Skip to content

The Perfect Lover and Friend!!

How would you describe the perfect lover?

If there was a man who was the best husband in the world, how would you describe him?

Jesus is obviously the perfect spiritual Husband!!  All other husband pale in comparison to Him.

Im talking about a husband so much like Jesus Christ that he loved his wife as Christ loved his Bride and gave himself up for her.

How would you describe such a husband?   What would he do?  What would he think of God?  What would he think of his bride?  What will he say to her to draw her closer to himself?   What would he do to increase the level of spiritual and physical intimacy in the marriage?  And because of who he is and what he does for you your description of you husband who is better than any other husband would go something like this….

My beloved above all other beloved’s is glorious and majestic yet humble,
    outstanding among ten thousand.
11 His head is purest gold; his hair is wavy
    and black as a raven.
12 His eyes are like doves by the water streams,
washed in milk, mounted like jewels.
13 His cheeks are like beds of spice yielding perfume.
His lips are like lilies
    dripping with myrrh.
14 His arms are rods of gold
    set with topaz.
His heart is like polished ivory
    decorated with lapis lazuli.
15 His legs are pillars of marble
    set on bases of pure gold.
His appearance is like Lebanon,
    choice as its cedars.
16 His mouth is sweetness itself;
    he is altogether lovely.
This is my beloved, this is my friend.”

I tell you what.  This is a description of a the king who was most like Jesus Christ at the time is the princess of peace’s husband, Solomon, the king of peace, Jedidiah, beloved son of God, Israel’s 3rd Messiah who was gifted with unmeasurable wisdom.

Imaging a husband who had unmeasurable wisdom and “loved God” and his wife with an unquenchable love 8:6-7.  1 Kings 4:29 and 1 Kings 3:3.

Every woman ought to be thinking “Where is he?”  or “I want to get him”  ( or let me know what you would say in the comments below.)

Every Christian ought to be thinking.  Wow that man would be a whole lot like Christ!  To see the glory of God in the face of Solomon is to see the glory of a type of Christ!

When you read this description, it is a description from his wife’s point of view as to what he was like and why he was a “beloved above all other beloved’s” 5:9.

No wonder the puritans thought the Love Song above all other’s was about Jesus and His love to his Bride and replaced Solomon for Jesus.  But no Solomon was “chief among ten thousand” other lovers, yes!  But Jesus is “Greater than Solomon” Matt. 12:42

See the glory!  See the majesty of Solomon as king of nations next to his humility as a child asking for wisdom!!  For her husband above all others was “glorious and majestic yet humble“.

Do you see the beauty of what looks like opposite characteristics in the same person?   I mean how hard would it be for a man with unmeasurable wisdom to stay humble.  How beautiful is it to see the most majestic king who would receive more honor, glory and riches than anyone else because of his “love for God” and His people over riches.

Most translations say she describes him as

Radiant and Ruddy

White and Ruddy

Clear and Ruddy

Dark and Dazzling

Fit and Strong

Screen Shot 2018-07-29 at 3.02.01 PM.png
Handsome and Healthy

The point here that the bride is trying to make about her husband above all other’s is that what makes him stand out is that he is not only the best lover of all other beloved’s he is glorious, beautiful and majestic above all other’s yet at the same time he is humble!

It would be easier for a king of kings to exalt himself in his own mind than it would for the poorest man alive!  Solomon received more honor than anyone else in his lifetime!

“Moreover, I will give you what you have not asked for—both wealth and honor—so that in your lifetime you will have no equal among kings.”
Solomon would have no equal!!  This is a comparison verse.  Comparing the amount of honor Solomon got compared to other kings.   Solomon was a king of kings.  He was the most superlative king of his lifetime!
Solomon “loved God” and “followed the statutes of David” 1 Kings 3:3.
Solomon also use the “Law of Moses”  as his guide because the government to the nations now united was on his shoulders.  How the king of peace used the Torah and Psalms as his Authority in his relationship with Israel as their king and in his role as a father and in his role as a husband. This leadership role of Solomon was seen by his wife as being pure leadership and thus was very valuable and precious to her.  He was so precious and valuable that earlier she would be willing to giver her life to him in order to have him close to her heart.
Now that we have gone over the glory, honor and humility of Solomon lets move on to his headship or leadership in Israel and his marriage.
Here in 5:11  the bride in the Song describes her Christ like husband as having a “head that is pure gold.”

 

I’m so glad that when we read this that it is flat out obvious that her husband was not a statue that had a head that was pure gold!!

3902_a.jpg

So we don’t take this verse literally of course. So we take it figuratively.  “His head is purest gold” NIV, BSB, CSB, CEV, HCSB

Well, at this point you might be thinking…. “thats the translation you chose”  okay so lets look at some others.

His head is finest gold”  ESV, NLT

GN500G.jpg

His head is as the most fine gold” KJV

She is not just describing what he literally looks like as in the rest of the verse when she talks about his hair.  “his hair was black as a raven”  His hair can literally be black as a raven.  So we take it literally but his head can’t be literally pure gold otherwise he would be dead or a statue.

So we take it figuratively to mean his headship.  Or his leadership.  His leadership in Israel was pure gold and his leadership in the marriage was pure gold.  As head of Israel he did a flawless job because God gifted him with unmeasurable wisdom.  As head of his wife he was also like pure gold, flawless and valuable.  His leadership as king in Jerusalem had nothing wrong with it from her perspective!!  His leadership in the marriage had nothing wrong with it either!!  Due to the fact that his leadership was more honorable than any other king in his lifetime this made his leadership valuable thus the use of the word “gold”.  Gold is also desirable to have.

Therefore I take the metaphor to have 3 lively illustration in it.

1  The fact that it was pure.  His leadership was pure or the finest.  So we have Solomon being a superlative leader over Israel and his wife.

2  The fact that his head was very valuable.  Gold has value.  Pure Gold has the greatest value.  The finest Gold has the greatest value.  His leadership had a greater value to it than any other leader, which is one reason why he was a husband above all other husband’s.

3  Since he leadership was flawless and valuable above all other’s this made him most desirable to have as a husband.   If you had your choice, wouldn’t you want someone who’s leadership was like purest gold or like silver or copper?   Gold leadership holds more value therefore he should be treasured all the more by his wife!!

God is the best leader and when a husband uses the Word of God to guide his marriage then his authority in the marriage would be of great value to his wife.  His head would be like pure gold.

If the husband was guided by the unmeasurable wisdom of Solomon in his marriage then the wife would value her husband all the more!!

Solomon wasn’t the perfect husband in every respect but he was be like our Perfect Husband.  This is why Solomon is a type of Christ and Jesus Christ is the Anti-type.  All husbands are supposed to be like Christ.  Solomon was the most like Christ in his lifetime.

Jesus Christ is guided by unmeasurable wisdom, motivated by infinite love and will always be faithful!!  His head is infinitely pure gold!!

Application for

Husbands

182814431

Use the word of God and Song of Solomon as your guide in your marriage!!  See how Solomon loved his wife and you should do the same!!   See how Solomon loved his wife and then see how Jesus loves you even more then love you wife as Christ loves you!

Match yourself up with Solomon and see how you compare.  He was chief among ten thousand.  So maybe your somewhere down at the bottom of the list or the middle and if you are  quite like Christ then Im sure you would be closer to the top.  But Solomon would still out husband you.   I mean unless you had unmeasurable wisdom then you could say you matched him, but no man before or after Solomon would ever be so blessed.  See how he wisely and lovingly leads her, see how he shepherds her heart, see how he woo’s her closer to himself by his love and faithfulness, see his sweet words he says, see him forgiving and overlooking her sin, see his patients, see his loves, see how he gives himself to her, see how he treasures her, see how he praises her and do the same as soon as possible!

You are royalty!!  In Christ you are of the highest royalty, you must act like it with humility.  Don’t misuse or flaunt your role over your wife, but serve her in love.  A good leader leads by example first.  You are not only most glorious in Christ you must also be humble in your marriage so that you have leadership like purest gold.

Wife

The wife is to submit to the husband.  Ephesians 5:22ff.   Eve was to submit to Adam for Adam was made first.  He is the head she is the body.  When a husband uses the Word of God as his Authority in the relationship then submission to her husband is submission to God.  Love to husband and love to God in one act.  Submit to your husband as you are to submit to your heavenly Husband.

Have no fear of listening to a husband who uses Scripture as his guide in marriage because God knows best!!  I mean do you want worldly advice on how to have a happy and holy marriage or Godly advice.  God gave us a whole book on marriage.  Eight full chapters of it.  If you husband is using the Song of Songs properly as his guide to loving you in the marriage, then how precious and valuable is that!

How many guys out there even care to look to Scripture and then do what it says?  Not very many.  If you have a husband who uses Scripture as his guide then his leadership will become more and more pure and valuable as time goes on.

The believer

Jesus Christ is your spiritual Husband, not a physical husband on earth but he is your Husband and we are the Bride.  We are united to Him.  We are one, so we should act like it.

The bride admired and valued the leadership of her husband in the Love Song, then how much more so are we to value Jesus Christ in our relationship with Him.  Do you see the more so in the above sentence.  Jesus is Greater than Solomon, therefore his headship is greater, infinitely greater!  Infinitely more worthy of honor and glory.  We don’t have an idiot for a leader we have an infinitely wise and immutable Leader who’s head is infinitely pure and valuable therefore he is worthy of our deepest love, highest treasuring and humble submission!

Admire the suitableness or fitness of Jesus Christ to be our Perfect Husband.  He perfectly qualifies, we ought not to question his leadership and Authority over us in our relationship with Him.  We ought to hurry to learn and do more from Him!  We ought not to waist any time going elsewhere for wisdom.  God has given us “everything for life and godliness” in Christ and the Scriptures.

Another piece of advice would be for you to value your Bible!  Treasure it as a great love gift from God that you don’t deserve at all!!

 

 

 

 

mostsublimesong View All

Saved in 2000 at age 27. Nearly immediately I fell in love with the Song and grew very fast the first two years memorizing large portions of scripture purifying my mind the started chewing on meat to soon and struggled for 12 years and Christ has me on track like always but I just took the long way around and now I love leading others closer to Christ by seeing His love reflected in Solomons love for an enemy slave girl.

I have experienced God's love to me in the Song in ways that words can't express. There are many portion of the Word where she experiences extra ordinary outpouring of the Holy Spirit of God. If you have a burning desire for a close intimate relationship with God by experiencing His Love to you over and over again at greater and greater heights, depths, lengths and breaths then The Song of Songs is where you need to be.

I can help you with this process of Growing in the experience of God's love. As of 7-23-16 I have experienced everything prior to chapter 8. The Song of Song is progressive in experience. Meaning that if you are mature then you can experience the joys and extraordinary outpourings of God's Love shed abroad in your heart.

If you are not so mature then the delights in the first chapter of the Song will satisfy your thirst for experiencing the Love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Many Christian are living in sin because they do not know how to experience God's love and get hooked on Loving Him. It feels good to be loved and to love Him. His burden is not heavy and His yoke is light, Jesus said in Matt. 10:28

I believe God wants to use me to help beautify His Bride through the Song of Solomon.

If you see the book literally you will not understand nor grasp the Love God has for you. If you see the book and the verses in it relating to Christ's love to you then I would love to show you how to experience this Love to the fullest. I will pray for you daily and guide you every step of the way.

16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.

20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.

I grew up going to church but was a hypocrite. I lived my life how I chose but went to church on Sunday because my family went.

Mom and Dad divorced when I was about 5.

About this time I was sexually abused by "Bob" a made up name. This incident changed my life for the worst. I had no clue how to deal with it.

As I got older I grew in my hatred for Bob. I didn't blame anyone of my family because I was to young to know any better. Some of what happened during the abuse was in a bathroom. So overtime I would use the bathroom and look at my private parts that night would replay in my mind. My hatred for Bob would continue to grow each time.

Now I know this only happened to me one night. I can't image the pain other's go through who have had this happen to them over and over. Even as I write this now I cry with many tears for those hurting. God love you even though you may not know it or feel it. Go to Him in your time of need.

I was a really bad teenager. I only cared about myself and not even my family. I always came first in my mind. Even at the expense of hurting others. I was growing in my hatred for God by now.

I was going to church and was learned that God was in control. I thought well, if God was in control then He must have let me be sexually abused. I didn't understand this, How could a good and loving God allow this. I hated Him for it. My hatred for Bob grew as well. I was still using the bathroom and memories kept coming back. My heart grew even harder for Bob and God. As far as I was concerned God would have nothing to do with my life so I lived even worse. I thought I would be in jail or dead and I really didn't care, I thought it could be much worse than reliving your painful past over and over again. Little did I know that God's plan later would be to use these events to give me a burning passion for the closest most intimate love relationship with Himself through Christ mainly through the love poem in the Song of Songs in the Bible.

I remember hating Bob so much that the only thing that would relieve my pain was actually thinking he would suffer forever for what he did. I grew so much in my hatred for him that I had to continue to think that he would get even worse than what I imaged before. After some time I would only be relieved of hatred for him unless I thought he would burn in a hotter and hotter hell for all the suffering he put me through.

I never told my mom or family what happened, although I think some of them knew something had happened.

I grew up quite rebellious and even went to jail at the age of 20. I was living the fast life pursuing all my sinful desires and wanting more. It never seemed to be enough. I was quite happy in my sin but I just wanted more of it.

I lived life thinking I would die at a young age, riding motorcycle and living on the edge put me in the hospital many times and I should have been dead.

California at age 26.

I moved to California for a job opportunity at the age of 27. While trying to figure out what radio stations to program in my car, I ran across a RC Sproul talking about "people who have the faith that saves and people who only say that have faith" only the people who have the faith that saves will go to heaven. I thought "I don't think I have the faith that saves because my life was so bad." I searched the scriptures to try to get this faith. I found a church and thought people there could help me get this faith that saves. All along God kept showing me how sinful I was and that I deserved punishment from Him for living my life hating Him.

One weekend I read Matthew, Mark, Luke and John desperately trying to find out how to get this faith that saves. By now I knew that if you had the faith that saves that Jesus would be saving you from a life of sin. I still liked my sin and Jesus sure wasn't saving me from a life of sin, so I rightly concluded that I didn't have the faith that saves.

By the time I got to John, I saw "believe" everywhere. John 3:16 and other verses and wow the whole book was written so that you may believe. John 20:31 "these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in his name." So at night I would pray "I believe Jesus died for me, I believe, I believe. This was just an intellectual belief. I knew that in history and the Bible that Jesus died for everyone, so I believed it. But this belief did not change my life.

I would go on night after night saying the same prayer only to wake up the next day wanting to fulfill my sinful desires. The prayer wasn't working so I started to word it different each time hoping some prayer would work. After about 2 weeks of this I was fed up with it all, nothing was happening. I still was living in my sin and wanted more of it. A Christian hates their sin and does something about it, and certainly they don't continue to make plans to sin. The prayers weren't working so I gave up. I thought to myself "God, I tried with all my might, I searched the Scriptures, went to church, read the Bible and prayed all to no avail. If Im going to be saved your going to have to do it because I tried."

So I quit praying but still the Bible kept calling me so I read more. 3 Days later I was laying in a tanning bed and God convicted me really hard that I had offended Him by the life I was living. I was so scared of God, where could I run. You can't hide from God. It seemed like forever that I was under these terrors of being punished by a Holy Angry God. This lasted about 10 minutes then this is how I understood it. God let me understand that all that anger that He had for me for all my sin should come my way but He had poured that anger out on Jesus 2,000 years ago. I immediately started weeping an couldn't stop for about 20 minutes. All the sins that I could think of I confessed for that 20 minutes one after another after another, I was so sorrowful and grieved it physically hurt inside.

After I stopped crying I thought that was the weirdest thing that ever happened. I walked out of the tanning salon and stood outside and everything seemed so beautiful, the tree's, the birds, even the air seemed pleasant. Now I was really wondering what was going on.

I pondered all of this as I drove to work that day. I brought my Bible to work and was thinking what am I doing, I want to take my Bible to work so I can read it. As soon as I got to work I started reading my Bible. I couldn't believe what I was reading!! It all was so wonderful. It felt so good to just read my Bible. My client showed up and as I was training them the only thing I could think about was getting back to my Bible. I read all night and slept about 2 hours and was reading again.

I had sinful things in my apartment and I rounded everything evil up and threw it in the garbage. It was weird I was thinking but it felt good so I left it all in the garbage. I called my girlfriend to break it up and she thought I had another girl, I said no, I just think this is wrong we shouldn't be sleeping together. She didn't understand so I told her I was a Christian now and she still thought I had another girlfriend. She said "Im glad your a Christian, so am I" I thought to myself, "I have a strong conviction that sleeping together is wrong and she thought it was okay" I wondered how she could think that. Anyway we broke up.

I kept reading my bible and repenting, there was so much to repent of and I had lived a very sinful life. I was a thief for some part of my life and all the people I stole from kept coming to mind. I owed so much money. I was instantly in debt about $80,000. As I could I paid them back. As of 7-18-2016 I still owe about $25,000 but it sure is a joy to be paying them back.

The first week of being saved a car just about ran me over, they hit me but I wasn't hurt at all. The guy in the car felt so bad. I just looked at him and said "God bless you and have a great day, I am okay" smiled at him and moved on. Now I was really wondering what was going on because I normally would have cussed him out left and right and instead of cussing I blessed him. That was so weird. But again it felt good. I learned to do good by what my conscience told me was good and that it felt good. I got hooked on this feeling good by doing good and did it more often.

About two weeks after being saved I thought of Bob. I immediately prayed for him, something like "Lord help him.." then I stopped praying and said out loud "What am I doing?" I'm praying for a man that I hated my whole life, but it feels good and right, so I did it again. I stopped again midway in the prayer and started pacing around. I was trying to make sense of what was going on and couldn't figure it out. But again it made me happy to pray for him so I did. Bob would often come to mind when I went to the bathroom and each time I would pray for Him. The more I did this the less weird it got. And the greater my love grew for him.

I started memorizing large portions of scripture and this was wonderful because it felt like the words were cleaning my mind and as Proverbs 2:10 "For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul." I wanted more and more of this pleasantness. So I memorized even more and the joy got more and more.

Then this life changing advice came:

A friend from church told me to find a book of the Bible and really understand it. Read through the Bible and pick one and read it over and over and study it and really get it. So I started in Genesis and read through. When I got to Proverbs I really liked it so I thought that would be the book. I started by memorizing all of Proverbs chapter 3. After that I thought maybe there is a better book than Proverbs. So I read on. Then I came to Song of Solomon. I read it with quite some confusion. It wasn't as good as the other books, I didn't know why. So I bought a commentary on it. George Burrowes commentary on the Song of Solomon.

In the commentary I found that George and other saw the book as illustrating God's love to the Church. And not only illustrating it but displaying the Love of Christ better than any other book. This caught my attention big time, because I was having a burning desire for a closer relationship with God and desperately learning about His Love so that I could Love God. You see I had hated Him for so long that God used that old hard heart to spur me on in loving Him. I so much did not want to hate God anymore that I was on fire to learn to Love Him as much and as fast as possible. So here was a book that would help me do that. So I landed on the Song of Solomon. I committed to learning as much of this book as possible.

I memorized the first chapter and would repeat it often throughout the day. I didn't know much of what I was repeating but it sure made me happier and on fire for God. I grew so fast repeating the first chapter over and over again all day, like a dozen times a day at least. It felt so good and I never found any other book that caused me to weep so much. I would often weep everyday just reading it. I was to immature to know what was going on. Even though it hurt to weep so much, I felt like my heart was being cleansed from the filth that was in it by repeating it over and over again so I did. As I read the commentary I understood more and more. What God was doing in me through the Song was greater and faster than any other portion of Scripture so I tended to stay there often. I was so excited about God that I thought it funny that other's in church weren't the same way. Some where happy but it seemed most of them didn't seem to care much about God. They would talk about work, football the weather. The only thing I wanted to talk about was Jesus and God and how can I grow closer to Him.

About this time there was a mission trip to Ireland.

I started to have convictions that I should try to find Bob and witness to him. I kept praying for him but how could he be saved if he hadn't heard the Gospel that has power unto salvation. So I asked family if they had any information. Like me before, my family hated him and thought he deserved hell. After some time I got his name but no location or phone number. Either they didn't know where he was or didn't want to tell me. I prayed some more and then started to get stronger convictions to do something about finding Bob.

So I went on the internet and typed in "his name and child molestation sex offender court" thinking that some court record would have some info leading to where I may find him" I even talked to a private eye and he couldn't help. So I googled some key words and spent hours each day looking through each page. I believed it was God's will for me to witness to Bob. I wanted him to be saved. Really bad. So much so that I thought God would save Bob if I were to witness to him. So I didn't stop searching for him. I kept my computer on each day and went page by page. It took two years to go through about 15,000 pages but I found someone who matched his name in a prison for molesting his grandchildren. I wrote the prison and he wrote back. All kinds of emotions went through my body when I saw his letter from the jail. I didn't open it right away but two hours later God gave me enough courage to face my fears again and I opened the letter. He admitted to being the one who molested me. We wrote back and forth I told him I was angry before but now I was saved and that I loved him and believed God wanted me to talk to him. He read my letters over and over again. I shared the gospel in each one.

I got mad at Bob 2x. Once he said that he love me. I got really angry with him. He didn't love me. That night it was hard to love Bob, I had to call a friend to pray for me to repent, after he prayed I felt greater love for Bob. Then I wrote him back saying "I'm sorry but you can't say that you loved me. You did not love me you lusted after me." He admitted he didn't love as he should have and admitted that it was lust and sinful. Finally some conviction. Yet I only thought he was saying that because I was being nice to him. All his family had left him and he said I was the only "friend" he had.

Wether or not it was true Bob said that he had cancer in his arm and that the help the prison gives was not enough and if he had money he could see a different doctor and get help. I sent him some money and since I was in jail before I knew what it was like to be in there without money, so I sent him money.

About 4-5 months in the economy went down, it was 2008. Work was hard. I still sent him money and I had to work harder. This was a really good lesson for me because I had to "work hard for the benefit of someone who did not deserve it." This was one of the greatest blessing ever because I realized with great certainty that Jesus was in me. This is what Jesus did. Jesus worked his whole life for me and I didn't deserve it!! Christ was in me! This was one of the best feelings ever and it put me in worship for months.

Then a mission trip to Croatia.

Each time I had to leave my business and amazing as it is I was completely okay each time. I am a self employed personal trainer and it is normally absurd to just leave and start over, but each time I had enough work within 2 weeks of coming back. This is a flat out miracle. I trusted God to provide and he did. How many people can start up a business in 2 weeks. Only with the help of God. God was teaching me early on in my walk that as long as I did what He wanted me to do then I had nothing to worry about.

About 3 years saved now.

I Taught the 4 year old's at church Sunday morning for 10 years.

Left my business 2x for mission trips and God miraculously provided when I came back.

I taught 5 x a week plus held a job.

Sunday morning to the kids.
Sunday night with the 5th graders
Friday afternoons at Good News Clubs. Sponsored by Child Evangelism Fellowship.
Friday Nights with the Kids teaching through Pilgrims Progress, I did this 2x
Teaching Monday afternoons at a nursing home. I taught through the Song of Songs once then John, then Romans then back to the Song again! I love the Song of Songs.
I grew up hating God for what happened to me, and now I love Him because He first loved me. My passion is for children to grow up loving God and not hating Him.

My other passion which has become ever greater is to help others see the Love of Christ to His Church in the Song of Songs!!

I would love to help you, just let me know and I will lead you and pray for you.

God demonstrates His love to us in sending His one and only Son to suffer in our place, taking our sins upon Himself so that whoever believes they get to heaven because of what He did for us will not perish but have everlasting life.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: