Hey! Christian Virgins
There is a section of the Bible where two virgins make love the night they got married. Solomon’s Song of songs 4:1-5:1.
Solomon’s song of songs is a love poem in the Bible meant to teach us what love is.
The love song describes love. Says it is powerful to cast out fear of harm and powerful to draw the two closer. Love zeal for the good and happiness of the other is more intense than the hottest fire. Love has flames. Love is from the LORD. Love is unquenchable and love is priceless.
Since love has these characteristics then lets see where we can see them on display the night the two virgins, Solomon and Naamah, made love.
To summarize. First, he lets her know how beautiful she is, her hair, eyes, temples, teeth, lips, neck and breasts. Then he sums it up with
7 “You are altogether beautiful, my darling,
And there is no blemish in you.” Solomon’s song of songs 4:7
Then he invites her to come with him from one aromatic beautiful location to one emotion high then to another and another. Some specific holy emotional highs you may have greater than ever before when you make love are: Love, joy, peace, happiness, delight, desire, satisfaction, gratitude, awe, trust and other’s I can’t think of right now.) Desiring to go with her to these emotional highs he says,
8 “Come with me from Lebanon, my bride,
May you come with me from Lebanon.
Journey down from the summit of Amana,
From the summit of Senir and Hermon,”
At the same time be careful of the dangers (lions) and evil (leopards) that can be in and leave your heart.
“From the dens of lions,
From the mountains of leopards.“
After he asked her to come with him, she responds with a glance his way. With love in her heart and a desire to go with him to various high points of pure and lovely emotional highs, she glances his way with doves’ eyes. That one glance of precious love totally ravished his heart. So, he says to her with great joy,
9 “You have made my heart beat faster, my sister, my bride;
You have made my heart beat faster with a single glance of your eyes,
With a single strand of your necklace.”
This time it’s not her external appearance that made her so beautiful to him but the love she had in her heart toward both him and the LORD that he saw in her that affected him in a way that he could not keep silent about how morally beautiful she was and how great her perfume was. I love this when he says, “how beautiful your love is” That glance of her eyes his direction was due to the feeling she had for him in her heart, and it was beautiful. not just beautiful but “How beautiful…” for he says,
10 “How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride!
How much better is your love than wine,
And the fragrance of your oils
Than all kinds of spices!“
Then it was either her sweetly talking to him or the sweetness of her kiss or both that moved him to say with great ardor of affection,
11 “Your lips, my bride, drip honey;
Honey and milk are under your tongue,
Then smelling the clothes she is wearing he says with great delight,
“And the fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon.“
Then somehow, don’t ask me how. But he knows she is a virgin and praises her for it by saying,
12 “A garden locked is my sister, my bride,
A rock garden locked, a spring sealed up.”
It is her that is a garden locked up not just one body part. Everything about her that she has for him along with various combinations are delightful and pleasing therefore, he says,
13 “Your shoots are an orchard of pomegranates
With choice fruits, henna with nard plants,
14 Nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon,
With all the trees of frankincense,
Myrrh and aloes, along with all the finest spices.
15 “You are a garden spring,
A well of fresh water,
And streams flowing from Lebanon.”
She is beyond on holy fire for him and she is also truly humble. Therefore, she asks for God’s help so that all that she has for him out of love with please every bit of him. All his body, soul, mind and emotions. So, with love to God and her husband she either says this out loud or more than likely says this to God in her mind,
16 “Awake, O north wind,
And come, wind of the south;
Make my garden breathe out fragrance,
Let its spices be wafted abroad.”
Here is the proper time for the most intimate affections to be roused. She is ready and lets us know it. He has wooed her and not forced her. She wants him and he wants her. They both will go together to various emotional high points like the mountains of Ammon, Senir and Hermon. She is ready for a greater level of intimate love and says,
“May my beloved come into his garden
And eat its choice fruits!”
After both of them drank their fill of both loving and being loved. He is beyond satisfied and says,
“I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride;
I have gathered my myrrh with my spice.
I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey;
I have drunk my wine and my milk.” Song 5:1
Then here we have both God’s command and approval of this most intimate experience of the love of God in marriage. They had drunk their fill of love and God lets them know that that is what he wanted for them as well.
“Eat, oh lovers, and drink;
drink your fill of love.” Song 5:1
This section of the Love song is descriptive of what they did. You don’t do exactly as they did. God commands to love. This is how they did. You do something similar so long as it is unconditional love, strong enough to draw you closer to your spouse, priceless and from God.
What Solomon and Naamah did is descriptive not prescriptive. Their action describes what they did but what they exactly did is not prescriptive or prescribed to us by God. Love is prescribed but what loving thing one says may be different than another. What loving thing one does may be different than another. Use wisdom and communication to figure out how to best love your spouse in the most intimate of ways.
“the scriptures are profitable for teaching, correcting, rebuking and training in righteousness.” Timothy
1 Teaching. Learn and be taught the power of love to unite and cast out fear and see it ardent zeal. That it is from God and is like a flame. Unquenchable and priceless.
2. Correct. Once you know what love is and what it looks like and are trying to love. Then correct yourself or each other along the way.
3. Rebuke If someone knows what love is and what it looks like in action and is continuing in unloving words, emotions and actions then a rebuke is necessary. Confront them “in private” for they are sinning. Warn of the consequences of continuing in sin. Call them to repentance. To confess their sins to God. To believe in Jesus Christ’s saving sacrifice for our sins.
If they don’t repent, then bring another person. If they still don’t repent, then if need be, you take the issue to the elders of the church. If they still don’t repent, then they will be considered like an unbelieving pagan or tax collector and they would no longer be a member. I know most churches don’t do this, but it is commanded in Matthew 18.
“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. 16 But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector.” Matthew 18:15-17.
4. Trained. This is once you got it down in some area then just reapeat it maybe done in a various way but repeat it. Repeat it again and again and soon your are trained in love. Learn, correct and be trained. If you learned what love is, got better at it while correcting wrong idea’s of it and correcting unloving words and actions, then stay trained in it.
This is one of many ways that Solomon’s song of songs is profitable. Mainly to learn what love is by description and seeing it in action.
This section of the love poem is meant to help us understand what love looks like in the bedroom, especially when two virgins make love for the first time.
We can see loves power to cast out any fear or anxiety she may have in the words he said to her and things he did.
We can see loves power to draw them closer in all that is said and done.
We can see loves zeal for each other’s good and happiness all over each verse!!
We can see that this kind of love comes from God for it is a virtuous love.
If from God then unquenchable.
We can see the inestimable value of the love on display making it priceless and unconditional.
“For love is strong as death and its zeal for the good and happiness of the object of its affection as intense as the fire of hell. Love has flames which are the very almighty flame of God. Many waters can’t quench love, nor can rivers overwhelm it. If someone were to give their whole household in exchange for someone to love them instead of their spouse, then the offer would be utterly scorned.” Solomon’s song of songs 8:6-7
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Love is strong to cast out fear of harm?
Did either one of them do something that harmed the other?
Did they do what was for each other’s good and happiness or harm?
Would a couple that made love like this draw closer to each other?
Do you use your partner for selfishness? Does this cause a feeling of separation.
What can you say out of love that would bring the two of you closer?
What can you do out of love and affection to your spouse so that the two of your get closer?
What are some things you said or did that caused a feeling of separation? Feel sorry for that and do better next time. And better again. Get trained to do what is right and lovely.
If you find yourself lusting and being selfish then confess those sins to Jesus Christ who died for our sins. Believe he lived a perfect life and that that perfect life is credited to your account when you believe. Then after telling God your sins and believing in the life, death and resurrection of the Son of Love the stop sinning and do what is loving. Make her feel loved and not used. Let her drink her fill of love as you love her and let her not see anything selfish in you.
I firmly believe that it is good to teach this section to a young boy becoming a man and a young woman becoming a woman.
Why?
1 So that they know what God teaches about the subject of love and when it should be roused. We see the warning three time is the song for it is that important.
“Do not rouse or awaken love until it desires.” Song 2:7, 3:5, 8:4
2. For conscience’s sake. They don’t know good and evil. They need to know that they shouldn’t touch themselves. Nor have sex before marriage. God’s timing for that level of intimacy is in marriage. Chastity is a major theme throughout the poem. Out of love to God and our future spouse we stay chaste until marriage.
Please, please let me know your thoughts on this. I have no real experience in life on this for I am just a single Christian man that loves God and this poem.
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