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“His Head is Like Purest Gold” Song of Songs 5:11

Solomon’s Song of Songs 5:10-11

“His head is purest gold.”

“My beloved is radiant and ruddy, outstanding among ten thousand.  His head is purest gold.”



Here in Song 5:11 the bride is separated from her beloved due to lack of a little self denial 5:2-3, she is humbled by describing the excellencies of her husbands character. What it is about her husband that makes him stand above all other? making him “altogether lovely and desirable”  Song 5:16  Among other things the first excellency of Solomons character in the relationship is his flawless leadership as a husband expressed in the words “His head is purest gold.” Solomon’s Song of Songs 5:11

What Gold represents, symbolizes or illustrates.

Gold is often a metaphor used to communicate high value or worth.  Solomon’s flawless leadership in the marriage was highly valued by his wife.

Purest Gold is rare.  The rarer something is the greater the value.

Desirable, ( a privilege to be in the possession of gold),  A husband who’s head is purest gold would be most desirable.

For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body.

Purest Gold

Here is another superlative.   The Song of Songs is a love Song above all others.  The Song has many superlatives that help to justify a superlative title Solomon’s Song of Songs.  She is the most beautiful 1:7,  he is a beloved above all others Song 5:9, 10.   And now of course in her description of him she is going to use superlative language like most fine gold,  purest and finest in describing what makes her beloved more than the other beloveds.  There is an adjective describing the kind of gold she is comparing his leadership to.   It is the “purest” gold.  Not just any gold.  This gold is the purest.   Take all other golds and line them up and she describes His leadership as flawless,  holy and pure.   His leadership/headship is flawless therefore it hold much value to her because she is one with him.  His leadership is like the most pure gold.  No dross, No mixture of anything that would devalue the gold, it is pure.  The most valuable possible because pure gold is worth its full weight.   The value of Gold goes down when the quality of it goes down.  Likewise the value goes up as the dross is burned away.


Purest  Gold represents holiness

A woman of discretion is compared to gold.   Her moral discretion beautifies her.  Similar to Solomons holy leadership making him lovely and desirable above all others to be one with.


Refined Gold

Refined or “purest” gold  “his heart is like refined gold”.  Meaning there is no mixture of impurities in his leadership.  His headship in the marriage has no mixture of evil, but is purest of gold.

There is no mixture of evil in God’s words.  They are flawless.  The purity of God’s words needs no refining but they are like refined gold.   Most valuable, precious and desirable to have.
So the idea of being free from evil, holy and morally flawless now but once before you had dross and an evil heart, doing only evil all the time, but now you are like refined
Psalm 12:6  “And the words of the Lord are flawless, like silver purified in a crucible, like gold refined seven times.”
This refinement is promised by God, He is faithful to discipline for holiness.
He works all things together for this refinement into Christ likeness Romans 8:28-29 by granting us eyes that get continually better and better, purer and purer as we behold the glory of God in the face of Christ.  2 Cor. 3:18  As light scatters darkness so also the fire in the refinement purifies the gold giving us great illustrations of growing in holiness.  Getting a purer heart.  A more refined heart.  A holier heart.  A more beautiful heart.  Purer  heart, empowered to better see God.
This refinement is carried out by God.  God in Christ is the Refiner.
Psalm 66:10   “For you, God, tested us; you refined us like silver.”
We are commanded to go to Christ by faith for this gold.
Revelation 3:18  “I counsel you to buy from me gold refined in the fire, so you can become rich; and white clothes to wear, so you can cover your shameful nakedness; and salve to put on your eyes, so you can see.”

Verses on what the head represents

“But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ.”
Leadership or the authority a man has in a marriage is supposed to reflect the Holy Authority and Leadership God has over man.
“His head and His hair were white like white wool, like snow; and His eyes were like a flame of fire.”

Solomon’s hands are gold and his legs are set in gold.

“His hands are rods of gold Set with beryl; His abdomen is carved ivory Inlaid with sapphires.

“His legs are pillars of alabaster Set on pedestals of pure gold; His appearance is like Lebanon Choice as the cedars.”
Christ is head over all things.
“And He put all things in subjection under His feet, and gave Him as head over all things to the church,”
We mature into the likeness of our head
but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspectsinto Him who is the head, even Christ,
The husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church.
For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body.


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Husbands strive to be worthy of having your wife describe you this way.  Does she think you leadership is flawless?  Have you been failing to lead and she is leading?  Do you not know how to lead, then learn from Solomon.  He was a wise king because he lived his life according to scripture.  So in order for you to be a wise leader in your family you need to read the scriptures daily to learn God’s will for your marriage.   Go to church every Sunday.  etc   Your responsibility it to reflect the holy wise leadership of God over the church.  Your role in the marriage to reflect the Glory of God’s Authority is to be a wise king guided by Scripture so that your godly wife has no problem submitting to a wise loving ruler in the marriage because your desire will be for her to obey the King of kings first and foremost, which is what she wants anyway.  She wants to obey God.  God says for her to obey her husband, you need to be a worthy husband to obey by having pure and holy valuable leadership skills.  Guided by God’s wisdom and Solomon’s example this shouldn’t be to hard.  A lot of work, yes, because your flesh wont want to lead flawlessly, but you can get better if you repent and look to Christ for forgiveness for not leading the way He wants you to.  Confess your pathetic leadership skills to God.  Stop giving unbiblical advice.  Teach wisdom from the Scriptures.  Quote verses so that God gets the Glory.  You need to be a flawless spiritual and physical provider for you wife, God commands it.
Study Ephesians 5 with your wife and obey it!!

Eph. 5:22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church,30 because we are members of His body. 31 For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church.33 Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.

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Wives and by application, believers as well.

This is good stuff so pay attention.  I understand that nearly all of you have husbands who’s leadership is more like garbage than pure gold.  I know that it is hard to submit to a man who is lazy, thinks of mostly himself and can’t communicate to save his life.  Stop looking at all his faults and think about what God would want you to do.

Your role in the marriage is to submit to God first!!  God is your primary Head.  God is head over the church.  That means you, wife.  God is your head.  His headship is far purer than Solomon’s, God is far more worthy to submit to than Solomon!!  Submit to God.  God says,   “Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.”

If you love God  you will obey His commandments.  He commands you to submit to the leadership of your husband.  There is no option here.  God says it, you do it!!  Think of all the times you haven’t submitted to your husband.  Did your lack of submission cause a felt separation between the two of you.  You felt it.  Not submitting to your husband is a sin.   Your sin will separate you from God  Is. 59:2.   When you sin by not submitting to God for God says to submit to your husband.  If you fail to submit to your husband then you are in sin, confess your sin to God first.  See your sin upon Christ at the cross, see his love for you, his love held Him there.   See His Love to you then you will have power to prove you Love to God by submitting to your husband as the bride of Christ submits to our Heavenly Husband and King.

I know there might not be much there to adore or love about your husbands leadership but find something praiseworthy.  Does he at least work?  It may not be the best job, but is he working? Thank God he has a job!  Is he jobless and looking.  Im sure even his looking means a lot to you.  You value him looking for a job or even if he has one, is he looking to better himself in that job so that he could be a better provider.  It would encourage him if he loves you to know that you value or it means a lot to you that he does the best he can to provide.  Really you have nothing to worry about because God promises to provide all your needs and not your greeds in the marriage because God’s head is the Purest Gold.


In context the bride is separated and she isn’t feeling the blessed oneness in her marriage due to her laziness to listen to her husband.  It is through thinking about the pure leadership of God reflected in the face of Solomon that humbled her to obedience to both God and Solomon.  Wife and bride of Christ look to the purity of your husbands/Husbands leadership.   Where it is right about his leadership comes from the “Flame of God”  Love he has for God in his heart.”  Isn’t it beautiful seeing a man of God doing something right?  Praise God for his love for you, he could be worse!!  You don’t deserve the perfect husband.  Yes, he should strive to be better.  But what good he does have comes from God through Christ.  And yes, I know you desire to experience God’s love through your husbands leadership for that kind of love is more delightful than any other experience so submit to his leadership and experience his/His love.

Solomon’s use of the word gold

Wisdom, For her profit is better than the profit of silver And her gain better than fine gold.

“Take my instruction and not silver, And knowledge rather than choicest gold.

“My fruit is better than gold, even pure gold, And my yield better than choicest silver.

As a ring of gold in a swine’s snout.  So is a beautiful woman who lacks discretion.

How much better it is to get wisdom than gold! And to get understanding is to be chosen above silver.

The refining pot is for silver and the furnace for gold, But the Lord tests hearts.

There is gold, and an abundance of jewels; But the lips of knowledge are a more precious thing.

 A good name is to be more desired than great wealth, Favor is better than silver and gold.

Like apples of gold in settings of silver Is a word spoken in right circumstances.

Like an earring of gold and an ornament of fine gold Is a wise reprover to a listening ear.

The crucible is for silver and the furnace for gold, And each is tested by the praise accorded him.

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Saved in 2000 at age 27. Nearly immediately I fell in love with the Song and grew very fast the first two years memorizing large portions of scripture purifying my mind the started chewing on meat to soon and struggled for 12 years and Christ has me on track like always but I just took the long way around and now I love leading others closer to Christ by seeing His love reflected in Solomons love for an enemy slave girl.

I have experienced God's love to me in the Song in ways that words can't express. There are many portion of the Word where she experiences extra ordinary outpouring of the Holy Spirit of God. If you have a burning desire for a close intimate relationship with God by experiencing His Love to you over and over again at greater and greater heights, depths, lengths and breaths then The Song of Songs is where you need to be.

I can help you with this process of Growing in the experience of God's love. As of 7-23-16 I have experienced everything prior to chapter 8. The Song of Song is progressive in experience. Meaning that if you are mature then you can experience the joys and extraordinary outpourings of God's Love shed abroad in your heart.

If you are not so mature then the delights in the first chapter of the Song will satisfy your thirst for experiencing the Love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Many Christian are living in sin because they do not know how to experience God's love and get hooked on Loving Him. It feels good to be loved and to love Him. His burden is not heavy and His yoke is light, Jesus said in Matt. 10:28

I believe God wants to use me to help beautify His Bride through the Song of Solomon.

If you see the book literally you will not understand nor grasp the Love God has for you. If you see the book and the verses in it relating to Christ's love to you then I would love to show you how to experience this Love to the fullest. I will pray for you daily and guide you every step of the way.

16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.

20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.

I grew up going to church but was a hypocrite. I lived my life how I chose but went to church on Sunday because my family went.

Mom and Dad divorced when I was about 5.

About this time I was sexually abused by "Bob" a made up name. This incident changed my life for the worst. I had no clue how to deal with it.

As I got older I grew in my hatred for Bob. I didn't blame anyone of my family because I was to young to know any better. Some of what happened during the abuse was in a bathroom. So overtime I would use the bathroom and look at my private parts that night would replay in my mind. My hatred for Bob would continue to grow each time.

Now I know this only happened to me one night. I can't image the pain other's go through who have had this happen to them over and over. Even as I write this now I cry with many tears for those hurting. God love you even though you may not know it or feel it. Go to Him in your time of need.

I was a really bad teenager. I only cared about myself and not even my family. I always came first in my mind. Even at the expense of hurting others. I was growing in my hatred for God by now.

I was going to church and was learned that God was in control. I thought well, if God was in control then He must have let me be sexually abused. I didn't understand this, How could a good and loving God allow this. I hated Him for it. My hatred for Bob grew as well. I was still using the bathroom and memories kept coming back. My heart grew even harder for Bob and God. As far as I was concerned God would have nothing to do with my life so I lived even worse. I thought I would be in jail or dead and I really didn't care, I thought it could be much worse than reliving your painful past over and over again. Little did I know that God's plan later would be to use these events to give me a burning passion for the closest most intimate love relationship with Himself through Christ mainly through the love poem in the Song of Songs in the Bible.

I remember hating Bob so much that the only thing that would relieve my pain was actually thinking he would suffer forever for what he did. I grew so much in my hatred for him that I had to continue to think that he would get even worse than what I imaged before. After some time I would only be relieved of hatred for him unless I thought he would burn in a hotter and hotter hell for all the suffering he put me through.

I never told my mom or family what happened, although I think some of them knew something had happened.

I grew up quite rebellious and even went to jail at the age of 20. I was living the fast life pursuing all my sinful desires and wanting more. It never seemed to be enough. I was quite happy in my sin but I just wanted more of it.

I lived life thinking I would die at a young age, riding motorcycle and living on the edge put me in the hospital many times and I should have been dead.

California at age 26.

I moved to California for a job opportunity at the age of 27. While trying to figure out what radio stations to program in my car, I ran across a RC Sproul talking about "people who have the faith that saves and people who only say that have faith" only the people who have the faith that saves will go to heaven. I thought "I don't think I have the faith that saves because my life was so bad." I searched the scriptures to try to get this faith. I found a church and thought people there could help me get this faith that saves. All along God kept showing me how sinful I was and that I deserved punishment from Him for living my life hating Him.

One weekend I read Matthew, Mark, Luke and John desperately trying to find out how to get this faith that saves. By now I knew that if you had the faith that saves that Jesus would be saving you from a life of sin. I still liked my sin and Jesus sure wasn't saving me from a life of sin, so I rightly concluded that I didn't have the faith that saves.

By the time I got to John, I saw "believe" everywhere. John 3:16 and other verses and wow the whole book was written so that you may believe. John 20:31 "these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in his name." So at night I would pray "I believe Jesus died for me, I believe, I believe. This was just an intellectual belief. I knew that in history and the Bible that Jesus died for everyone, so I believed it. But this belief did not change my life.

I would go on night after night saying the same prayer only to wake up the next day wanting to fulfill my sinful desires. The prayer wasn't working so I started to word it different each time hoping some prayer would work. After about 2 weeks of this I was fed up with it all, nothing was happening. I still was living in my sin and wanted more of it. A Christian hates their sin and does something about it, and certainly they don't continue to make plans to sin. The prayers weren't working so I gave up. I thought to myself "God, I tried with all my might, I searched the Scriptures, went to church, read the Bible and prayed all to no avail. If Im going to be saved your going to have to do it because I tried."

So I quit praying but still the Bible kept calling me so I read more. 3 Days later I was laying in a tanning bed and God convicted me really hard that I had offended Him by the life I was living. I was so scared of God, where could I run. You can't hide from God. It seemed like forever that I was under these terrors of being punished by a Holy Angry God. This lasted about 10 minutes then this is how I understood it. God let me understand that all that anger that He had for me for all my sin should come my way but He had poured that anger out on Jesus 2,000 years ago. I immediately started weeping an couldn't stop for about 20 minutes. All the sins that I could think of I confessed for that 20 minutes one after another after another, I was so sorrowful and grieved it physically hurt inside.

After I stopped crying I thought that was the weirdest thing that ever happened. I walked out of the tanning salon and stood outside and everything seemed so beautiful, the tree's, the birds, even the air seemed pleasant. Now I was really wondering what was going on.

I pondered all of this as I drove to work that day. I brought my Bible to work and was thinking what am I doing, I want to take my Bible to work so I can read it. As soon as I got to work I started reading my Bible. I couldn't believe what I was reading!! It all was so wonderful. It felt so good to just read my Bible. My client showed up and as I was training them the only thing I could think about was getting back to my Bible. I read all night and slept about 2 hours and was reading again.

I had sinful things in my apartment and I rounded everything evil up and threw it in the garbage. It was weird I was thinking but it felt good so I left it all in the garbage. I called my girlfriend to break it up and she thought I had another girl, I said no, I just think this is wrong we shouldn't be sleeping together. She didn't understand so I told her I was a Christian now and she still thought I had another girlfriend. She said "Im glad your a Christian, so am I" I thought to myself, "I have a strong conviction that sleeping together is wrong and she thought it was okay" I wondered how she could think that. Anyway we broke up.

I kept reading my bible and repenting, there was so much to repent of and I had lived a very sinful life. I was a thief for some part of my life and all the people I stole from kept coming to mind. I owed so much money. I was instantly in debt about $80,000. As I could I paid them back. As of 7-18-2016 I still owe about $25,000 but it sure is a joy to be paying them back.

The first week of being saved a car just about ran me over, they hit me but I wasn't hurt at all. The guy in the car felt so bad. I just looked at him and said "God bless you and have a great day, I am okay" smiled at him and moved on. Now I was really wondering what was going on because I normally would have cussed him out left and right and instead of cussing I blessed him. That was so weird. But again it felt good. I learned to do good by what my conscience told me was good and that it felt good. I got hooked on this feeling good by doing good and did it more often.

About two weeks after being saved I thought of Bob. I immediately prayed for him, something like "Lord help him.." then I stopped praying and said out loud "What am I doing?" I'm praying for a man that I hated my whole life, but it feels good and right, so I did it again. I stopped again midway in the prayer and started pacing around. I was trying to make sense of what was going on and couldn't figure it out. But again it made me happy to pray for him so I did. Bob would often come to mind when I went to the bathroom and each time I would pray for Him. The more I did this the less weird it got. And the greater my love grew for him.

I started memorizing large portions of scripture and this was wonderful because it felt like the words were cleaning my mind and as Proverbs 2:10 "For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul." I wanted more and more of this pleasantness. So I memorized even more and the joy got more and more.

Then this life changing advice came:

A friend from church told me to find a book of the Bible and really understand it. Read through the Bible and pick one and read it over and over and study it and really get it. So I started in Genesis and read through. When I got to Proverbs I really liked it so I thought that would be the book. I started by memorizing all of Proverbs chapter 3. After that I thought maybe there is a better book than Proverbs. So I read on. Then I came to Song of Solomon. I read it with quite some confusion. It wasn't as good as the other books, I didn't know why. So I bought a commentary on it. George Burrowes commentary on the Song of Solomon.

In the commentary I found that George and other saw the book as illustrating God's love to the Church. And not only illustrating it but displaying the Love of Christ better than any other book. This caught my attention big time, because I was having a burning desire for a closer relationship with God and desperately learning about His Love so that I could Love God. You see I had hated Him for so long that God used that old hard heart to spur me on in loving Him. I so much did not want to hate God anymore that I was on fire to learn to Love Him as much and as fast as possible. So here was a book that would help me do that. So I landed on the Song of Solomon. I committed to learning as much of this book as possible.

I memorized the first chapter and would repeat it often throughout the day. I didn't know much of what I was repeating but it sure made me happier and on fire for God. I grew so fast repeating the first chapter over and over again all day, like a dozen times a day at least. It felt so good and I never found any other book that caused me to weep so much. I would often weep everyday just reading it. I was to immature to know what was going on. Even though it hurt to weep so much, I felt like my heart was being cleansed from the filth that was in it by repeating it over and over again so I did. As I read the commentary I understood more and more. What God was doing in me through the Song was greater and faster than any other portion of Scripture so I tended to stay there often. I was so excited about God that I thought it funny that other's in church weren't the same way. Some where happy but it seemed most of them didn't seem to care much about God. They would talk about work, football the weather. The only thing I wanted to talk about was Jesus and God and how can I grow closer to Him.

About this time there was a mission trip to Ireland.

I started to have convictions that I should try to find Bob and witness to him. I kept praying for him but how could he be saved if he hadn't heard the Gospel that has power unto salvation. So I asked family if they had any information. Like me before, my family hated him and thought he deserved hell. After some time I got his name but no location or phone number. Either they didn't know where he was or didn't want to tell me. I prayed some more and then started to get stronger convictions to do something about finding Bob.

So I went on the internet and typed in "his name and child molestation sex offender court" thinking that some court record would have some info leading to where I may find him" I even talked to a private eye and he couldn't help. So I googled some key words and spent hours each day looking through each page. I believed it was God's will for me to witness to Bob. I wanted him to be saved. Really bad. So much so that I thought God would save Bob if I were to witness to him. So I didn't stop searching for him. I kept my computer on each day and went page by page. It took two years to go through about 15,000 pages but I found someone who matched his name in a prison for molesting his grandchildren. I wrote the prison and he wrote back. All kinds of emotions went through my body when I saw his letter from the jail. I didn't open it right away but two hours later God gave me enough courage to face my fears again and I opened the letter. He admitted to being the one who molested me. We wrote back and forth I told him I was angry before but now I was saved and that I loved him and believed God wanted me to talk to him. He read my letters over and over again. I shared the gospel in each one.

I got mad at Bob 2x. Once he said that he love me. I got really angry with him. He didn't love me. That night it was hard to love Bob, I had to call a friend to pray for me to repent, after he prayed I felt greater love for Bob. Then I wrote him back saying "I'm sorry but you can't say that you loved me. You did not love me you lusted after me." He admitted he didn't love as he should have and admitted that it was lust and sinful. Finally some conviction. Yet I only thought he was saying that because I was being nice to him. All his family had left him and he said I was the only "friend" he had.

Wether or not it was true Bob said that he had cancer in his arm and that the help the prison gives was not enough and if he had money he could see a different doctor and get help. I sent him some money and since I was in jail before I knew what it was like to be in there without money, so I sent him money.

About 4-5 months in the economy went down, it was 2008. Work was hard. I still sent him money and I had to work harder. This was a really good lesson for me because I had to "work hard for the benefit of someone who did not deserve it." This was one of the greatest blessing ever because I realized with great certainty that Jesus was in me. This is what Jesus did. Jesus worked his whole life for me and I didn't deserve it!! Christ was in me! This was one of the best feelings ever and it put me in worship for months.

Then a mission trip to Croatia.

Each time I had to leave my business and amazing as it is I was completely okay each time. I am a self employed personal trainer and it is normally absurd to just leave and start over, but each time I had enough work within 2 weeks of coming back. This is a flat out miracle. I trusted God to provide and he did. How many people can start up a business in 2 weeks. Only with the help of God. God was teaching me early on in my walk that as long as I did what He wanted me to do then I had nothing to worry about.

About 3 years saved now.

I Taught the 4 year old's at church Sunday morning for 10 years.

Left my business 2x for mission trips and God miraculously provided when I came back.

I taught 5 x a week plus held a job.

Sunday morning to the kids.
Sunday night with the 5th graders
Friday afternoons at Good News Clubs. Sponsored by Child Evangelism Fellowship.
Friday Nights with the Kids teaching through Pilgrims Progress, I did this 2x
Teaching Monday afternoons at a nursing home. I taught through the Song of Songs once then John, then Romans then back to the Song again! I love the Song of Songs.
I grew up hating God for what happened to me, and now I love Him because He first loved me. My passion is for children to grow up loving God and not hating Him.

My other passion which has become ever greater is to help others see the Love of Christ to His Church in the Song of Songs!!

I would love to help you, just let me know and I will lead you and pray for you.

God demonstrates His love to us in sending His one and only Son to suffer in our place, taking our sins upon Himself so that whoever believes they get to heaven because of what He did for us will not perish but have everlasting life.

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