Imagine seeing a couple absolutely on fire one for the other so that we could get a right idea of love.
Many people write love poem. Many Songs that are sung have love as it’s theme.
The worlds idea of love is quite skewed. You need only look at the divorce rate. Love is forever and many people did not love the one they married otherwise they wouldn’t have lost it. Meaning since love is forever then the majority of people who divorce didn’t have love in the first place!
If you have love it is forever. If you think you had it and lost it then you didn’t have it in the first place. God’s love is everlasting. God’s love is Eternal. We are to love as Christ loved His Bride.
Love remains under all opposition, for since love is a flame above all other flames in its durability then “Many waters cant quench love”. Why for love is unquenchable. This is true love.
To many people have infatuation or lust but not love. Many have an agreement that if I do this then you do that. Thats not love for love is free out of the love, goodness and verbosity of your heart. Love is unconditional yet many women say they won’t show love to their husbands til they show love first. Look, the Song says, “If someone were to give their whole household in exchange for love.” The offer “would be utterly despised.” for you can’t buy love.
On or about 970 bc Israel anointed a new king. David was dying and was prophesied to be Israel’s next Messiah, anointed one or otherwise known in greek as a Christ. Not Jesus Christ but like Him. Solomon “loved God” and His people. Solomon especially loved a born again Gentile slave girl that had a flame above all other flames in her heart. Their love was praiseworthy. The people knew their new king and had sensed or tasted God’s love through him. It was better than wine. Therefore they delighted in Solomon and had a high esteem of his love so the people promise,
“We will rejoice and delight in you, we will praise your love more than wine.“
Notice the first promise. It was because of the kind of person Solomon was that gave the people Joy. Thinking of who Solomon was and what he was like gave the people joy, so they promised to rejoice and delight in him. So they make two promises the first one is to rejoice and delight in their Messiah.
Notice the second promise. In this promises many things could be noted but for now I just want to point out the fact that wine is praiseworthy and so is love. Both are praiseworthy. Wine made people happy and glad Ps. 14:15, Ps. 4:7.
His love was praiseworthy due to the effect it had on their hearts. His love satisfies and gladdens more than wine. This speaks to the degree of happiness. The love their experienced from their new king as his servants was more delightful than wine. You would be hard pressed to find a king better than Solomon. His wisdom was unmeasurable and as far as riches and honor go there would be no king before him nor after him that would be greater.
Now if you look to the end of the love poem where the kind of love that Solomon had is described we can then see specific characteristics about his love that made it praiseworthy. Then we can look into the Song and see how this love in his heart affected his people and his bride. So that a praiseworthy love has praiseworthy effects in all its respective relationship wether it be love to God, Love to His people in His Kingdom here on earth, love to his wife or love to his enemies.
What kind of love is worthy of high esteem for praise is high esteem expressed in words and action? Is any old kind of love praiseworthy? I suppose to one degree or another any expression of love is praiseworthy but the love in the song is praised above wine for it is better than wine. So the love in the Song that they had for each other is no ordinary love but extraordinary. What is it about this love that makes it worthy of a greater esteem than wine?
At the end of the love poem we learn 7 things about love
1 Love is above human power for love is as strong as death. We have no power or ability to stop death. Neither do we have power to muster up love. True love is a of a strength that is above the ability of our own fallen nature to muster up. It must come from God.
2 Loves Jealousy is cruel. Cruel and painful like the fire of hell where the love and grace of God is not sensed at all but rather pain due to the separation of your soul from the love of God and the sensed feeling of only His wrath out of the Love God has to Himself and His Glory which he will not give to another.
3 Love sparks. This love that comes from an Almighty God sparks. This implies inflaming. A burst. A lighting up. A brighter burning. A spark. Sparks of love in courtship and marriage. Love flares up. What sparked your love?
4 Love is a flame above all other flames. Sweeter, more delightful, more satisfying, gives off the greatest heat and is a most holy light. There are flames but love is the highest, deepest, widest and most enduring idea, feeling and holy inclination for love is the soul’s relish of the supreme excellency of the Divine Nature which inclines the heart to choose God as it’s chief good. Love is the source of all other good flames like benevolence, compassion, empathy, patience, faithfulness, trust, faith and hope. Love is a superlative flame in it’s nature and essence.
5 Love is unquenchable. Many waters can’t quench the flame above all other flames. Love would have to be self sufficient and infinite so that many waters can’t quench it. The opposition or enemy that is overcome in the Love Song is the hating devil, Satan. The greatest and most power being God created is overcome and conquered by love. Love communicated to the heart renews the idea in the heart about what love is and what God is like for God is love.
6 Rivers of water can’t overflow love. This speaks to the filling up of love. Love doesn’t reach a limit in our hearts and then stop there. Love has degree’s. The height, depth, width and length of it goes forever. Higher and more esteemed. Depth of intimacy will always increase, how far you can extend yourself will always increase (width) and you will love forever on into Eternity. So that the filling up of your heart with love never stops due to your infinitely strict union with Jesus Christ, your Heavenly Bridegroom. Rivers of love can’t overfill love because and enlargement of heart is given with each greater spark. “Enlarge my heart so that I may run in your commands.” Psalm 119:32 Which means you can’t desire to much. If you desire an infinite amount of love then you have it in Christ for it is yours and the height and depth of your love will grow forever in degree therefore God views your love as infinite due to your union with Jesus Christ and you love will grow infinitely so that there will be no point where you love to a certain degree and stay there. So if you ask for an infinite amount of love your prayer is already answered for you have it now positionally in Christ and what is left is the outworking of what we already possess due to our infinitely strict union with Jesus Christ.
7 Love is in-exchangeable with anything we own. Love is free. Love is priceless. Love can’t be bought. All of this comes from the verse “If someone were to give everything he owns for love, the offer would be utterly despised.” 8:7 “How precious is your unfailing love, O God” Psalm 36:7
So it is this type of love that we are talking about that is praiseworthy.
Now what is praise? Praise is a high esteem expressing itself in words or action that glorifies God.
The proportion of her love in degree is praiseworthy. Her love to him is praiseworthy because the degree of her desire for him is consistent with who he is and what he is like. She is on fire for him. She doesn’t want to wait around no waist time because her understanding his love casted out all fear in her heart so she was bold and fearless like a mare in battle.
To the woman I say “I praise your love because the height of it is not to low and the depth of it not to high.”
“I praise your love more than wine because your desire for him is good and appropriate to the situation.” I praise your love more than wine for the beauty of it for it is a holy love.
How do we go about praising the kings love and the brides love?
First understand a characteristic about love. Then see it on display in the Song or in your own marriage. Have a high esteem of that love. Then express that high esteem of love in words and actions.
What is the action that expresses a high esteem of love? This action is a praise of love. In Jonathan Edward’s definition praise can also express itself in an action. “Praise is high esteem expressing itself in words or action.”
A physical action that illustrates a superlative love glorifies God who is love. In the praise is a revelation of what he is like which can also be expressed in an action.
What’s more important to the bride to be? Sleep or being close to the one she loves. Her loves jealousy couldn’t handle it anymore she had to get up in the middle of a night and try to find the one her heart loves. This action shows that she put a higher value on being closer and losing some sleep verses sleeping and not having him near her in Song 3:1-4. So I praise her love because it kept her priorities in the right order. “Don’t let the sun go down on your anger.” Ephesians 4:26. The idea is that even if it’s time for bed, forgiveness is more important than sleep.
I suppose I could go all the way through the Love Song and find some way to praise their love more than wine but save this for a later day.
God bless you as you praise true love where ever you may find it!!
Saved in 2000 at age 27. Nearly immediately I fell in love with the Song and grew very fast the first two years memorizing large portions of scripture purifying my mind the started chewing on meat to soon and struggled for 12 years and Christ has me on track like always but I just took the long way around and now I love leading others closer to Christ by seeing His love reflected in Solomons love for an enemy slave girl.
I have experienced God's love to me in the Song in ways that words can't express. There are many portion of the Word where she experiences extra ordinary outpouring of the Holy Spirit of God. If you have a burning desire for a close intimate relationship with God by experiencing His Love to you over and over again at greater and greater heights, depths, lengths and breaths then The Song of Songs is where you need to be.
I can help you with this process of Growing in the experience of God's love. As of 7-23-16 I have experienced everything prior to chapter 8. The Song of Song is progressive in experience. Meaning that if you are mature then you can experience the joys and extraordinary outpourings of God's Love shed abroad in your heart.
If you are not so mature then the delights in the first chapter of the Song will satisfy your thirst for experiencing the Love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Many Christian are living in sin because they do not know how to experience God's love and get hooked on Loving Him. It feels good to be loved and to love Him. His burden is not heavy and His yoke is light, Jesus said in Matt. 10:28
I believe God wants to use me to help beautify His Bride through the Song of Solomon.
If you see the book literally you will not understand nor grasp the Love God has for you. If you see the book and the verses in it relating to Christ's love to you then I would love to show you how to experience this Love to the fullest. I will pray for you daily and guide you every step of the way.
16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.
I grew up going to church but was a hypocrite. I lived my life how I chose but went to church on Sunday because my family went.
Mom and Dad divorced when I was about 5.
About this time I was sexually abused by "Bob" a made up name. This incident changed my life for the worst. I had no clue how to deal with it.
As I got older I grew in my hatred for Bob. I didn't blame anyone of my family because I was to young to know any better. Some of what happened during the abuse was in a bathroom. So overtime I would use the bathroom and look at my private parts that night would replay in my mind. My hatred for Bob would continue to grow each time.
Now I know this only happened to me one night. I can't image the pain other's go through who have had this happen to them over and over. Even as I write this now I cry with many tears for those hurting. God love you even though you may not know it or feel it. Go to Him in your time of need.
I was a really bad teenager. I only cared about myself and not even my family. I always came first in my mind. Even at the expense of hurting others. I was growing in my hatred for God by now.
I was going to church and was learned that God was in control. I thought well, if God was in control then He must have let me be sexually abused. I didn't understand this, How could a good and loving God allow this. I hated Him for it. My hatred for Bob grew as well. I was still using the bathroom and memories kept coming back. My heart grew even harder for Bob and God. As far as I was concerned God would have nothing to do with my life so I lived even worse. I thought I would be in jail or dead and I really didn't care, I thought it could be much worse than reliving your painful past over and over again. Little did I know that God's plan later would be to use these events to give me a burning passion for the closest most intimate love relationship with Himself through Christ mainly through the love poem in the Song of Songs in the Bible.
I remember hating Bob so much that the only thing that would relieve my pain was actually thinking he would suffer forever for what he did. I grew so much in my hatred for him that I had to continue to think that he would get even worse than what I imaged before. After some time I would only be relieved of hatred for him unless I thought he would burn in a hotter and hotter hell for all the suffering he put me through.
I never told my mom or family what happened, although I think some of them knew something had happened.
I grew up quite rebellious and even went to jail at the age of 20. I was living the fast life pursuing all my sinful desires and wanting more. It never seemed to be enough. I was quite happy in my sin but I just wanted more of it.
I lived life thinking I would die at a young age, riding motorcycle and living on the edge put me in the hospital many times and I should have been dead.
California at age 26.
I moved to California for a job opportunity at the age of 27. While trying to figure out what radio stations to program in my car, I ran across a RC Sproul talking about "people who have the faith that saves and people who only say that have faith" only the people who have the faith that saves will go to heaven. I thought "I don't think I have the faith that saves because my life was so bad." I searched the scriptures to try to get this faith. I found a church and thought people there could help me get this faith that saves. All along God kept showing me how sinful I was and that I deserved punishment from Him for living my life hating Him.
One weekend I read Matthew, Mark, Luke and John desperately trying to find out how to get this faith that saves. By now I knew that if you had the faith that saves that Jesus would be saving you from a life of sin. I still liked my sin and Jesus sure wasn't saving me from a life of sin, so I rightly concluded that I didn't have the faith that saves.
By the time I got to John, I saw "believe" everywhere. John 3:16 and other verses and wow the whole book was written so that you may believe. John 20:31 "these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in his name." So at night I would pray "I believe Jesus died for me, I believe, I believe. This was just an intellectual belief. I knew that in history and the Bible that Jesus died for everyone, so I believed it. But this belief did not change my life.
I would go on night after night saying the same prayer only to wake up the next day wanting to fulfill my sinful desires. The prayer wasn't working so I started to word it different each time hoping some prayer would work. After about 2 weeks of this I was fed up with it all, nothing was happening. I still was living in my sin and wanted more of it. A Christian hates their sin and does something about it, and certainly they don't continue to make plans to sin. The prayers weren't working so I gave up. I thought to myself "God, I tried with all my might, I searched the Scriptures, went to church, read the Bible and prayed all to no avail. If Im going to be saved your going to have to do it because I tried."
So I quit praying but still the Bible kept calling me so I read more. 3 Days later I was laying in a tanning bed and God convicted me really hard that I had offended Him by the life I was living. I was so scared of God, where could I run. You can't hide from God. It seemed like forever that I was under these terrors of being punished by a Holy Angry God. This lasted about 10 minutes then this is how I understood it. God let me understand that all that anger that He had for me for all my sin should come my way but He had poured that anger out on Jesus 2,000 years ago. I immediately started weeping an couldn't stop for about 20 minutes. All the sins that I could think of I confessed for that 20 minutes one after another after another, I was so sorrowful and grieved it physically hurt inside.
After I stopped crying I thought that was the weirdest thing that ever happened. I walked out of the tanning salon and stood outside and everything seemed so beautiful, the tree's, the birds, even the air seemed pleasant. Now I was really wondering what was going on.
I pondered all of this as I drove to work that day. I brought my Bible to work and was thinking what am I doing, I want to take my Bible to work so I can read it. As soon as I got to work I started reading my Bible. I couldn't believe what I was reading!! It all was so wonderful. It felt so good to just read my Bible. My client showed up and as I was training them the only thing I could think about was getting back to my Bible. I read all night and slept about 2 hours and was reading again.
I had sinful things in my apartment and I rounded everything evil up and threw it in the garbage. It was weird I was thinking but it felt good so I left it all in the garbage. I called my girlfriend to break it up and she thought I had another girl, I said no, I just think this is wrong we shouldn't be sleeping together. She didn't understand so I told her I was a Christian now and she still thought I had another girlfriend. She said "Im glad your a Christian, so am I" I thought to myself, "I have a strong conviction that sleeping together is wrong and she thought it was okay" I wondered how she could think that. Anyway we broke up.
I kept reading my bible and repenting, there was so much to repent of and I had lived a very sinful life. I was a thief for some part of my life and all the people I stole from kept coming to mind. I owed so much money. I was instantly in debt about $80,000. As I could I paid them back. As of 7-18-2016 I still owe about $25,000 but it sure is a joy to be paying them back.
The first week of being saved a car just about ran me over, they hit me but I wasn't hurt at all. The guy in the car felt so bad. I just looked at him and said "God bless you and have a great day, I am okay" smiled at him and moved on. Now I was really wondering what was going on because I normally would have cussed him out left and right and instead of cussing I blessed him. That was so weird. But again it felt good. I learned to do good by what my conscience told me was good and that it felt good. I got hooked on this feeling good by doing good and did it more often.
About two weeks after being saved I thought of Bob. I immediately prayed for him, something like "Lord help him.." then I stopped praying and said out loud "What am I doing?" I'm praying for a man that I hated my whole life, but it feels good and right, so I did it again. I stopped again midway in the prayer and started pacing around. I was trying to make sense of what was going on and couldn't figure it out. But again it made me happy to pray for him so I did. Bob would often come to mind when I went to the bathroom and each time I would pray for Him. The more I did this the less weird it got. And the greater my love grew for him.
I started memorizing large portions of scripture and this was wonderful because it felt like the words were cleaning my mind and as Proverbs 2:10 "For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul." I wanted more and more of this pleasantness. So I memorized even more and the joy got more and more.
Then this life changing advice came:
A friend from church told me to find a book of the Bible and really understand it. Read through the Bible and pick one and read it over and over and study it and really get it. So I started in Genesis and read through. When I got to Proverbs I really liked it so I thought that would be the book. I started by memorizing all of Proverbs chapter 3. After that I thought maybe there is a better book than Proverbs. So I read on. Then I came to Song of Solomon. I read it with quite some confusion. It wasn't as good as the other books, I didn't know why. So I bought a commentary on it. George Burrowes commentary on the Song of Solomon.
In the commentary I found that George and other saw the book as illustrating God's love to the Church. And not only illustrating it but displaying the Love of Christ better than any other book. This caught my attention big time, because I was having a burning desire for a closer relationship with God and desperately learning about His Love so that I could Love God. You see I had hated Him for so long that God used that old hard heart to spur me on in loving Him. I so much did not want to hate God anymore that I was on fire to learn to Love Him as much and as fast as possible. So here was a book that would help me do that. So I landed on the Song of Solomon. I committed to learning as much of this book as possible.
I memorized the first chapter and would repeat it often throughout the day. I didn't know much of what I was repeating but it sure made me happier and on fire for God. I grew so fast repeating the first chapter over and over again all day, like a dozen times a day at least. It felt so good and I never found any other book that caused me to weep so much. I would often weep everyday just reading it. I was to immature to know what was going on. Even though it hurt to weep so much, I felt like my heart was being cleansed from the filth that was in it by repeating it over and over again so I did. As I read the commentary I understood more and more. What God was doing in me through the Song was greater and faster than any other portion of Scripture so I tended to stay there often. I was so excited about God that I thought it funny that other's in church weren't the same way. Some where happy but it seemed most of them didn't seem to care much about God. They would talk about work, football the weather. The only thing I wanted to talk about was Jesus and God and how can I grow closer to Him.
About this time there was a mission trip to Ireland.
I started to have convictions that I should try to find Bob and witness to him. I kept praying for him but how could he be saved if he hadn't heard the Gospel that has power unto salvation. So I asked family if they had any information. Like me before, my family hated him and thought he deserved hell. After some time I got his name but no location or phone number. Either they didn't know where he was or didn't want to tell me. I prayed some more and then started to get stronger convictions to do something about finding Bob.
So I went on the internet and typed in "his name and child molestation sex offender court" thinking that some court record would have some info leading to where I may find him" I even talked to a private eye and he couldn't help. So I googled some key words and spent hours each day looking through each page. I believed it was God's will for me to witness to Bob. I wanted him to be saved. Really bad. So much so that I thought God would save Bob if I were to witness to him. So I didn't stop searching for him. I kept my computer on each day and went page by page. It took two years to go through about 15,000 pages but I found someone who matched his name in a prison for molesting his grandchildren. I wrote the prison and he wrote back. All kinds of emotions went through my body when I saw his letter from the jail. I didn't open it right away but two hours later God gave me enough courage to face my fears again and I opened the letter. He admitted to being the one who molested me. We wrote back and forth I told him I was angry before but now I was saved and that I loved him and believed God wanted me to talk to him. He read my letters over and over again. I shared the gospel in each one.
I got mad at Bob 2x. Once he said that he love me. I got really angry with him. He didn't love me. That night it was hard to love Bob, I had to call a friend to pray for me to repent, after he prayed I felt greater love for Bob. Then I wrote him back saying "I'm sorry but you can't say that you loved me. You did not love me you lusted after me." He admitted he didn't love as he should have and admitted that it was lust and sinful. Finally some conviction. Yet I only thought he was saying that because I was being nice to him. All his family had left him and he said I was the only "friend" he had.
Wether or not it was true Bob said that he had cancer in his arm and that the help the prison gives was not enough and if he had money he could see a different doctor and get help. I sent him some money and since I was in jail before I knew what it was like to be in there without money, so I sent him money.
About 4-5 months in the economy went down, it was 2008. Work was hard. I still sent him money and I had to work harder. This was a really good lesson for me because I had to "work hard for the benefit of someone who did not deserve it." This was one of the greatest blessing ever because I realized with great certainty that Jesus was in me. This is what Jesus did. Jesus worked his whole life for me and I didn't deserve it!! Christ was in me! This was one of the best feelings ever and it put me in worship for months.
Then a mission trip to Croatia.
Each time I had to leave my business and amazing as it is I was completely okay each time. I am a self employed personal trainer and it is normally absurd to just leave and start over, but each time I had enough work within 2 weeks of coming back. This is a flat out miracle. I trusted God to provide and he did. How many people can start up a business in 2 weeks. Only with the help of God. God was teaching me early on in my walk that as long as I did what He wanted me to do then I had nothing to worry about.
About 3 years saved now.
I Taught the 4 year old's at church Sunday morning for 10 years.
Left my business 2x for mission trips and God miraculously provided when I came back.
I taught 5 x a week plus held a job.
Sunday morning to the kids.
Sunday night with the 5th graders
Friday afternoons at Good News Clubs. Sponsored by Child Evangelism Fellowship.
Friday Nights with the Kids teaching through Pilgrims Progress, I did this 2x
Teaching Monday afternoons at a nursing home. I taught through the Song of Songs once then John, then Romans then back to the Song again! I love the Song of Songs.
I grew up hating God for what happened to me, and now I love Him because He first loved me. My passion is for children to grow up loving God and not hating Him.
My other passion which has become ever greater is to help others see the Love of Christ to His Church in the Song of Songs!!
I would love to help you, just let me know and I will lead you and pray for you.
God demonstrates His love to us in sending His one and only Son to suffer in our place, taking our sins upon Himself so that whoever believes they get to heaven because of what He did for us will not perish but have everlasting life.