Rousing Love
Solomon’s Song of Song is a love poem. Written by king Solomon, Israel’s 3rd messianic king. He wrote it so that all who read it could get a better and better idea of what love is in the context of him and his first wife (Naamah) becoming one. They fall in love at his first anointing. Then Naamah, as a Gentile, makes peace with God’s people in His kingdom. Their love for each other was made manifest during his proposal. Then also, the various aspects of love according to Song 8:6-7 is made manifest in the time of their engagement and marriage to complete oneness.
Each phase of the union represents a time in the relationship where love was on fire binding their hearts and it brought them one step closer to each other and a more complete oneness as seen in Solomon’s song of songs 8:6-7.
Phase 1 is before proposal. Phase 2 is the time of proposal to right before the wedding day. Phase 3 is marriage. In all three phases the love of YHWH (Song 8:6) is made manifest in their progressive union of hearts.
Marking the end of each section is the phrase in Song 2:7, 3:5, and 8:4.
“Do not arouse or awaken love until it is ready” unitil the time is right, holy, appropriate and consistent with the character of God who is Love.
In other words, “Don’t let your thoughts and feelings go to fast.”
You may feel and see the relationship as one that is moving forward but it is not the time for either to rejoice by saying “My beloved is mine and I am his“ Song 2:16 after the first date when no proposal was made!
How many of you out there have had to tell a friend to slow down when they have only first met someone? Or told them they shouldn’t be thinking things like that to soon? Or “It’ not the proper time for those thoughts and feelings when you don’t even know them yet?
Benevolent love and a sensible affectionate love can be felt to high degree’s but you can’t call it love of complacence or delight in their holy, selfless, humble character when you don’t really know them yet. The love that the young slave woman, Naamah, had when she fell in love with Israel’s 3rd Messiah included love to and delight in his holiness, which consisted in his love to God.
Non believers have no delight in holiness. This aspect of love to God can’t be felt by non Christians for they love their sin and not holiness. Their delight is to do their own will and not God’s. Love. A true and holy love. Includes love to God and his people for their holiness and Christlike characters. The puritans called this love a love of complacency. Not to be understood as a love that was complacent and not growing but a feeling that is sensed in the heart as delight in the holiness of the object of our affection.
You know you have a love of complacency in your heart if you hate sin. And that hatred for sin is manifested by you sinning less and less in your life because you hate evil and delight in good more. That delight is a delight in holiness, otherwise known as a love of complacency. So when you think of the object of your affection. The one you are having feelings for. Could it be possible to justify having a true and holy love of complacency in your heart toward a man or woman you just met and know little about?
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You don’t go to phase two until phase one is reaching to the point of being over. Phase one is getting to know the other person. Primarily, seeing their Christian character and doing their respective biblical roles to some degree or another. Getting to know each other for the sake of casting out fear of harm. 1 John 4:18.
Knowing of someone. This is like a friend telling you about someone. As in the case of Naamah, when she met Solomon for the first time. The first sparks of her love to him came when she only knew of him by the hearing of Psalm 72 at his first anointing.
Getting to know him personally came soon after Solomon’s first anointing where he take her back to David’s palace and to his chambers where the daughters of Jerusalem are and she makes peace with them. Her proving to be a “A lily among thorns” Song 2:2. She starts manifesting her delight in holiness to Solomon in her first words to him in Song 1:3. And continues to shine brightly and beautifully in a very difficult trial when she meets the holy Jewish daughters of Jerusalem who thought they were more fit to be one with their Messiah in marriage.
Have you seen or can someone testify to the fact that the one you have feelings for has a habit of more often than not, responding to trials in a way that manifests a Christlike, humble, gracious and holy manner? Your feelings are not true and biblical love until your delight in their holiness (you seeing them manifest love to God in every area of their life, mind, will and emotions) actually giving you power to sin less in your own life!
Getting to know someone on a more personal level yet keeping a distance that what is going on is not dating or courtship. This is spending either group time and or private time with the other person. Becoming closer friends and brother and sister in Christ. Acting together as co-hers of Christ Jesus.
Dating or Courtship. Agreement is made to spend time together to in order that he may draw her closer by his love to her in becoming a closer friend (1:9). To draw her closer by his love to her as a sister in Yahweh’s kingdom (4:8,9,10,11,12). To draw her closer to him by having sweet fellowship and communion in faith and love Song 1:8-9, 1:3 etc. To draw her closer and to the next level of love in proposal, by displaying his love in leadership, provision and protection (the roles of a man in marriage ought to be seen to degree in his own life). Leading and guiding his life in a Biblical manner. Providing for himself and others. Protecting himself and others from evil. Thus being precious and valuable to her, him having a “head like pure gold” Song 5:11 in leadership.
Imagine saying yes to a supposed christian man when you haven’t even heard his testimony! I mean, why does he believe he is going to heaven when he dies? If he mentions nothing of Jesus Christ then leave him (at least for a good while)!! If he says “I think ill go to heaven because I’ve done good most of my life” then leave him as well for his faith is in his own works and not the good works of Jesus Christ credited to his account. This person is self righteous and not Christ righteous.
When love is roused to early.
1 Come back to reality by telling yourself the truth
2 If the thoughts and feelings were to soon then confess them as an offense against God. Those thoughts could be a form of stealing. Having intimate thoughts of a woman before marriage is sinful. Those thoughts belong to her husband. Or thinking of her naked belongs to you in marriage, these thought come with an attitude of Lord willing, but not now. Do not awaken those feelings. Don’t add fuel to the fire. The fuel is thinking of her naked. The fuel is thinking of her as yours before marriage in any way before the time. Thinking of her as your sister in Christ and him as your brother in Christ before marriage is the truth. “Think of what is true…” Philipians. Think of each other as Co-hers in Christ. What do you have in common in Christ and fellowship about such things. Think of each other as friends and become closer friends before engagement and marriage.
My mind is growing dull so I will end it here. Let me know what you think below.
Notice when he adores her breasts in chapter 4 in rouses love and not lust. Does looking at your wife bring out selfish lust or love?
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