Marriage is a beautiful reflection or image of God or the Trinity!
Marriage is an illustration of God. There are Three Modes of Existence in the Trinity and all have the same Holy Nature consisting in Love. God is Love.
God is Love. To explain and understand the nature of Love is to define and understand God for God is love. Love is a principle and God is the sum of all good Principles. Love is a fundamental principle of the Godhead and Christianity. Love to God and others.
God the Father loves God the Son. God loves Himself. Out of God’s love to Himself He Gave Himself or the Holy Spirit who is God and a sinful bride to the Son as love gifts. Yet the Father never properly speaking ever gave the bride and Himself to the Son for the Son always had the Father and the Father always had the Son. Mutual possession. Similar to that of marriage when the husband gives himself to the bride and the bride gives herself to the husband because they love each other.
Love the Holy Spirit, God, dwells in the Father and the Son.
Love the Holy Spirit, God, dwells in the husband and the wife.
God is Love.
God’s nature is Love.
The essence of God is Love.
A characteristic of God is that he Loves.
A characteristic of a king with a good name is that he loves and for anyone to experience his love would find that it was “more delightful than wine.” Song 1:2
It is true that every marriage from Adam and Eve before the fall and Adam and Eve after the fall to Israel’s Messiah and his bride in the Song to Hosea and Gomer in Hosea 3:1, have in some form or fashion something similar or analogous to the union between God the Father and God the Son, God the Father union with Israel through God the Son in the person of the Angel Ex. 23:20-23 and 33:3. or God’s union with Israel and the union of a man and a woman in love. The Original and Always union was the Father with the Son which included the Bride of the Son. In God the Father’s Eternal Eyes the Son was always united to His Bride everything from creation to all eternity is a playing out in real time what always was in the Mind of God.
Therefore any union has similar aspects to the One True Union of God with Himself in the Person of the Son and His bride. The union of Adam and Eve before the fall is a marriage union in love. Adam loved Eve. Jesus is likened to a husband and His Bride is likened to a woman. A husband loves his wife. Adam loved his wife. God the Father loved the One he was united to as well.
The union of the Father with the Son I call a True union because all other unions are only shadow or reflection of the union of the Father and Son for they are One like a husband and wife are one and the bride of Christ and Christ are one.
Reflections or shadows can me more lively than other reflections. Have you ever looked at a reflection and then had some idea of what the reflection was but really couldn’t see clearly, or clearer or clear enough to come to a conclusion of what you saw in perfect detail? Surely you would get some truth as to what you were looking at as to its size, shape or color but if it was a reflection in water then the detail would be lost.
Compare the reflection to the original.
There is an agreement of sorts between the reflection and the original. As if the reflection loves the original. The reflection is an image of the original. The degree of beauty in the reflection is dependent upon how close the image is to the original/Original.
Every marriage is like the reflection. Something like the original union or marriage but not exactly like it in every way. In the picture above the reflection is red and so is the flower, the reflection has a shine to it but not quite like the original. So also every marriage has a shine to it but not Shining like the Original, but every shining light in marriage gives us some idea of the Original. Each marriage can give us some idea of the original and other marriages can give us a better idea.
Adam and Eve were not enemies before the fall, therefore that aspect of the union that the Father had with His Enemy bride in Christ would not be on display in Adam and Eves marriage until after the fall when they became enemies and blame shifted do to their sinful nature. God the Father always loved God the Son who was united to God’s enemies.
So also the analogy of one being loving an enemy is also on display in the Song of Songs because the king of peace marries a Gentile enemy slave girl (after she was born again). But quite a bit of her unredeemed flesh remained so even though they were friends she once acted like an enemy to the throne/Throne by her disobedience to the king call in Song 5:2-4. Failure to deny herself, go through some trouble and answer the call of her husband.
Gomer was commanded by God to marry a woman who God knew would go astray and become a prostitute in so that the love God had for Israel would be reflected in his marriage. Hose 3:1 3 The Lord said to me, “Go, show your love to your wife again, though she is loved by another man and is an adulteress. Love her as the Lord loves the Israelites, though they turn to other gods and love the sacred raisin cakes.”
Here in the marriage of a husband and wife the wife goes off and commits adultery yet Hosea still pursues her and loved her as the Lord loved the spiritual adulterous Israel. One marriage is a picture of another Marriage, so that we could get a better idea of the Love of God. The clearer our idea of God the greater and purer our love to him and other’s will be!
So one marriage gives us some true idea of Love, therefore some idea of God. Lets say Adam to Eve.
Any believing husband who loves his wife
Another marriage gives us a truer idea of Love. Lets say Hosea’s love to Gomer.
Imagine the best husband you know. How did he love his wife. Did he completely give himself to her in every way always? Did he not keep a record of wrongs? Was he faithful in every way? There is a husband in a marriage union that illustrates the Love of God better than 10,000 other marriages and that union is the union of Israel’s Messiah the king of peace to a Gentile enemy slave girl in Solomon’s Song of Songs.
This marriage gives us the best idea of love better than 10,000 other marriages.
This kings love to God, his people and his bride is praiseworthy! Therefore all those who have joy in their relationship with the king due to his love to them say in Song 1:4,
“We will rejoice and delight in you we will praise your love more than wine.”
Now some may say that Solomon loved many wives. Yes, but the Scriptures say that he loved them in a sexual way when he was “old”. Seeing Solomon does nothing sinful in the Song and had a name for himself and was chief among ten thousand husbands then I take it that the bride in the Song is his first wife. And it is highly possible that she died and then he fell for all the other’s. At any rate king Solomon in the Song does nothing wrong and is an example of how a husband ought to love his wife in various situation of courtship and marriage so that the husband can be fully equipped to love his wife similar to how Christ loves His Bride.
Israels Messiah, the king of kings, king of peace, shepherd, friend and chief husband among ten thousand other husbands had the most intimate relationship with his bride in all of Scripture. They were one by the end of the Song. They were like minded in every way. You could say they could finish each other’s sentences. The husband knows what she is thinking and feeling. They are heart to heart by the end of the Song.
The Song helps teach a husband how to draw his wife closer to God and himself. The Love Song above all other’s corrects those who have been taught and are trying but need correction. The Song rebukes those who have been taught and know better. The Song encourages those who are one and likeminded to continue loving each other even more deeply having been trained in living righteously in marriage loving each other reflecting the love of God in their union for all to see, sense and delight in more than wine.
Husbands, think often of God and His love to you and love your wife the same. Think often of the Love of Jesus and love your wife the same. In seeing Jesus, delighting in Him, you will be empowered to love your wife the same way. Loving your wife can be easier than you think for the yoke of Jesus is light. Just trying harder to love your wife will burn you out, it is a burden Jesus doesn’t want you to carry. The design of God is for you to behold the beautiful love of Jesus first and His love to you in order for you to be empowered to love Him and your wife back. Here love is made complete and is on full display for all to see and enjoy. How can anyone on earth see and sense the love of God unless husbands start and keep loving their wives. Yes, we can see love on display in a father to a son or friend to a friend but a greater love is on display when a husband loves his wife as Christ loves the Church. He forgives her and has no anger toward her. He grieves when she sins. He is patient with her. He leads her to still waters. He provides for her. He is faithful to her. He keeps all his promises when they were wedded. He loves her. He cherishes her. He praises her noble character when worthy of it like Jesus who says, “Well done good and faithful servant” yet she knows she is only doing her greatest delight by serving him as he has found his greatest delight in serving her best interest in the union.
And don’t tell me “My wife isn’t listening to me” when you haven’t been listening to God!! You are the leader. Point the finger at yourself first and keep no record of any wrong your wife has done as Christ loves the Church. Every godly woman loves to submit to a wise, loving and faithful husband for herein is love for she only desires to please her husband as she desires to please Jesus!
To the wife. Marriage is a reflection of the Trinity. The Father loves the Son and the Son loves the Bride and the Bride loves the Son. God is love. In order for love to be made complete you must love your husband and your love to him will be more delightful than wine. Song 4:9. In context the wife is listening to her husband immediately and it saves her life. Wife when you do not listen to your husband it creates separation and spiritual death for the enemy of your relationship will get his way when you sin and don’t listen to God who wants you to listen to your husband immediately. Solomon called his wife down from the mountain where there were lions and she turned his way after he said “Come down…” in 4:8 and her love to him expressed in her glance toward him was more delightful than wine to him and more precious than diamonds.
Wife, think often of the way in which the church ought to submit to Jesus Christ and submit that way to your husband. See how the bride loves the king and love your husband the same way. See how the bride loves the shepherd and love your husband the same way. See how the bride of Christ loves and treats her husband, Jesus Christ, as a friend and not an enemy and love the one your heart loves the same way.
As you understand Jesus’s love to you, you will love Him back and loving your husband will be the most delightful experience of your life! And it will only get better.
Deny yourself, go through whatever God requires of you and follow Jesus. You will never know the love of God until you deny yourself or draw closer to Him. Both say the same thing. How do you draw closer? Get rid of sin in your heart! Behold the Beauty of the Lord, His holiness which primarily consists in Love to God manifested most evidently at the cross. See you sin placed on Christ at the cross, bearing the full wrath of God on your behalf when the Father turned his back on Christ because He could not look upon your sin upon Christ with approval but with only strict Justice. See all your sins upon him.
Think of all your sin and accept the fact that you deserve the wrath of God for your sins and know that Jesus averted the wrath of God away from you and took it upon Himself. Her is love for He gave Himself for us. He who knows he has been forgiven much will love much! When you love the purpose of your union with Jesus is manifested. When you love God is glorified. When you love God you enjoy Him. You enjoy obeying Him, worshiping Him, praising Him, beholding His beauty. If you love Him you will enjoy obeying Him! His Law will be your delight in the inner man. You were created to enjoy God in Christ and glorify Him forever.
?Love? God’s Love.
The Father and the Son’s relish of the supreme excellency of their nature inclining their hearts toward each other as their Chief Good.
Saved in 2000 at age 27. Nearly immediately I fell in love with the Song and grew very fast the first two years memorizing large portions of scripture purifying my mind the started chewing on meat to soon and struggled for 12 years and Christ has me on track like always but I just took the long way around and now I love leading others closer to Christ by seeing His love reflected in Solomons love for an enemy slave girl.
I have experienced God's love to me in the Song in ways that words can't express. There are many portion of the Word where she experiences extra ordinary outpouring of the Holy Spirit of God. If you have a burning desire for a close intimate relationship with God by experiencing His Love to you over and over again at greater and greater heights, depths, lengths and breaths then The Song of Songs is where you need to be.
I can help you with this process of Growing in the experience of God's love. As of 7-23-16 I have experienced everything prior to chapter 8. The Song of Song is progressive in experience. Meaning that if you are mature then you can experience the joys and extraordinary outpourings of God's Love shed abroad in your heart.
If you are not so mature then the delights in the first chapter of the Song will satisfy your thirst for experiencing the Love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Many Christian are living in sin because they do not know how to experience God's love and get hooked on Loving Him. It feels good to be loved and to love Him. His burden is not heavy and His yoke is light, Jesus said in Matt. 10:28
I believe God wants to use me to help beautify His Bride through the Song of Solomon.
If you see the book literally you will not understand nor grasp the Love God has for you. If you see the book and the verses in it relating to Christ's love to you then I would love to show you how to experience this Love to the fullest. I will pray for you daily and guide you every step of the way.
16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.
I grew up going to church but was a hypocrite. I lived my life how I chose but went to church on Sunday because my family went.
Mom and Dad divorced when I was about 5.
About this time I was sexually abused by "Bob" a made up name. This incident changed my life for the worst. I had no clue how to deal with it.
As I got older I grew in my hatred for Bob. I didn't blame anyone of my family because I was to young to know any better. Some of what happened during the abuse was in a bathroom. So overtime I would use the bathroom and look at my private parts that night would replay in my mind. My hatred for Bob would continue to grow each time.
Now I know this only happened to me one night. I can't image the pain other's go through who have had this happen to them over and over. Even as I write this now I cry with many tears for those hurting. God love you even though you may not know it or feel it. Go to Him in your time of need.
I was a really bad teenager. I only cared about myself and not even my family. I always came first in my mind. Even at the expense of hurting others. I was growing in my hatred for God by now.
I was going to church and was learned that God was in control. I thought well, if God was in control then He must have let me be sexually abused. I didn't understand this, How could a good and loving God allow this. I hated Him for it. My hatred for Bob grew as well. I was still using the bathroom and memories kept coming back. My heart grew even harder for Bob and God. As far as I was concerned God would have nothing to do with my life so I lived even worse. I thought I would be in jail or dead and I really didn't care, I thought it could be much worse than reliving your painful past over and over again. Little did I know that God's plan later would be to use these events to give me a burning passion for the closest most intimate love relationship with Himself through Christ mainly through the love poem in the Song of Songs in the Bible.
I remember hating Bob so much that the only thing that would relieve my pain was actually thinking he would suffer forever for what he did. I grew so much in my hatred for him that I had to continue to think that he would get even worse than what I imaged before. After some time I would only be relieved of hatred for him unless I thought he would burn in a hotter and hotter hell for all the suffering he put me through.
I never told my mom or family what happened, although I think some of them knew something had happened.
I grew up quite rebellious and even went to jail at the age of 20. I was living the fast life pursuing all my sinful desires and wanting more. It never seemed to be enough. I was quite happy in my sin but I just wanted more of it.
I lived life thinking I would die at a young age, riding motorcycle and living on the edge put me in the hospital many times and I should have been dead.
California at age 26.
I moved to California for a job opportunity at the age of 27. While trying to figure out what radio stations to program in my car, I ran across a RC Sproul talking about "people who have the faith that saves and people who only say that have faith" only the people who have the faith that saves will go to heaven. I thought "I don't think I have the faith that saves because my life was so bad." I searched the scriptures to try to get this faith. I found a church and thought people there could help me get this faith that saves. All along God kept showing me how sinful I was and that I deserved punishment from Him for living my life hating Him.
One weekend I read Matthew, Mark, Luke and John desperately trying to find out how to get this faith that saves. By now I knew that if you had the faith that saves that Jesus would be saving you from a life of sin. I still liked my sin and Jesus sure wasn't saving me from a life of sin, so I rightly concluded that I didn't have the faith that saves.
By the time I got to John, I saw "believe" everywhere. John 3:16 and other verses and wow the whole book was written so that you may believe. John 20:31 "these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in his name." So at night I would pray "I believe Jesus died for me, I believe, I believe. This was just an intellectual belief. I knew that in history and the Bible that Jesus died for everyone, so I believed it. But this belief did not change my life.
I would go on night after night saying the same prayer only to wake up the next day wanting to fulfill my sinful desires. The prayer wasn't working so I started to word it different each time hoping some prayer would work. After about 2 weeks of this I was fed up with it all, nothing was happening. I still was living in my sin and wanted more of it. A Christian hates their sin and does something about it, and certainly they don't continue to make plans to sin. The prayers weren't working so I gave up. I thought to myself "God, I tried with all my might, I searched the Scriptures, went to church, read the Bible and prayed all to no avail. If Im going to be saved your going to have to do it because I tried."
So I quit praying but still the Bible kept calling me so I read more. 3 Days later I was laying in a tanning bed and God convicted me really hard that I had offended Him by the life I was living. I was so scared of God, where could I run. You can't hide from God. It seemed like forever that I was under these terrors of being punished by a Holy Angry God. This lasted about 10 minutes then this is how I understood it. God let me understand that all that anger that He had for me for all my sin should come my way but He had poured that anger out on Jesus 2,000 years ago. I immediately started weeping an couldn't stop for about 20 minutes. All the sins that I could think of I confessed for that 20 minutes one after another after another, I was so sorrowful and grieved it physically hurt inside.
After I stopped crying I thought that was the weirdest thing that ever happened. I walked out of the tanning salon and stood outside and everything seemed so beautiful, the tree's, the birds, even the air seemed pleasant. Now I was really wondering what was going on.
I pondered all of this as I drove to work that day. I brought my Bible to work and was thinking what am I doing, I want to take my Bible to work so I can read it. As soon as I got to work I started reading my Bible. I couldn't believe what I was reading!! It all was so wonderful. It felt so good to just read my Bible. My client showed up and as I was training them the only thing I could think about was getting back to my Bible. I read all night and slept about 2 hours and was reading again.
I had sinful things in my apartment and I rounded everything evil up and threw it in the garbage. It was weird I was thinking but it felt good so I left it all in the garbage. I called my girlfriend to break it up and she thought I had another girl, I said no, I just think this is wrong we shouldn't be sleeping together. She didn't understand so I told her I was a Christian now and she still thought I had another girlfriend. She said "Im glad your a Christian, so am I" I thought to myself, "I have a strong conviction that sleeping together is wrong and she thought it was okay" I wondered how she could think that. Anyway we broke up.
I kept reading my bible and repenting, there was so much to repent of and I had lived a very sinful life. I was a thief for some part of my life and all the people I stole from kept coming to mind. I owed so much money. I was instantly in debt about $80,000. As I could I paid them back. As of 7-18-2016 I still owe about $25,000 but it sure is a joy to be paying them back.
The first week of being saved a car just about ran me over, they hit me but I wasn't hurt at all. The guy in the car felt so bad. I just looked at him and said "God bless you and have a great day, I am okay" smiled at him and moved on. Now I was really wondering what was going on because I normally would have cussed him out left and right and instead of cussing I blessed him. That was so weird. But again it felt good. I learned to do good by what my conscience told me was good and that it felt good. I got hooked on this feeling good by doing good and did it more often.
About two weeks after being saved I thought of Bob. I immediately prayed for him, something like "Lord help him.." then I stopped praying and said out loud "What am I doing?" I'm praying for a man that I hated my whole life, but it feels good and right, so I did it again. I stopped again midway in the prayer and started pacing around. I was trying to make sense of what was going on and couldn't figure it out. But again it made me happy to pray for him so I did. Bob would often come to mind when I went to the bathroom and each time I would pray for Him. The more I did this the less weird it got. And the greater my love grew for him.
I started memorizing large portions of scripture and this was wonderful because it felt like the words were cleaning my mind and as Proverbs 2:10 "For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul." I wanted more and more of this pleasantness. So I memorized even more and the joy got more and more.
Then this life changing advice came:
A friend from church told me to find a book of the Bible and really understand it. Read through the Bible and pick one and read it over and over and study it and really get it. So I started in Genesis and read through. When I got to Proverbs I really liked it so I thought that would be the book. I started by memorizing all of Proverbs chapter 3. After that I thought maybe there is a better book than Proverbs. So I read on. Then I came to Song of Solomon. I read it with quite some confusion. It wasn't as good as the other books, I didn't know why. So I bought a commentary on it. George Burrowes commentary on the Song of Solomon.
In the commentary I found that George and other saw the book as illustrating God's love to the Church. And not only illustrating it but displaying the Love of Christ better than any other book. This caught my attention big time, because I was having a burning desire for a closer relationship with God and desperately learning about His Love so that I could Love God. You see I had hated Him for so long that God used that old hard heart to spur me on in loving Him. I so much did not want to hate God anymore that I was on fire to learn to Love Him as much and as fast as possible. So here was a book that would help me do that. So I landed on the Song of Solomon. I committed to learning as much of this book as possible.
I memorized the first chapter and would repeat it often throughout the day. I didn't know much of what I was repeating but it sure made me happier and on fire for God. I grew so fast repeating the first chapter over and over again all day, like a dozen times a day at least. It felt so good and I never found any other book that caused me to weep so much. I would often weep everyday just reading it. I was to immature to know what was going on. Even though it hurt to weep so much, I felt like my heart was being cleansed from the filth that was in it by repeating it over and over again so I did. As I read the commentary I understood more and more. What God was doing in me through the Song was greater and faster than any other portion of Scripture so I tended to stay there often. I was so excited about God that I thought it funny that other's in church weren't the same way. Some where happy but it seemed most of them didn't seem to care much about God. They would talk about work, football the weather. The only thing I wanted to talk about was Jesus and God and how can I grow closer to Him.
About this time there was a mission trip to Ireland.
I started to have convictions that I should try to find Bob and witness to him. I kept praying for him but how could he be saved if he hadn't heard the Gospel that has power unto salvation. So I asked family if they had any information. Like me before, my family hated him and thought he deserved hell. After some time I got his name but no location or phone number. Either they didn't know where he was or didn't want to tell me. I prayed some more and then started to get stronger convictions to do something about finding Bob.
So I went on the internet and typed in "his name and child molestation sex offender court" thinking that some court record would have some info leading to where I may find him" I even talked to a private eye and he couldn't help. So I googled some key words and spent hours each day looking through each page. I believed it was God's will for me to witness to Bob. I wanted him to be saved. Really bad. So much so that I thought God would save Bob if I were to witness to him. So I didn't stop searching for him. I kept my computer on each day and went page by page. It took two years to go through about 15,000 pages but I found someone who matched his name in a prison for molesting his grandchildren. I wrote the prison and he wrote back. All kinds of emotions went through my body when I saw his letter from the jail. I didn't open it right away but two hours later God gave me enough courage to face my fears again and I opened the letter. He admitted to being the one who molested me. We wrote back and forth I told him I was angry before but now I was saved and that I loved him and believed God wanted me to talk to him. He read my letters over and over again. I shared the gospel in each one.
I got mad at Bob 2x. Once he said that he love me. I got really angry with him. He didn't love me. That night it was hard to love Bob, I had to call a friend to pray for me to repent, after he prayed I felt greater love for Bob. Then I wrote him back saying "I'm sorry but you can't say that you loved me. You did not love me you lusted after me." He admitted he didn't love as he should have and admitted that it was lust and sinful. Finally some conviction. Yet I only thought he was saying that because I was being nice to him. All his family had left him and he said I was the only "friend" he had.
Wether or not it was true Bob said that he had cancer in his arm and that the help the prison gives was not enough and if he had money he could see a different doctor and get help. I sent him some money and since I was in jail before I knew what it was like to be in there without money, so I sent him money.
About 4-5 months in the economy went down, it was 2008. Work was hard. I still sent him money and I had to work harder. This was a really good lesson for me because I had to "work hard for the benefit of someone who did not deserve it." This was one of the greatest blessing ever because I realized with great certainty that Jesus was in me. This is what Jesus did. Jesus worked his whole life for me and I didn't deserve it!! Christ was in me! This was one of the best feelings ever and it put me in worship for months.
Then a mission trip to Croatia.
Each time I had to leave my business and amazing as it is I was completely okay each time. I am a self employed personal trainer and it is normally absurd to just leave and start over, but each time I had enough work within 2 weeks of coming back. This is a flat out miracle. I trusted God to provide and he did. How many people can start up a business in 2 weeks. Only with the help of God. God was teaching me early on in my walk that as long as I did what He wanted me to do then I had nothing to worry about.
About 3 years saved now.
I Taught the 4 year old's at church Sunday morning for 10 years.
Left my business 2x for mission trips and God miraculously provided when I came back.
I taught 5 x a week plus held a job.
Sunday morning to the kids.
Sunday night with the 5th graders
Friday afternoons at Good News Clubs. Sponsored by Child Evangelism Fellowship.
Friday Nights with the Kids teaching through Pilgrims Progress, I did this 2x
Teaching Monday afternoons at a nursing home. I taught through the Song of Songs once then John, then Romans then back to the Song again! I love the Song of Songs.
I grew up hating God for what happened to me, and now I love Him because He first loved me. My passion is for children to grow up loving God and not hating Him.
My other passion which has become ever greater is to help others see the Love of Christ to His Church in the Song of Songs!!
I would love to help you, just let me know and I will lead you and pray for you.
God demonstrates His love to us in sending His one and only Son to suffer in our place, taking our sins upon Himself so that whoever believes they get to heaven because of what He did for us will not perish but have everlasting life.