“Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm.” Solomon’s Song of Songs 8:5
Get this idea right and you will behold one of the most beautiful idea’s ever, next to the thought of Jesus Christ! Can you behold two hearts that are the same. Like minded. Having the same love, but different roles. Behold each one doing their role. The heart of the husband wisely choosing how to love his/His Bride and the bride out of love submit her will to his. For she says “I am his and his desire is for me” Song 7:10 By this point the curse has been reversed. Enmity between her seed and Satan’s is not manifesting itself.
Not that it is possible here on earth, but I firmly believe we are to see the couple as one and sinless! Not that they won’t sin but that their hearts are like that of Adam’s and Eve’s before the fall. Sinless yet mutable. Sinless yet able to sin. There is a pure and holy love dwelling in each of them. Its not possible for the Love of God to be tainted.
Green meadows are calm and beautiful. Twin fawns browsing among the lilies is lovely. A woman’s face is beautiful. A woman whole body is beautiful, yet her holy soul is the true beauty and all other natural beauties are only a reflection of the moral beauty of a woman. Every external natural beauty is a reflection or extension of God’s Beauty. God’s beauty is His Holiness which consists in His love to Himself or His idea of Himself which is His Son.
Behold God’s Son and Behold a perfect manifestation of God’s Beauty. In simple terms when we know Jesus is God’s Son and behold Him there sinless by His obedience to the Father. Obedience to the Father. The Father said, “Go and die for Your bride.” The Son is obeying the Father at the cross. This act of obedience is most beautiful. Since Jesus Christ, God’s Son is infinitely morally beautiful we see the manifestation of that moral beauty in an act of obedience.
This act of obedience is a key ingredient to any being or union that is morally beautiful.
I say union because in a marriage their is a union of hearts and bodies. The two are one. This union of hearts when understood in the mind is the greatest beauty on earth!
There is the will of the husband/Husband and the will of the Bride. They are the same. His will and hers are one and the same essence or faculty. The will is a faculty of the heart. “She says set me as a seal upon your heart.”
The heart consists of her mind, will and emotions. When you press his heart, or mind, will and emotions upon her you get a likeness. Just like you would get a likeness of an image on a wax seal when pressing something upon it very close. We were made in the image of God. That image is in the soul. The soul or heart has faculties. Those faculties are the mind where truth and knoledge is. The will which is our inclinations and desires and then you have the emotions of our soul like love, hate, delight, joy, sorrow, grief etc. So they were one in the heart which consists of the mind, will and emotions. The common phrase is “soul mates”.
Her knowledge of God and her knowledge of her husband and her knowledge of herself in her mind is the same as his knowledge of God, himself and her in his mind. They are like minded otherwise their is no sweet harmony or peace in the relationship for disunion of hearts causes enmity and strive. Which is why they not only share the same mind but the same love.
Both their souls relish the supreme excellency of the Divine Nature (Holiness) which inclines their wills toward God. Remember they must be one in their wills. Both having the same will or there is no oneness nor beauty in the union.
Both have love to God in their wills because they both have an unquenchable love in their hearts. Song 8:6-7 The primary inclination of their wills is to please God. He wants to please God and she wants to please God. Their wills are the same in their mutual desire to please God in the relationship. Imagine the ugliness and deformity of a union between one person who wanted to please God and another who could care less. How can two walk together unless they be in agreement? Their wills must agree on the primary goal of the relationship. Love. Love to God, love to each other, love to neighbor, love to enemies.
Her will needed to submit for peace and harmony in the relationship. Her will submitting is the moral beauty beheld in the later portion of the verse. “Set me as a seal upon your heart as a seal upon your arm.” She says she is like his arm in the sense that he wills it the arm does it. I mean who’s arm doesn’t quickly and joyfully follow the will of the heart. We think it our arm does it. They function in sweet harmony unless their is some neurological issue like Parkinson’s or MS etc.
The idea may be better understood by a dance. Image a couple dancing in perfect lockstep. Him leading and her submitting her will to his flawless leadership and what you get is a beautiful dance! When two hearts become one it is more beautiful than any other dance on earth!
The primary inclination of their wills is the same and they both have different roles. Her role is to submit her will to his and she learns to do so. “My beloved is mine and I am his.” Song 2:16, “I am his and he is mine” 6:3 and “I am his and his desire is for me” 7:10. By the end of the Song the curse is reversed and the two are together, close and one. In order for the couple to be heart to heart she had to learn to give her will completely over to him as she never doubts his love. This is seen in her words “I am his and his desire is for me.” 7:10 But it took 7 chapter for her to learn so and allow her unmeasurably wise husband to shepherd her heart so that the two could be one.
Okay so we have the same mind, same will and same emotions. Love is the emotion that is felt and defined as
The souls relish of the supreme excellency of the Divine nature inclining the heart toward God as its chief good.
They share the same love which is an affection of the heart. They are heart to heart, for she says, “Set me as a seal upon your heart.” She is like his heart. What she is like and the image a seal would make if his heart where impressed upon the clay are the same. They are one. Part of our idea of being one is “likeness”. The image of God upon their hearts needs to be the same. They both have the same love. They both have the same holy emotion.
God is Love.
Analogy, similarities. Reflection. Likeness.
Moral beauty is a reflection of natural beauty. There are many single natural beauties in the face of the Bride. Song 4:1-4 mention the beauty of her hair, teeth, temples, lips and breasts. Now if you were to look at the beauty of her teeth that consisted in equal proportions, proper function and degree of delight in beholding you would see a reflection of the beauty of oneness, love and union in the words,
“set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm.” Natural and moral beauty of the heart is seen in this verse. Natural beauty only is seen in her teeth. Yet the natural beauty has similarities with the moral that make the natural beauty a reflection of the moral.
“How beautiful you are, my darling!
Oh, how beautiful!
Your teeth are like a flock of sheep just shorn,
coming up from the washing.
Each has its twin;
and not one of them is alone.” Song 4:1,3
Physical cleanliness is hear much like moral cleanliness or holiness. For her teeth are like a flock of sheep coming up from the washing. They would not be beautiful if they were dirty. A dirty heart would have wrong ideas of God. Remember in our heart to heart analogy both the husband and wife must have the same right idea of God. A wrong idea of God is an lie and not God or an idol of the heart. In order for the most beautiful union their hearts must be holy and pure having the right idea of God in the mind, holy and clean inclinations to Him in the will and a pure sincere love as the beautiful emotion of the heart. “Set me as a seal upon your heart.”
“Each has its twin” here we have likeness. Which here the physical likeness is a reflection of the moral likeness within the Trinity and marriage.
Okay you may think Im weird but here you have it anyway. The Father is like the Son. The top tooth is like the bottom. Twins. The Father loves the Son the Son loves the Father. The equal proportions and relations between the Father and the Son are the same. Their is also equal proportions and relations between the top tooth and the bottom one. They are the same. The Son is the image of the invisible God. Each tooth has the same nature. Both are bone. Truth and Love in his heart and truth and love in hers. Their two hearts must be of the same bone of his bone in order for the two to be one. Their hearts in order to be one must be of the same nature of Love like twin teeth both have the same nature, which is bone. Out of man’s rib came woman. Same nature different roles. A beauty of the Trinity is that they all have the same nature but different roles. All working in harmony to manifest the Glory of God!!
The Father is love in Prime. The Son is the image of Love and Love the Holy Spirit is shared between the two.
Her external beauty is more than any other woman and “How beautiful” she is. Just so you don’t miss it he says it again and then goes on to describe various private natural beauties of his wife that contribute the the general beauty of her face that he is beholding and delighted with. “How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your teeth…”
Solomon knows the beauty of God and see’s it manifested in the various beautiful features of his wife. God’s invisible attributes are clearly seen by what has been made and God is the “master craftsman” Song 7:1 that not only made her attractive thighs but also her beautiful face that had beautiful teeth.
Notice also that her teeth would function best when in equal proportions and not one missing. When the bride says, “Set me as a seal upon your arm” the physical idea of proper function of symmetrical teeth is a physical reflection of proper function in marriage when the husband and wife are heart to heart, having the same mind like having the same upper and lower matching tooth described as a twin. Since her will and his were the same then the marriage functions in happiness and harmony and so would the function of teeth be happy and harmonious when in equal proportions and “not one of them missing”. Imagine a marriage with nothing missing! That has got to be one of the greatest beauties on earth!!
What Im getting at and hope I have explained it in some sensical way is that when you see the beauty of the oneness in the words,
“Set me as a seal upon your heart as a seal upon your arm.” then you see the Beauty of the Trinity and are transformed, holier and happier.
Know who he/He is.
Know what He is like.
Know her beauty and see it as a reflection or type of his/His.
Behold the fruits of the union. Obedience. Holiness. Happiness. A stricter union.
Memorize and obey Scripture to have more of the mind and likeness of Jesus Christ upon your heart in order to a holier and happier relationship with you Heavenly Bridegroom.
Saved in 2000 at age 27. Nearly immediately I fell in love with the Song and grew very fast the first two years memorizing large portions of scripture purifying my mind the started chewing on meat to soon and struggled for 12 years and Christ has me on track like always but I just took the long way around and now I love leading others closer to Christ by seeing His love reflected in Solomons love for an enemy slave girl.
I have experienced God's love to me in the Song in ways that words can't express. There are many portion of the Word where she experiences extra ordinary outpouring of the Holy Spirit of God. If you have a burning desire for a close intimate relationship with God by experiencing His Love to you over and over again at greater and greater heights, depths, lengths and breaths then The Song of Songs is where you need to be.
I can help you with this process of Growing in the experience of God's love. As of 7-23-16 I have experienced everything prior to chapter 8. The Song of Song is progressive in experience. Meaning that if you are mature then you can experience the joys and extraordinary outpourings of God's Love shed abroad in your heart.
If you are not so mature then the delights in the first chapter of the Song will satisfy your thirst for experiencing the Love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Many Christian are living in sin because they do not know how to experience God's love and get hooked on Loving Him. It feels good to be loved and to love Him. His burden is not heavy and His yoke is light, Jesus said in Matt. 10:28
I believe God wants to use me to help beautify His Bride through the Song of Solomon.
If you see the book literally you will not understand nor grasp the Love God has for you. If you see the book and the verses in it relating to Christ's love to you then I would love to show you how to experience this Love to the fullest. I will pray for you daily and guide you every step of the way.
16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.
I grew up going to church but was a hypocrite. I lived my life how I chose but went to church on Sunday because my family went.
Mom and Dad divorced when I was about 5.
About this time I was sexually abused by "Bob" a made up name. This incident changed my life for the worst. I had no clue how to deal with it.
As I got older I grew in my hatred for Bob. I didn't blame anyone of my family because I was to young to know any better. Some of what happened during the abuse was in a bathroom. So overtime I would use the bathroom and look at my private parts that night would replay in my mind. My hatred for Bob would continue to grow each time.
Now I know this only happened to me one night. I can't image the pain other's go through who have had this happen to them over and over. Even as I write this now I cry with many tears for those hurting. God love you even though you may not know it or feel it. Go to Him in your time of need.
I was a really bad teenager. I only cared about myself and not even my family. I always came first in my mind. Even at the expense of hurting others. I was growing in my hatred for God by now.
I was going to church and was learned that God was in control. I thought well, if God was in control then He must have let me be sexually abused. I didn't understand this, How could a good and loving God allow this. I hated Him for it. My hatred for Bob grew as well. I was still using the bathroom and memories kept coming back. My heart grew even harder for Bob and God. As far as I was concerned God would have nothing to do with my life so I lived even worse. I thought I would be in jail or dead and I really didn't care, I thought it could be much worse than reliving your painful past over and over again. Little did I know that God's plan later would be to use these events to give me a burning passion for the closest most intimate love relationship with Himself through Christ mainly through the love poem in the Song of Songs in the Bible.
I remember hating Bob so much that the only thing that would relieve my pain was actually thinking he would suffer forever for what he did. I grew so much in my hatred for him that I had to continue to think that he would get even worse than what I imaged before. After some time I would only be relieved of hatred for him unless I thought he would burn in a hotter and hotter hell for all the suffering he put me through.
I never told my mom or family what happened, although I think some of them knew something had happened.
I grew up quite rebellious and even went to jail at the age of 20. I was living the fast life pursuing all my sinful desires and wanting more. It never seemed to be enough. I was quite happy in my sin but I just wanted more of it.
I lived life thinking I would die at a young age, riding motorcycle and living on the edge put me in the hospital many times and I should have been dead.
California at age 26.
I moved to California for a job opportunity at the age of 27. While trying to figure out what radio stations to program in my car, I ran across a RC Sproul talking about "people who have the faith that saves and people who only say that have faith" only the people who have the faith that saves will go to heaven. I thought "I don't think I have the faith that saves because my life was so bad." I searched the scriptures to try to get this faith. I found a church and thought people there could help me get this faith that saves. All along God kept showing me how sinful I was and that I deserved punishment from Him for living my life hating Him.
One weekend I read Matthew, Mark, Luke and John desperately trying to find out how to get this faith that saves. By now I knew that if you had the faith that saves that Jesus would be saving you from a life of sin. I still liked my sin and Jesus sure wasn't saving me from a life of sin, so I rightly concluded that I didn't have the faith that saves.
By the time I got to John, I saw "believe" everywhere. John 3:16 and other verses and wow the whole book was written so that you may believe. John 20:31 "these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in his name." So at night I would pray "I believe Jesus died for me, I believe, I believe. This was just an intellectual belief. I knew that in history and the Bible that Jesus died for everyone, so I believed it. But this belief did not change my life.
I would go on night after night saying the same prayer only to wake up the next day wanting to fulfill my sinful desires. The prayer wasn't working so I started to word it different each time hoping some prayer would work. After about 2 weeks of this I was fed up with it all, nothing was happening. I still was living in my sin and wanted more of it. A Christian hates their sin and does something about it, and certainly they don't continue to make plans to sin. The prayers weren't working so I gave up. I thought to myself "God, I tried with all my might, I searched the Scriptures, went to church, read the Bible and prayed all to no avail. If Im going to be saved your going to have to do it because I tried."
So I quit praying but still the Bible kept calling me so I read more. 3 Days later I was laying in a tanning bed and God convicted me really hard that I had offended Him by the life I was living. I was so scared of God, where could I run. You can't hide from God. It seemed like forever that I was under these terrors of being punished by a Holy Angry God. This lasted about 10 minutes then this is how I understood it. God let me understand that all that anger that He had for me for all my sin should come my way but He had poured that anger out on Jesus 2,000 years ago. I immediately started weeping an couldn't stop for about 20 minutes. All the sins that I could think of I confessed for that 20 minutes one after another after another, I was so sorrowful and grieved it physically hurt inside.
After I stopped crying I thought that was the weirdest thing that ever happened. I walked out of the tanning salon and stood outside and everything seemed so beautiful, the tree's, the birds, even the air seemed pleasant. Now I was really wondering what was going on.
I pondered all of this as I drove to work that day. I brought my Bible to work and was thinking what am I doing, I want to take my Bible to work so I can read it. As soon as I got to work I started reading my Bible. I couldn't believe what I was reading!! It all was so wonderful. It felt so good to just read my Bible. My client showed up and as I was training them the only thing I could think about was getting back to my Bible. I read all night and slept about 2 hours and was reading again.
I had sinful things in my apartment and I rounded everything evil up and threw it in the garbage. It was weird I was thinking but it felt good so I left it all in the garbage. I called my girlfriend to break it up and she thought I had another girl, I said no, I just think this is wrong we shouldn't be sleeping together. She didn't understand so I told her I was a Christian now and she still thought I had another girlfriend. She said "Im glad your a Christian, so am I" I thought to myself, "I have a strong conviction that sleeping together is wrong and she thought it was okay" I wondered how she could think that. Anyway we broke up.
I kept reading my bible and repenting, there was so much to repent of and I had lived a very sinful life. I was a thief for some part of my life and all the people I stole from kept coming to mind. I owed so much money. I was instantly in debt about $80,000. As I could I paid them back. As of 7-18-2016 I still owe about $25,000 but it sure is a joy to be paying them back.
The first week of being saved a car just about ran me over, they hit me but I wasn't hurt at all. The guy in the car felt so bad. I just looked at him and said "God bless you and have a great day, I am okay" smiled at him and moved on. Now I was really wondering what was going on because I normally would have cussed him out left and right and instead of cussing I blessed him. That was so weird. But again it felt good. I learned to do good by what my conscience told me was good and that it felt good. I got hooked on this feeling good by doing good and did it more often.
About two weeks after being saved I thought of Bob. I immediately prayed for him, something like "Lord help him.." then I stopped praying and said out loud "What am I doing?" I'm praying for a man that I hated my whole life, but it feels good and right, so I did it again. I stopped again midway in the prayer and started pacing around. I was trying to make sense of what was going on and couldn't figure it out. But again it made me happy to pray for him so I did. Bob would often come to mind when I went to the bathroom and each time I would pray for Him. The more I did this the less weird it got. And the greater my love grew for him.
I started memorizing large portions of scripture and this was wonderful because it felt like the words were cleaning my mind and as Proverbs 2:10 "For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul." I wanted more and more of this pleasantness. So I memorized even more and the joy got more and more.
Then this life changing advice came:
A friend from church told me to find a book of the Bible and really understand it. Read through the Bible and pick one and read it over and over and study it and really get it. So I started in Genesis and read through. When I got to Proverbs I really liked it so I thought that would be the book. I started by memorizing all of Proverbs chapter 3. After that I thought maybe there is a better book than Proverbs. So I read on. Then I came to Song of Solomon. I read it with quite some confusion. It wasn't as good as the other books, I didn't know why. So I bought a commentary on it. George Burrowes commentary on the Song of Solomon.
In the commentary I found that George and other saw the book as illustrating God's love to the Church. And not only illustrating it but displaying the Love of Christ better than any other book. This caught my attention big time, because I was having a burning desire for a closer relationship with God and desperately learning about His Love so that I could Love God. You see I had hated Him for so long that God used that old hard heart to spur me on in loving Him. I so much did not want to hate God anymore that I was on fire to learn to Love Him as much and as fast as possible. So here was a book that would help me do that. So I landed on the Song of Solomon. I committed to learning as much of this book as possible.
I memorized the first chapter and would repeat it often throughout the day. I didn't know much of what I was repeating but it sure made me happier and on fire for God. I grew so fast repeating the first chapter over and over again all day, like a dozen times a day at least. It felt so good and I never found any other book that caused me to weep so much. I would often weep everyday just reading it. I was to immature to know what was going on. Even though it hurt to weep so much, I felt like my heart was being cleansed from the filth that was in it by repeating it over and over again so I did. As I read the commentary I understood more and more. What God was doing in me through the Song was greater and faster than any other portion of Scripture so I tended to stay there often. I was so excited about God that I thought it funny that other's in church weren't the same way. Some where happy but it seemed most of them didn't seem to care much about God. They would talk about work, football the weather. The only thing I wanted to talk about was Jesus and God and how can I grow closer to Him.
About this time there was a mission trip to Ireland.
I started to have convictions that I should try to find Bob and witness to him. I kept praying for him but how could he be saved if he hadn't heard the Gospel that has power unto salvation. So I asked family if they had any information. Like me before, my family hated him and thought he deserved hell. After some time I got his name but no location or phone number. Either they didn't know where he was or didn't want to tell me. I prayed some more and then started to get stronger convictions to do something about finding Bob.
So I went on the internet and typed in "his name and child molestation sex offender court" thinking that some court record would have some info leading to where I may find him" I even talked to a private eye and he couldn't help. So I googled some key words and spent hours each day looking through each page. I believed it was God's will for me to witness to Bob. I wanted him to be saved. Really bad. So much so that I thought God would save Bob if I were to witness to him. So I didn't stop searching for him. I kept my computer on each day and went page by page. It took two years to go through about 15,000 pages but I found someone who matched his name in a prison for molesting his grandchildren. I wrote the prison and he wrote back. All kinds of emotions went through my body when I saw his letter from the jail. I didn't open it right away but two hours later God gave me enough courage to face my fears again and I opened the letter. He admitted to being the one who molested me. We wrote back and forth I told him I was angry before but now I was saved and that I loved him and believed God wanted me to talk to him. He read my letters over and over again. I shared the gospel in each one.
I got mad at Bob 2x. Once he said that he love me. I got really angry with him. He didn't love me. That night it was hard to love Bob, I had to call a friend to pray for me to repent, after he prayed I felt greater love for Bob. Then I wrote him back saying "I'm sorry but you can't say that you loved me. You did not love me you lusted after me." He admitted he didn't love as he should have and admitted that it was lust and sinful. Finally some conviction. Yet I only thought he was saying that because I was being nice to him. All his family had left him and he said I was the only "friend" he had.
Wether or not it was true Bob said that he had cancer in his arm and that the help the prison gives was not enough and if he had money he could see a different doctor and get help. I sent him some money and since I was in jail before I knew what it was like to be in there without money, so I sent him money.
About 4-5 months in the economy went down, it was 2008. Work was hard. I still sent him money and I had to work harder. This was a really good lesson for me because I had to "work hard for the benefit of someone who did not deserve it." This was one of the greatest blessing ever because I realized with great certainty that Jesus was in me. This is what Jesus did. Jesus worked his whole life for me and I didn't deserve it!! Christ was in me! This was one of the best feelings ever and it put me in worship for months.
Then a mission trip to Croatia.
Each time I had to leave my business and amazing as it is I was completely okay each time. I am a self employed personal trainer and it is normally absurd to just leave and start over, but each time I had enough work within 2 weeks of coming back. This is a flat out miracle. I trusted God to provide and he did. How many people can start up a business in 2 weeks. Only with the help of God. God was teaching me early on in my walk that as long as I did what He wanted me to do then I had nothing to worry about.
About 3 years saved now.
I Taught the 4 year old's at church Sunday morning for 10 years.
Left my business 2x for mission trips and God miraculously provided when I came back.
I taught 5 x a week plus held a job.
Sunday morning to the kids.
Sunday night with the 5th graders
Friday afternoons at Good News Clubs. Sponsored by Child Evangelism Fellowship.
Friday Nights with the Kids teaching through Pilgrims Progress, I did this 2x
Teaching Monday afternoons at a nursing home. I taught through the Song of Songs once then John, then Romans then back to the Song again! I love the Song of Songs.
I grew up hating God for what happened to me, and now I love Him because He first loved me. My passion is for children to grow up loving God and not hating Him.
My other passion which has become ever greater is to help others see the Love of Christ to His Church in the Song of Songs!!
I would love to help you, just let me know and I will lead you and pray for you.
God demonstrates His love to us in sending His one and only Son to suffer in our place, taking our sins upon Himself so that whoever believes they get to heaven because of what He did for us will not perish but have everlasting life.