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True Loves First Spark

Solomon’s Song of Songs is the best love Song Solomon wrote out of 1,005. Solomon was Israels 3rd Messiah and he married a born again Gentile slave girl. By the end of the poem the two of them had become so close that the relationship looked like that of our hearts and bodies.

Our heart and body are one. Two different roles but they operate as one. The couple in the love poem truly loved each other and had God’s love in their hearts. They shared the same love and had the same mind. They were one and since they had true their they also had an abundance of joy and peace in the relationship. They were one and acted like it, therefore they were happy.

Have you ever seen an older Christian couple like that? Seems to be fewer and fewer of them. The questions to them are often. You are so happy, whats the key? Many different answers but all can greatly be summed up in love.

Another question often posed to a couple that goes through the ups and downs of life and marriage and still they get closer and are happy is “How did you guys meet?” And they go on to say how they met, dated, got engaged and married then they tell you the ups and downs of life and how they made it through. And we sit back and go “Thats beautiful!”

The couple in the love song loved each other, that’s clear.

“They had a love indwelling them that was above human power for their love was strong as death. They had a love that nothing could stop or dis unite their hearts. Their love jealousy also was cruel like the fire of hell so that neither partner wanted to provoke the other to jealousy, for their loves flame was a flame above all other’s and it’s spark’s were superior in nature. Neither could their desire for each other be to much. Their love was both free and priceless.” My paraphrase of Song 8:6-7

These verses clearly help us understand certain excellent qualities about love. Excellent qualities of true love are it’s superlative power. Holy and pure. It’s jealousy is most severe. Unquenchable and priceless.

What was the foundation of their love?

What was their loved based on?

Why did she love him? She loved him, yes. But why did she have these feeling for him?

This is an important question because if she mainly loves him because he is handsome as the primary foundation of her love. Then if his good looks go away then she won’t love him anymore. The primary foundation of her love would be gone.

If she loved him because of all the places he could take her with his money or the security she could have from his money. What if he gets in an accident and is handicapped, will she love him still? No, not if his money and what it did for her was the primary foundation of her love. Looks and money can be secondary reason, like bonuses but in true love a love that still continues and where neither bad looks nor poverty can’t destroy. What is the primary foundation of love in those scenarios.

In one word “character”.

What was the foundation of her love to him? The answer is in the first spark. Love sparks. When was the first spark of her love? She fell in love with him at his first anointing. She fell in love with Israel coming king at his first anointing. What was her love based on? What was she thinking what was she feeling? Isn’t it great we get to know what she was thinking and feeling. She had a subjective feeling of delight based on the objective truth of his character. Listen to how she lets us know her love to a man who was like Jesus Christ.

“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his lips for you love is better than wine. Pleasing is the fragrance of your anointing oils. You name is like ointments poured out.” Solomon’s Song of songs 1:2-3

Loves first spark has its seat in her soul for he is “the one her soul loves” Song 1:7

So her love to him has its seat in her soul but she loves him. What is it about him that she loves that can’t be taken away, because the foundation of true love must remain in order for her love to remain.


She had God’s word on it that he was and will be a good man with a reputation as being a king of kings, who loved God 1 Kings 3:3. God was his Father. He was His son. He would be the greatest peace maker of Israel’s history. He would be faithful and build a holy temple for God to dwell in. 2 Sam. 7:12-15 So the foundation of her love was his character or name. Who he is, what he was like and what he will be like. So the foundation of her love was his character or name. What’s in a name? 1 Who he is 2 What he is like and 3 What he will do and be like. All based on God who is faithful and His word.

Love. A love to a godly man for the beauty and sweetness of his moral excellency, which is the same as a love to a christian man for the beauty and sweetness of his holy life, as the first and primary foundation of her love is a lasting foundation. Because God promises to keep godly men godly and work all things together of the ups and downs of the marriage for his good which is to be conformed to the image of Christ. Which means God has a level of Christ likeness or good works that he has pre determined for him to walk in and he will. Not saying that adultery and divorce are not possible for the Christian but that the fire in their heart will not go completely out, though it be a smoldering wick.

“A love to diving things or persons for the beauty and sweetness of their moral excellency, is the first and beginning and spring of all holy affections.” JE

No way in the world an unbeliever would love to be married to a holy man who wanted her to believe and love Jesus. To love God and to pray, read the Bible, mediate on scripture and love him sacrificially with purer and purer motives as the bride of Christ’s loves Him. It would be not as happy a union as two believers. An unbeliever would love a man of honesty, justice, generosity, common good nature and social skills but these are only common to all to one degree or another. The believer has virtues that characterize them as truly loving, having a holy faith, sincere humility, and heavenly mindedness that a non believer doesn’t. True love has a motive of pleasing God whereas the one who doesn’t love God puts themselves first before God, therefore they won’t give money to the church, share the whole gospel with non believers including hell and sin, won’t pray in secret godly prayers nor will they love Christ and suffer for His sake. True love has for its foundation the godly excellency of the one they love. Their love to God. Their belief in all the basic truths because they have a holy faith. Secret prayer.

Yes, Solomon was king and would be a king of kings. It is a good and excellent thing to be a king of kings. But is he a holy king of kings or an evil king of kings. High status is a good and honorable thing but only if acquired in a holy, loving and good manner. Love does not delight in evil. Nor an evil character. Delight in the object of affection is included in love. To have affection for a person primarily because of their status is not a solid foundation. For if the status were gone and they were a poor popper but still had the most godliest character would you still want to marry them? His majesty is lovely only because the king of peace is holy and that holiness consists in love to God. To love someone for their status primarily would show that the person would have some selfish motive in their love, some perceived benefit from having a husband who was king. The eye is primarily on the benefit of such a man and not his character. If they cared not for his character primarily then its not love but selfishness and infatuation driving the decision to desire such a man.

Holiness in man is but an image of God’s holiness. The heart and will of Israel’s Messiah was right and lovely and derived from the holiness of God, The Original. Therefore he/He is morally good or excellent.

Is your man a Christian and is he faithful in loving God, then God will continue to work all things in his life for the good of him becoming more like Jesus. Romans 8:28-29

He is a lovely person because he is good to others, loves God, God is His father, he is His son, he will give to the poor. The trials in life only make him better. He is loving. He is wise. He lives his life according to the Bible.

The contemplation of a good and holy man kissing her was pleasing only because God had put His Love in his heart.

Character is first and foremost. Love, humility, faith, heavenly mindedness. Trials. These things prove a person. Who they are. It may take time to get to know someone before you arouse or awaken a deeper level of love.

Loving. Not selfish nor egocentric.

Humble. Not boastful in himself but in the Lord.

Faith in the holy Scriptures as a way of life.

Faith in Jesus Christ as Savior and not good works.

Heavenly mindedness. Not worldly mindedness. Decisions are made based on valuing eternal things and not earthly.

Look to the character in trials. Difficult situations that prove they love God rather than some selfish lust. The trials make them more humble, loving and draw them closer to God where as most trials make people more angry with God or more anxious rather than trust and make them more focused on self rather than God.

A person may have lots of knowledge but do they use that knowledge in a way that pleases God first rather than themselves. Knowledge is not a moral excellency of a person but is a natural excellency. Knowledge motivated by love and guided by godly wisdom is beautiful because of love to God first and wisdom who’s bringing is the fear of God. Those who love God have a reverential fear and awe of Him that tends to holy and loving thoughts and feelings that manifest themselves in a holy life.

The woman in the Song would first have to know who it is and what he was like in order to desire him. She knew his love would be better than wine. So she still is not selfish in her desire of him because she loves him before the happiness she would get from his loving actions. So she places the happiness of the marriage or her happiness in the contemplation of who he is for his “name” was like perfume poured out. How do we know her motive?

Because love is not selfish. 1 Cor. 13:4-8. Also love is free and priceless and can’t be bought. If she first loved being loved by him then when he wouldn’t be there loving her then she wouldn’t love him. No, she loves him even if she didn’t get kisses. “Pleasing is the fragrance of your anointing oils. You name…” is pleasing to me. Take out the kisses and he is her king and she is his servant. She will still love him as her king but not as a husband/king. All the kissing in the world couldn’t buy her love because it is priceless. There is no doubt that after
God’s glory, and beholding his perfections, where ever they may be, including love. That once love becomes agreeable to her that she places her highest happiness in love. Wether contemplating, receiving or giving it, it is better than wine. So the desire for more loves first comes from knowing who it is that is doing the holy loving.

Love is not selfish. Love is free. Love is priceless.

It is not a strange arguing, that because she has her heart united to God in love, and , as a fruit of this, desires God’s glory and enjoyment as her own happiness. She gets a better happiness from him kissing her than what she gets from wine. She wants kisses but is not selfish nor will she awaken this intimate and affectionate love in him until love desires.

If, after a man loves God, and has his heart united to Him as to look upon God as his chief good and on God’s good as his own, it will be a consequence and fruit of this that even a proper and holy self-love, or love to ones own happiness, will cause him to desire the glorifying and enjoying of God. It will not then follow, that this very exercise of a proper love to self, went before his love to God. She seeks her happiness in what God commands her to. Be happy loving her husband for who he is and be happy experiencing God’s love through him. As John Piper says, “God is most glorified in me when I am most satisfied in Him” He lays the bounds of my happiness in doing what pleases Him. If it pleases Him it glorifies him. For me to be happy in both receiving and giving love, God is glorified. I then place my happiness in God and am most satisfied in Him and not the world or wine for his love is better.

It is a fruit of love to God that inclines the heart to seek it’s happiness in doing what God wants for them. God wants her to love her Messiah. She wants to love her Messiah. Both desires are the same. God’s wants her to be happy when her husband shows love to her because it manifests a perfection of God, love.
God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied and happy with seeing and delighting in a manifestation of God’s attributes. Love.

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Saved in 2000 at age 27. Nearly immediately I fell in love with the Song and grew very fast the first two years memorizing large portions of scripture purifying my mind the started chewing on meat to soon and struggled for 12 years and Christ has me on track like always but I just took the long way around and now I love leading others closer to Christ by seeing His love reflected in Solomons love for an enemy slave girl.

I have experienced God's love to me in the Song in ways that words can't express. There are many portion of the Word where she experiences extra ordinary outpouring of the Holy Spirit of God. If you have a burning desire for a close intimate relationship with God by experiencing His Love to you over and over again at greater and greater heights, depths, lengths and breaths then The Song of Songs is where you need to be.

I can help you with this process of Growing in the experience of God's love. As of 7-23-16 I have experienced everything prior to chapter 8. The Song of Song is progressive in experience. Meaning that if you are mature then you can experience the joys and extraordinary outpourings of God's Love shed abroad in your heart.

If you are not so mature then the delights in the first chapter of the Song will satisfy your thirst for experiencing the Love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Many Christian are living in sin because they do not know how to experience God's love and get hooked on Loving Him. It feels good to be loved and to love Him. His burden is not heavy and His yoke is light, Jesus said in Matt. 10:28

I believe God wants to use me to help beautify His Bride through the Song of Solomon.

If you see the book literally you will not understand nor grasp the Love God has for you. If you see the book and the verses in it relating to Christ's love to you then I would love to show you how to experience this Love to the fullest. I will pray for you daily and guide you every step of the way.

16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.

20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.

I grew up going to church but was a hypocrite. I lived my life how I chose but went to church on Sunday because my family went.

Mom and Dad divorced when I was about 5.

About this time I was sexually abused by "Bob" a made up name. This incident changed my life for the worst. I had no clue how to deal with it.

As I got older I grew in my hatred for Bob. I didn't blame anyone of my family because I was to young to know any better. Some of what happened during the abuse was in a bathroom. So overtime I would use the bathroom and look at my private parts that night would replay in my mind. My hatred for Bob would continue to grow each time.

Now I know this only happened to me one night. I can't image the pain other's go through who have had this happen to them over and over. Even as I write this now I cry with many tears for those hurting. God love you even though you may not know it or feel it. Go to Him in your time of need.

I was a really bad teenager. I only cared about myself and not even my family. I always came first in my mind. Even at the expense of hurting others. I was growing in my hatred for God by now.

I was going to church and was learned that God was in control. I thought well, if God was in control then He must have let me be sexually abused. I didn't understand this, How could a good and loving God allow this. I hated Him for it. My hatred for Bob grew as well. I was still using the bathroom and memories kept coming back. My heart grew even harder for Bob and God. As far as I was concerned God would have nothing to do with my life so I lived even worse. I thought I would be in jail or dead and I really didn't care, I thought it could be much worse than reliving your painful past over and over again. Little did I know that God's plan later would be to use these events to give me a burning passion for the closest most intimate love relationship with Himself through Christ mainly through the love poem in the Song of Songs in the Bible.

I remember hating Bob so much that the only thing that would relieve my pain was actually thinking he would suffer forever for what he did. I grew so much in my hatred for him that I had to continue to think that he would get even worse than what I imaged before. After some time I would only be relieved of hatred for him unless I thought he would burn in a hotter and hotter hell for all the suffering he put me through.

I never told my mom or family what happened, although I think some of them knew something had happened.

I grew up quite rebellious and even went to jail at the age of 20. I was living the fast life pursuing all my sinful desires and wanting more. It never seemed to be enough. I was quite happy in my sin but I just wanted more of it.

I lived life thinking I would die at a young age, riding motorcycle and living on the edge put me in the hospital many times and I should have been dead.

California at age 26.

I moved to California for a job opportunity at the age of 27. While trying to figure out what radio stations to program in my car, I ran across a RC Sproul talking about "people who have the faith that saves and people who only say that have faith" only the people who have the faith that saves will go to heaven. I thought "I don't think I have the faith that saves because my life was so bad." I searched the scriptures to try to get this faith. I found a church and thought people there could help me get this faith that saves. All along God kept showing me how sinful I was and that I deserved punishment from Him for living my life hating Him.

One weekend I read Matthew, Mark, Luke and John desperately trying to find out how to get this faith that saves. By now I knew that if you had the faith that saves that Jesus would be saving you from a life of sin. I still liked my sin and Jesus sure wasn't saving me from a life of sin, so I rightly concluded that I didn't have the faith that saves.

By the time I got to John, I saw "believe" everywhere. John 3:16 and other verses and wow the whole book was written so that you may believe. John 20:31 "these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in his name." So at night I would pray "I believe Jesus died for me, I believe, I believe. This was just an intellectual belief. I knew that in history and the Bible that Jesus died for everyone, so I believed it. But this belief did not change my life.

I would go on night after night saying the same prayer only to wake up the next day wanting to fulfill my sinful desires. The prayer wasn't working so I started to word it different each time hoping some prayer would work. After about 2 weeks of this I was fed up with it all, nothing was happening. I still was living in my sin and wanted more of it. A Christian hates their sin and does something about it, and certainly they don't continue to make plans to sin. The prayers weren't working so I gave up. I thought to myself "God, I tried with all my might, I searched the Scriptures, went to church, read the Bible and prayed all to no avail. If Im going to be saved your going to have to do it because I tried."

So I quit praying but still the Bible kept calling me so I read more. 3 Days later I was laying in a tanning bed and God convicted me really hard that I had offended Him by the life I was living. I was so scared of God, where could I run. You can't hide from God. It seemed like forever that I was under these terrors of being punished by a Holy Angry God. This lasted about 10 minutes then this is how I understood it. God let me understand that all that anger that He had for me for all my sin should come my way but He had poured that anger out on Jesus 2,000 years ago. I immediately started weeping an couldn't stop for about 20 minutes. All the sins that I could think of I confessed for that 20 minutes one after another after another, I was so sorrowful and grieved it physically hurt inside.

After I stopped crying I thought that was the weirdest thing that ever happened. I walked out of the tanning salon and stood outside and everything seemed so beautiful, the tree's, the birds, even the air seemed pleasant. Now I was really wondering what was going on.

I pondered all of this as I drove to work that day. I brought my Bible to work and was thinking what am I doing, I want to take my Bible to work so I can read it. As soon as I got to work I started reading my Bible. I couldn't believe what I was reading!! It all was so wonderful. It felt so good to just read my Bible. My client showed up and as I was training them the only thing I could think about was getting back to my Bible. I read all night and slept about 2 hours and was reading again.

I had sinful things in my apartment and I rounded everything evil up and threw it in the garbage. It was weird I was thinking but it felt good so I left it all in the garbage. I called my girlfriend to break it up and she thought I had another girl, I said no, I just think this is wrong we shouldn't be sleeping together. She didn't understand so I told her I was a Christian now and she still thought I had another girlfriend. She said "Im glad your a Christian, so am I" I thought to myself, "I have a strong conviction that sleeping together is wrong and she thought it was okay" I wondered how she could think that. Anyway we broke up.

I kept reading my bible and repenting, there was so much to repent of and I had lived a very sinful life. I was a thief for some part of my life and all the people I stole from kept coming to mind. I owed so much money. I was instantly in debt about $80,000. As I could I paid them back. As of 7-18-2016 I still owe about $25,000 but it sure is a joy to be paying them back.

The first week of being saved a car just about ran me over, they hit me but I wasn't hurt at all. The guy in the car felt so bad. I just looked at him and said "God bless you and have a great day, I am okay" smiled at him and moved on. Now I was really wondering what was going on because I normally would have cussed him out left and right and instead of cussing I blessed him. That was so weird. But again it felt good. I learned to do good by what my conscience told me was good and that it felt good. I got hooked on this feeling good by doing good and did it more often.

About two weeks after being saved I thought of Bob. I immediately prayed for him, something like "Lord help him.." then I stopped praying and said out loud "What am I doing?" I'm praying for a man that I hated my whole life, but it feels good and right, so I did it again. I stopped again midway in the prayer and started pacing around. I was trying to make sense of what was going on and couldn't figure it out. But again it made me happy to pray for him so I did. Bob would often come to mind when I went to the bathroom and each time I would pray for Him. The more I did this the less weird it got. And the greater my love grew for him.

I started memorizing large portions of scripture and this was wonderful because it felt like the words were cleaning my mind and as Proverbs 2:10 "For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul." I wanted more and more of this pleasantness. So I memorized even more and the joy got more and more.

Then this life changing advice came:

A friend from church told me to find a book of the Bible and really understand it. Read through the Bible and pick one and read it over and over and study it and really get it. So I started in Genesis and read through. When I got to Proverbs I really liked it so I thought that would be the book. I started by memorizing all of Proverbs chapter 3. After that I thought maybe there is a better book than Proverbs. So I read on. Then I came to Song of Solomon. I read it with quite some confusion. It wasn't as good as the other books, I didn't know why. So I bought a commentary on it. George Burrowes commentary on the Song of Solomon.

In the commentary I found that George and other saw the book as illustrating God's love to the Church. And not only illustrating it but displaying the Love of Christ better than any other book. This caught my attention big time, because I was having a burning desire for a closer relationship with God and desperately learning about His Love so that I could Love God. You see I had hated Him for so long that God used that old hard heart to spur me on in loving Him. I so much did not want to hate God anymore that I was on fire to learn to Love Him as much and as fast as possible. So here was a book that would help me do that. So I landed on the Song of Solomon. I committed to learning as much of this book as possible.

I memorized the first chapter and would repeat it often throughout the day. I didn't know much of what I was repeating but it sure made me happier and on fire for God. I grew so fast repeating the first chapter over and over again all day, like a dozen times a day at least. It felt so good and I never found any other book that caused me to weep so much. I would often weep everyday just reading it. I was to immature to know what was going on. Even though it hurt to weep so much, I felt like my heart was being cleansed from the filth that was in it by repeating it over and over again so I did. As I read the commentary I understood more and more. What God was doing in me through the Song was greater and faster than any other portion of Scripture so I tended to stay there often. I was so excited about God that I thought it funny that other's in church weren't the same way. Some where happy but it seemed most of them didn't seem to care much about God. They would talk about work, football the weather. The only thing I wanted to talk about was Jesus and God and how can I grow closer to Him.

About this time there was a mission trip to Ireland.

I started to have convictions that I should try to find Bob and witness to him. I kept praying for him but how could he be saved if he hadn't heard the Gospel that has power unto salvation. So I asked family if they had any information. Like me before, my family hated him and thought he deserved hell. After some time I got his name but no location or phone number. Either they didn't know where he was or didn't want to tell me. I prayed some more and then started to get stronger convictions to do something about finding Bob.

So I went on the internet and typed in "his name and child molestation sex offender court" thinking that some court record would have some info leading to where I may find him" I even talked to a private eye and he couldn't help. So I googled some key words and spent hours each day looking through each page. I believed it was God's will for me to witness to Bob. I wanted him to be saved. Really bad. So much so that I thought God would save Bob if I were to witness to him. So I didn't stop searching for him. I kept my computer on each day and went page by page. It took two years to go through about 15,000 pages but I found someone who matched his name in a prison for molesting his grandchildren. I wrote the prison and he wrote back. All kinds of emotions went through my body when I saw his letter from the jail. I didn't open it right away but two hours later God gave me enough courage to face my fears again and I opened the letter. He admitted to being the one who molested me. We wrote back and forth I told him I was angry before but now I was saved and that I loved him and believed God wanted me to talk to him. He read my letters over and over again. I shared the gospel in each one.

I got mad at Bob 2x. Once he said that he love me. I got really angry with him. He didn't love me. That night it was hard to love Bob, I had to call a friend to pray for me to repent, after he prayed I felt greater love for Bob. Then I wrote him back saying "I'm sorry but you can't say that you loved me. You did not love me you lusted after me." He admitted he didn't love as he should have and admitted that it was lust and sinful. Finally some conviction. Yet I only thought he was saying that because I was being nice to him. All his family had left him and he said I was the only "friend" he had.

Wether or not it was true Bob said that he had cancer in his arm and that the help the prison gives was not enough and if he had money he could see a different doctor and get help. I sent him some money and since I was in jail before I knew what it was like to be in there without money, so I sent him money.

About 4-5 months in the economy went down, it was 2008. Work was hard. I still sent him money and I had to work harder. This was a really good lesson for me because I had to "work hard for the benefit of someone who did not deserve it." This was one of the greatest blessing ever because I realized with great certainty that Jesus was in me. This is what Jesus did. Jesus worked his whole life for me and I didn't deserve it!! Christ was in me! This was one of the best feelings ever and it put me in worship for months.

Then a mission trip to Croatia.

Each time I had to leave my business and amazing as it is I was completely okay each time. I am a self employed personal trainer and it is normally absurd to just leave and start over, but each time I had enough work within 2 weeks of coming back. This is a flat out miracle. I trusted God to provide and he did. How many people can start up a business in 2 weeks. Only with the help of God. God was teaching me early on in my walk that as long as I did what He wanted me to do then I had nothing to worry about.

About 3 years saved now.

I Taught the 4 year old's at church Sunday morning for 10 years.

Left my business 2x for mission trips and God miraculously provided when I came back.

I taught 5 x a week plus held a job.

Sunday morning to the kids.
Sunday night with the 5th graders
Friday afternoons at Good News Clubs. Sponsored by Child Evangelism Fellowship.
Friday Nights with the Kids teaching through Pilgrims Progress, I did this 2x
Teaching Monday afternoons at a nursing home. I taught through the Song of Songs once then John, then Romans then back to the Song again! I love the Song of Songs.
I grew up hating God for what happened to me, and now I love Him because He first loved me. My passion is for children to grow up loving God and not hating Him.

My other passion which has become ever greater is to help others see the Love of Christ to His Church in the Song of Songs!!

I would love to help you, just let me know and I will lead you and pray for you.

God demonstrates His love to us in sending His one and only Son to suffer in our place, taking our sins upon Himself so that whoever believes they get to heaven because of what He did for us will not perish but have everlasting life.

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