons at a nursing home. I taught through the Song of Songs once then John, then Romans then back to the Song again! I love the Song of Songs.
I grew up hating God for what happened to me, and now I love Him because He first loved me. My passion is for children to grow up loving God and not hating Him.

My other passion which has become ever greater is to help others see the Love of Christ to His Church in the Song of Songs!!

I would love to help you, just let me know and I will lead you and pray for you.

God demonstrates His love to us in sending His one and only Son to suffer in our place, taking our sins upon Himself so that whoever believes they get to heaven because of what He did for us will not perish but have everlasting life.

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