There is a section of the Bible where two virgins make love the night they got married. Solomon’s Song of songs 4:1-5:1.
Solomon’s song of songs is a love poem in the Bible meant to teach us what love is.
The love song describes love. Says it is powerful to cast out fear of harm and powerful to draw the two closer. Love zeal for the good and happiness of the other is more intense than the hottest fire. Love has flames. Love is from the LORD. Love is unquenchable and love is priceless.
Since love has these characteristics then lets see where we can see them on display the night the two virgins, Solomon and Naamah, made love.
To summarize. First, he lets her know how beautiful she is, her hair, eyes, temples, teeth, lips, neck and breasts. Then he sums it up with
7 “You are altogether beautiful, my darling,
And there is no blemish in you.” Solomon’s song of songs 4:7
Then he invites her to come with him from one aromatic beautiful location to one emotion high then to another and another. Some specific holy emotional highs you may have greater than ever before when you make love are: Love, joy, peace, happiness, delight, desire, satisfaction, gratitude, awe, trust and other’s I can’t think of right now.) Desiring to go with her to these emotional highs he says,
8 “Come with me from Lebanon, my bride,
May you come with me from Lebanon.
Journey down from the summit of Amana,
From the summit of Senir and Hermon,”
At the same time be careful of the dangers (lions) and evil (leopards) that can be in and leave your heart.
“From the dens of lions,
From the mountains of leopards.“
After he asked her to come with him, she responds with a glance his way. With love in her heart and a desire to go with him to various high points of pure and lovely emotional highs, she glances his way with doves’ eyes. That one glance of precious love totally ravished his heart. So, he says to her with great joy,
9 “You have made my heart beat faster, my sister, my bride;
You have made my heart beat faster with a single glance of your eyes,
With a single strand of your necklace.”
This time it’s not her external appearance that made her so beautiful to him but the love she had in her heart toward both him and the LORD that he saw in her that affected him in a way that he could not keep silent about how morally beautiful she was and how great her perfume was. I love this when he says, “how beautiful your love is” That glance of her eyes his direction was due to the feeling she had for him in her heart, and it was beautiful. not just beautiful but “How beautiful…” for he says,
10 “How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride!
How much better is your love than wine,
And the fragrance of your oils
Than all kinds of spices!“
Then it was either her sweetly talking to him or the sweetness of her kiss or both that moved him to say with great ardor of affection,
11 “Your lips, my bride, drip honey;
Honey and milk are under your tongue,
Then smelling the clothes she is wearing he says with great delight,
“And the fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon.“
Then somehow, don’t ask me how. But he knows she is a virgin and praises her for it by saying,
12 “A garden locked is my sister, my bride,
A rock garden locked, a spring sealed up.”
It is her that is a garden locked up not just one body part. Everything about her that she has for him along with various combinations are delightful and pleasing therefore, he says,
13 “Your shoots are an orchard of pomegranates
With choice fruits, henna with nard plants,
14 Nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon,
With all the trees of frankincense,
Myrrh and aloes, along with all the finest spices.
15 “You are a garden spring,
A well of fresh water,
And streams flowing from Lebanon.”
She is beyond on holy fire for him and she is also truly humble. Therefore, she asks for God’s help so that all that she has for him out of love with please every bit of him. All his body, soul, mind and emotions. So, with love to God and her husband she either says this out loud or more than likely says this to God in her mind,
16 “Awake, O north wind,
And come, wind of the south;
Make my garden breathe out fragrance,
Let its spices be wafted abroad.”
Here is the proper time for the most intimate affections to be roused. She is ready and lets us know it. He has wooed her and not forced her. She wants him and he wants her. They both will go together to various emotional high points like the mountains of Ammon, Senir and Hermon. She is ready for a greater level of intimate love and says,
“May my beloved come into his garden
And eat its choice fruits!”
After both of them drank their fill of both loving and being loved. He is beyond satisfied and says,
“I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride;
I have gathered my myrrh with my spice.
I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey;
I have drunk my wine and my milk.” Song 5:1
Then here we have both God’s command and approval of this most intimate experience of the love of God in marriage. They had drunk their fill of love and God lets them know that that is what he wanted for them as well.
“Eat, oh lovers, and drink;
drink your fill of love.” Song 5:1
This section of the Love song is descriptive of what they did. You don’t do exactly as they did. God commands to love. This is how they did. You do something similar so long as it is unconditional love, strong enough to draw you closer to your spouse, priceless and from God.
What Solomon and Naamah did is descriptive not prescriptive. Their action describes what they did but what they exactly did is not prescriptive or prescribed to us by God. Love is prescribed but what loving thing one says may be different than another. What loving thing one does may be different than another. Use wisdom and communication to figure out how to best love your spouse in the most intimate of ways.
“the scriptures are profitable for teaching, correcting, rebuking and training in righteousness.” Timothy
1 Teaching. Learn and be taught the power of love to unite and cast out fear and see it ardent zeal. That it is from God and is like a flame. Unquenchable and priceless.
2. Correct. Once you know what love is and what it looks like and are trying to love. Then correct yourself or each other along the way.
3. Rebuke If someone knows what love is and what it looks like in action and is continuing in unloving words, emotions and actions then a rebuke is necessary. Confront them “in private” for they are sinning. Warn of the consequences of continuing in sin. Call them to repentance. To confess their sins to God. To believe in Jesus Christ’s saving sacrifice for our sins.
If they don’t repent, then bring another person. If they still don’t repent, then if need be, you take the issue to the elders of the church. If they still don’t repent, then they will be considered like an unbelieving pagan or tax collector and they would no longer be a member. I know most churches don’t do this, but it is commanded in Matthew 18.
“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. 16 But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector.” Matthew 18:15-17.
4. Trained. This is once you got it down in some area then just reapeat it maybe done in a various way but repeat it. Repeat it again and again and soon your are trained in love. Learn, correct and be trained. If you learned what love is, got better at it while correcting wrong idea’s of it and correcting unloving words and actions, then stay trained in it.
This is one of many ways that Solomon’s song of songs is profitable. Mainly to learn what love is by description and seeing it in action.
This section of the love poem is meant to help us understand what love looks like in the bedroom, especially when two virgins make love for the first time.
We can see loves power to cast out any fear or anxiety she may have in the words he said to her and things he did.
We can see loves power to draw them closer in all that is said and done.
We can see loves zeal for each other’s good and happiness all over each verse!!
We can see that this kind of love comes from God for it is a virtuous love.
If from God then unquenchable.
We can see the inestimable value of the love on display making it priceless and unconditional.
“For love is strong as death and its zeal for the good and happiness of the object of its affection as intense as the fire of hell. Love has flames which are the very almighty flame of God. Many waters can’t quench love, nor can rivers overwhelm it. If someone were to give their whole household in exchange for someone to love them instead of their spouse, then the offer would be utterly scorned.” Solomon’s song of songs 8:6-7
Love is strong to cast out fear of harm?
Did either one of them do something that harmed the other?
Did they do what was for each other’s good and happiness or harm?
Would a couple that made love like this draw closer to each other?
Do you use your partner for selfishness? Does this cause a feeling of separation.
What can you say out of love that would bring the two of you closer?
What can you do out of love and affection to your spouse so that the two of your get closer?
What are some things you said or did that caused a feeling of separation? Feel sorry for that and do better next time. And better again. Get trained to do what is right and lovely.
If you find yourself lusting and being selfish then confess those sins to Jesus Christ who died for our sins. Believe he lived a perfect life and that that perfect life is credited to your account when you believe. Then after telling God your sins and believing in the life, death and resurrection of the Son of Love the stop sinning and do what is loving. Make her feel loved and not used. Let her drink her fill of love as you love her and let her not see anything selfish in you.
I firmly believe that it is good to teach this section to a young boy becoming a man and a young woman becoming a woman.
1 So that they know what God teaches about the subject of love and when it should be roused. We see the warning three time is the song for it is that important.
“Do not rouse or awaken love until it desires.” Song 2:7, 3:5, 8:4
2. For conscience’s sake. They don’t know good and evil. They need to know that they shouldn’t touch themselves. Nor have sex before marriage. God’s timing for that level of intimacy is in marriage. Chastity is a major theme throughout the poem. Out of love to God and our future spouse we stay chaste until marriage.
Please, please let me know your thoughts on this. I have no real experience in life on this for I am just a single Christian man that loves God and this poem.
Saved in 2000 at age 27. Nearly immediately I fell in love with the Song and grew very fast the first two years memorizing large portions of scripture purifying my mind the started chewing on meat to soon and struggled for 12 years and Christ has me on track like always but I just took the long way around and now I love leading others closer to Christ by seeing His love reflected in Solomons love for an enemy slave girl.
I have experienced God's love to me in the Song in ways that words can't express. There are many portion of the Word where she experiences extra ordinary outpouring of the Holy Spirit of God. If you have a burning desire for a close intimate relationship with God by experiencing His Love to you over and over again at greater and greater heights, depths, lengths and breaths then The Song of Songs is where you need to be.
I can help you with this process of Growing in the experience of God's love. As of 7-23-16 I have experienced everything prior to chapter 8. The Song of Song is progressive in experience. Meaning that if you are mature then you can experience the joys and extraordinary outpourings of God's Love shed abroad in your heart.
If you are not so mature then the delights in the first chapter of the Song will satisfy your thirst for experiencing the Love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Many Christian are living in sin because they do not know how to experience God's love and get hooked on Loving Him. It feels good to be loved and to love Him. His burden is not heavy and His yoke is light, Jesus said in Matt. 10:28
I believe God wants to use me to help beautify His Bride through the Song of Solomon.
If you see the book literally you will not understand nor grasp the Love God has for you. If you see the book and the verses in it relating to Christ's love to you then I would love to show you how to experience this Love to the fullest. I will pray for you daily and guide you every step of the way.
16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.
I grew up going to church but was a hypocrite. I lived my life how I chose but went to church on Sunday because my family went.
Mom and Dad divorced when I was about 5.
About this time I was sexually abused by "Bob" a made up name. This incident changed my life for the worst. I had no clue how to deal with it.
As I got older I grew in my hatred for Bob. I didn't blame anyone of my family because I was to young to know any better. Some of what happened during the abuse was in a bathroom. So overtime I would use the bathroom and look at my private parts that night would replay in my mind. My hatred for Bob would continue to grow each time.
Now I know this only happened to me one night. I can't image the pain other's go through who have had this happen to them over and over. Even as I write this now I cry with many tears for those hurting. God love you even though you may not know it or feel it. Go to Him in your time of need.
I was a really bad teenager. I only cared about myself and not even my family. I always came first in my mind. Even at the expense of hurting others. I was growing in my hatred for God by now.
I was going to church and was learned that God was in control. I thought well, if God was in control then He must have let me be sexually abused. I didn't understand this, How could a good and loving God allow this. I hated Him for it. My hatred for Bob grew as well. I was still using the bathroom and memories kept coming back. My heart grew even harder for Bob and God. As far as I was concerned God would have nothing to do with my life so I lived even worse. I thought I would be in jail or dead and I really didn't care, I thought it could be much worse than reliving your painful past over and over again. Little did I know that God's plan later would be to use these events to give me a burning passion for the closest most intimate love relationship with Himself through Christ mainly through the love poem in the Song of Songs in the Bible.
I remember hating Bob so much that the only thing that would relieve my pain was actually thinking he would suffer forever for what he did. I grew so much in my hatred for him that I had to continue to think that he would get even worse than what I imaged before. After some time I would only be relieved of hatred for him unless I thought he would burn in a hotter and hotter hell for all the suffering he put me through.
I never told my mom or family what happened, although I think some of them knew something had happened.
I grew up quite rebellious and even went to jail at the age of 20. I was living the fast life pursuing all my sinful desires and wanting more. It never seemed to be enough. I was quite happy in my sin but I just wanted more of it.
I lived life thinking I would die at a young age, riding motorcycle and living on the edge put me in the hospital many times and I should have been dead.
California at age 26.
I moved to California for a job opportunity at the age of 27. While trying to figure out what radio stations to program in my car, I ran across a RC Sproul talking about "people who have the faith that saves and people who only say that have faith" only the people who have the faith that saves will go to heaven. I thought "I don't think I have the faith that saves because my life was so bad." I searched the scriptures to try to get this faith. I found a church and thought people there could help me get this faith that saves. All along God kept showing me how sinful I was and that I deserved punishment from Him for living my life hating Him.
One weekend I read Matthew, Mark, Luke and John desperately trying to find out how to get this faith that saves. By now I knew that if you had the faith that saves that Jesus would be saving you from a life of sin. I still liked my sin and Jesus sure wasn't saving me from a life of sin, so I rightly concluded that I didn't have the faith that saves.
By the time I got to John, I saw "believe" everywhere. John 3:16 and other verses and wow the whole book was written so that you may believe. John 20:31 "these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in his name." So at night I would pray "I believe Jesus died for me, I believe, I believe. This was just an intellectual belief. I knew that in history and the Bible that Jesus died for everyone, so I believed it. But this belief did not change my life.
I would go on night after night saying the same prayer only to wake up the next day wanting to fulfill my sinful desires. The prayer wasn't working so I started to word it different each time hoping some prayer would work. After about 2 weeks of this I was fed up with it all, nothing was happening. I still was living in my sin and wanted more of it. A Christian hates their sin and does something about it, and certainly they don't continue to make plans to sin. The prayers weren't working so I gave up. I thought to myself "God, I tried with all my might, I searched the Scriptures, went to church, read the Bible and prayed all to no avail. If Im going to be saved your going to have to do it because I tried."
So I quit praying but still the Bible kept calling me so I read more. 3 Days later I was laying in a tanning bed and God convicted me really hard that I had offended Him by the life I was living. I was so scared of God, where could I run. You can't hide from God. It seemed like forever that I was under these terrors of being punished by a Holy Angry God. This lasted about 10 minutes then this is how I understood it. God let me understand that all that anger that He had for me for all my sin should come my way but He had poured that anger out on Jesus 2,000 years ago. I immediately started weeping an couldn't stop for about 20 minutes. All the sins that I could think of I confessed for that 20 minutes one after another after another, I was so sorrowful and grieved it physically hurt inside.
After I stopped crying I thought that was the weirdest thing that ever happened. I walked out of the tanning salon and stood outside and everything seemed so beautiful, the tree's, the birds, even the air seemed pleasant. Now I was really wondering what was going on.
I pondered all of this as I drove to work that day. I brought my Bible to work and was thinking what am I doing, I want to take my Bible to work so I can read it. As soon as I got to work I started reading my Bible. I couldn't believe what I was reading!! It all was so wonderful. It felt so good to just read my Bible. My client showed up and as I was training them the only thing I could think about was getting back to my Bible. I read all night and slept about 2 hours and was reading again.
I had sinful things in my apartment and I rounded everything evil up and threw it in the garbage. It was weird I was thinking but it felt good so I left it all in the garbage. I called my girlfriend to break it up and she thought I had another girl, I said no, I just think this is wrong we shouldn't be sleeping together. She didn't understand so I told her I was a Christian now and she still thought I had another girlfriend. She said "Im glad your a Christian, so am I" I thought to myself, "I have a strong conviction that sleeping together is wrong and she thought it was okay" I wondered how she could think that. Anyway we broke up.
I kept reading my bible and repenting, there was so much to repent of and I had lived a very sinful life. I was a thief for some part of my life and all the people I stole from kept coming to mind. I owed so much money. I was instantly in debt about $80,000. As I could I paid them back. As of 7-18-2016 I still owe about $25,000 but it sure is a joy to be paying them back.
The first week of being saved a car just about ran me over, they hit me but I wasn't hurt at all. The guy in the car felt so bad. I just looked at him and said "God bless you and have a great day, I am okay" smiled at him and moved on. Now I was really wondering what was going on because I normally would have cussed him out left and right and instead of cussing I blessed him. That was so weird. But again it felt good. I learned to do good by what my conscience told me was good and that it felt good. I got hooked on this feeling good by doing good and did it more often.
About two weeks after being saved I thought of Bob. I immediately prayed for him, something like "Lord help him.." then I stopped praying and said out loud "What am I doing?" I'm praying for a man that I hated my whole life, but it feels good and right, so I did it again. I stopped again midway in the prayer and started pacing around. I was trying to make sense of what was going on and couldn't figure it out. But again it made me happy to pray for him so I did. Bob would often come to mind when I went to the bathroom and each time I would pray for Him. The more I did this the less weird it got. And the greater my love grew for him.
I started memorizing large portions of scripture and this was wonderful because it felt like the words were cleaning my mind and as Proverbs 2:10 "For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul." I wanted more and more of this pleasantness. So I memorized even more and the joy got more and more.
Then this life changing advice came:
A friend from church told me to find a book of the Bible and really understand it. Read through the Bible and pick one and read it over and over and study it and really get it. So I started in Genesis and read through. When I got to Proverbs I really liked it so I thought that would be the book. I started by memorizing all of Proverbs chapter 3. After that I thought maybe there is a better book than Proverbs. So I read on. Then I came to Song of Solomon. I read it with quite some confusion. It wasn't as good as the other books, I didn't know why. So I bought a commentary on it. George Burrowes commentary on the Song of Solomon.
In the commentary I found that George and other saw the book as illustrating God's love to the Church. And not only illustrating it but displaying the Love of Christ better than any other book. This caught my attention big time, because I was having a burning desire for a closer relationship with God and desperately learning about His Love so that I could Love God. You see I had hated Him for so long that God used that old hard heart to spur me on in loving Him. I so much did not want to hate God anymore that I was on fire to learn to Love Him as much and as fast as possible. So here was a book that would help me do that. So I landed on the Song of Solomon. I committed to learning as much of this book as possible.
I memorized the first chapter and would repeat it often throughout the day. I didn't know much of what I was repeating but it sure made me happier and on fire for God. I grew so fast repeating the first chapter over and over again all day, like a dozen times a day at least. It felt so good and I never found any other book that caused me to weep so much. I would often weep everyday just reading it. I was to immature to know what was going on. Even though it hurt to weep so much, I felt like my heart was being cleansed from the filth that was in it by repeating it over and over again so I did. As I read the commentary I understood more and more. What God was doing in me through the Song was greater and faster than any other portion of Scripture so I tended to stay there often. I was so excited about God that I thought it funny that other's in church weren't the same way. Some where happy but it seemed most of them didn't seem to care much about God. They would talk about work, football the weather. The only thing I wanted to talk about was Jesus and God and how can I grow closer to Him.
About this time there was a mission trip to Ireland.
I started to have convictions that I should try to find Bob and witness to him. I kept praying for him but how could he be saved if he hadn't heard the Gospel that has power unto salvation. So I asked family if they had any information. Like me before, my family hated him and thought he deserved hell. After some time I got his name but no location or phone number. Either they didn't know where he was or didn't want to tell me. I prayed some more and then started to get stronger convictions to do something about finding Bob.
So I went on the internet and typed in "his name and child molestation sex offender court" thinking that some court record would have some info leading to where I may find him" I even talked to a private eye and he couldn't help. So I googled some key words and spent hours each day looking through each page. I believed it was God's will for me to witness to Bob. I wanted him to be saved. Really bad. So much so that I thought God would save Bob if I were to witness to him. So I didn't stop searching for him. I kept my computer on each day and went page by page. It took two years to go through about 15,000 pages but I found someone who matched his name in a prison for molesting his grandchildren. I wrote the prison and he wrote back. All kinds of emotions went through my body when I saw his letter from the jail. I didn't open it right away but two hours later God gave me enough courage to face my fears again and I opened the letter. He admitted to being the one who molested me. We wrote back and forth I told him I was angry before but now I was saved and that I loved him and believed God wanted me to talk to him. He read my letters over and over again. I shared the gospel in each one.
I got mad at Bob 2x. Once he said that he love me. I got really angry with him. He didn't love me. That night it was hard to love Bob, I had to call a friend to pray for me to repent, after he prayed I felt greater love for Bob. Then I wrote him back saying "I'm sorry but you can't say that you loved me. You did not love me you lusted after me." He admitted he didn't love as he should have and admitted that it was lust and sinful. Finally some conviction. Yet I only thought he was saying that because I was being nice to him. All his family had left him and he said I was the only "friend" he had.
Wether or not it was true Bob said that he had cancer in his arm and that the help the prison gives was not enough and if he had money he could see a different doctor and get help. I sent him some money and since I was in jail before I knew what it was like to be in there without money, so I sent him money.
About 4-5 months in the economy went down, it was 2008. Work was hard. I still sent him money and I had to work harder. This was a really good lesson for me because I had to "work hard for the benefit of someone who did not deserve it." This was one of the greatest blessing ever because I realized with great certainty that Jesus was in me. This is what Jesus did. Jesus worked his whole life for me and I didn't deserve it!! Christ was in me! This was one of the best feelings ever and it put me in worship for months.
Then a mission trip to Croatia.
Each time I had to leave my business and amazing as it is I was completely okay each time. I am a self employed personal trainer and it is normally absurd to just leave and start over, but each time I had enough work within 2 weeks of coming back. This is a flat out miracle. I trusted God to provide and he did. How many people can start up a business in 2 weeks. Only with the help of God. God was teaching me early on in my walk that as long as I did what He wanted me to do then I had nothing to worry about.
About 3 years saved now.
I Taught the 4 year old's at church Sunday morning for 10 years.
Left my business 2x for mission trips and God miraculously provided when I came back.
I taught 5 x a week plus held a job.
Sunday morning to the kids.
Sunday night with the 5th graders
Friday afternoons at Good News Clubs. Sponsored by Child Evangelism Fellowship.
Friday Nights with the Kids teaching through Pilgrims Progress, I did this 2x
Teaching Monday afternoons at a nursing home. I taught through the Song of Songs once then John, then Romans then back to the Song again! I love the Song of Songs.
I grew up hating God for what happened to me, and now I love Him because He first loved me. My passion is for children to grow up loving God and not hating Him.
My other passion which has become ever greater is to help others see the Love of Christ to His Church in the Song of Songs!!
I would love to help you, just let me know and I will lead you and pray for you.
God demonstrates His love to us in sending His one and only Son to suffer in our place, taking our sins upon Himself so that whoever believes they get to heaven because of what He did for us will not perish but have everlasting life.