Who is She/You?

Who is she?  Who is the bride to be in the Song of Songs? According to the text in the Song. What does the song say about her.  Meaning that if we only looked at the Song and made clear absolute statements about her, then what do we learn. We only say what the song says about her and not what we know of Solomon’s wife and wives from other texts of Scripture.  If we are trying to find out who the wife is in the song then lets look to the Song first to get clear idea’s about her so that if we read something in 1 Kings about a wife or possible wife.  All clear information that is known about her from the Text of the Song must match something in 1 Kings.  If there are inconsistencies then we can’t conclude who she is by name, the Song only teaches who she is by nature, thoughts, emotions, moral characteristics, words and actions.  The song never mentions her name.  Only the sweetest most lovely nicknames are attributed to her.  Since remembering her past is so important to her growth in holiness by keeping her humble when she remembers her past.  She describes her past in great detail.  Knowing clearly who she was, the situation she was in and how Solomon could make it all better using his unmeasurable skills for living to make her happy and holy.  Renewed in true righteousness and holiness.  And more happy and more holy as she beholds the glory of God in the face of Solomon.  As Solomon’s fame, name (face) grew as the kingdom grew more glorious in the temple, in viewing the glory of their king of kings, then so did her idea of the glory of God grow.  This new and or greater idea of God communicated to the mind is delightful to the will or delight in my love to that idea of God that was just communicated to my mind.  I enjoy Him and want more of Him and His Love communicated to me through Solomon over and over again because God’s lover being experienced through Solomon is more delightful than wine.  So my heart cries out “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth because your love is more delightful than wine.”  Song 1:2  Why does she desire the affection of Solomon so much, she really wants him, and she really wants him in a hurry! Song 1:4  Who is she?

1. A woman
2. She is never named
   1. Unless you take Shulamite to be “a person from a city named “Shulem” not Shunem.
3. She could be from “Sharon” Song 2:1  (hard to conclude though)
4. She is single.  “Let him kiss me…. Let him take me into his chambers”
5. She is a natural born enemy of Solomon.
6. Solomon’s father (David) was at war with her parents. 1 Kings 9:20-21
7. She grew up thinking that God hated her and her parents due to being God’s enemies.
8. She was a sinner.  “My own vineyard I have neglected” 1:6
9. She was in forced labor  Song 1:6  “made me take care of the vineyards” Chronicles 10:10 ‘Your father made our yoke heavy,’  She was a slave in forced labor.
10. She needed redemption.  Having neglected her vineyard she was good for nothing and in debt.  In slave labor.  Marriage to Solomon would bring her redemption.
11. In forced labor
    1. By Solomon  1 kings 9:20-21 “Solomon conscripted the descendants of all these peoples remaining in the land—whom the Israelites could not exterminate—to serve as slave labor, as it is to this day”  she was being treated like an enemy, the enemies of God did all the labor, the Israelites only supervised and ruled over the enemies of God in Solomon’s kingdom.
    2. By her angry mother’s sons enslaved her.  “Mother’s son’s”  Song 1:6
       1. Could be direct blood relation, but why not just say “brother’s”
       2. Yet by saying “my Mother’s son’s” I tend to think they weren’t related.  They had a different father.  She was of her father the devil So in the context of talking about her past, she was an enemy to Israel and enslaved by children of her mother that are not directly related.  Intimating that her Mother had children that were Israelites from another father.
12. The people enslaving her were angry with her.
13. Born under the Wrath of  God (as apposed to Solomon who was receiving Love and Grace from a Covenant keeping God)
14. Born under a curse and not a Covenant relationship with God.
15. She did not do good.   Psalm 14:3  All have turned away, all have become corrupt; there is no one who does good, not even one.
16. She was born evil, therefore she neglected her vineyard (her relationship with God) Genesis 6:5  “every inclination of the thoughts of the human heart was only evil all the time.”
17. She was dark
    1. Physically dark in appearance, her skin was dark
       1. Darkened by the sun from her slave laboring outside. Song 1:6
    2. Spiritually dark in her mind and heart.
       1. Her soul was dark.  Her understand was darkened.  Her mind was darkened therefore she neglected her relationship with God and didn’t care to take care of the vineyard that God put her in charge of.  She was dark. Evil. Sinful from birth because her soul was dark.
       2. Her soul was without light, she could not cultivate a relationship with God.
    3. Because she neglected her vineyard.  1:6 is an explanation of 1:5.  In 1:5 she admits about herself that she is dark   Ephesians 4:18 “They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts.”
    4. John 12:40 “He has blinded their eyes and hardened their hearts, so they can neither see with their eyes, nor understand with their hearts, nor turn—and I would heal them.”
       Psalm 18:28 You, Lord, keep my lamp burning; my God turns my darkness into light.
       Ecclesiastes 5:17
       All their days they eat in darkness, with great frustration, affliction and anger.
    5. The longer she was in slave labor outside the darker the sun made her.
    6. She neglected her vineyard because she had no light in her eyes, only darkness. Wrong ideas of God and joy and delight in sin, therefore she neglected her relationship with God, she neglected her vineyard incurring the Wrath of God and now in a dark situation spiritually and physically.
18. She was being treated like a prostitute.  Song 1:7  She doesn’t want to be judged by her darkness.  She is being treated like a prostitute, judged, deserving death, an enemy and not a friend. Song 1:7  If you had dark skin that meant that you were morally corrupt.  An Idol worshipper.  An enemy of God and His people.  Col 1:21 Once you were alienated from God and were enemies in your minds because of your evil behavior.”
19. She now desires God to show her His Love through Solomon loving her, over and over again, kissing her with the kisses of his mouth, showing her affection over and over again revealing his love for her so she can experience and see the love of God and see the glory of God in the face of her husband.

The above information is all I believe you can absolutely conclude about the bride to be in the Song.  Wiki does a good job of explaining who Solomon’s wife could be.

1.  Pharaohs daughter  Here
2. Naamah

Phases of Growth in The Song of Songs

1. Babe phase 1:2-1:17
2. Child phase 2-3:5
3. Young man 3:6-5:1
4. Strong young man 5:2-8:4
5. Father/Mother fully adorned 8:5-8:14