Be being filled. Let it happen and let it, beg for it, desire more of it/It so that love could be made complete.
Warning.
In this post I do get somewhat detailed at the same time trying to be wise and have some propriety. If the idea of someone being a little more detailed than Solomon is in the poem offends you then don’t read on. Yet I get so so many guys that have absolutely no clue how to make love when they have spent most their lives watching porn and being selfish in the bedroom. So, I have some post that is a bit more detailed to refer them to. As sinners we were nothing but selfish and now that we are saints, we ought to forget about ourselves and seek to please her first and foremost. And when she is ready. Sweetly wooing her like Solomon did, not being demanding or forcing her or making her feel used, but rather loved.
Love is made manifest when God is obeyed. Love to God is seen by other’s when someone says or does something that is loving.
“Be filled with the Spirit of Love and love Me,” God the Father says. Also, first be filled. A filling of the soul with love is needed before “love is made complete.” as you love other’s. Other’s who have the image of God upon their soul will hear of, read or or see the outward action and that outward action consistent with the Character and Word of God which is Love.
Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.
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13 This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit. 14 And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. 15 If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. 16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.”
God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” 1 John 4.
Newly anointed Christ Solomon hears and sees the Gentile slave girl profess her feelings towards him. God’s son. God’s anointed king of peace.
This is what she is thinking and feeling when Naamah first fell in love with young Solomon. It was at his anointing. She was close enough to smell his anointing oils when she felt what it was like to love God’s anointed son, proof being that I now experientially know what love feels like. (love of complacency is felt. love of complacency is a type of feeling one has when you feel good seeing someone show love to God, a delight in holiness.) Does your heart delight seeing holiness in action and also in my life?
She felt like having him kiss her over and over again on the lips, expressing his love to her and her sensing it because the experience would be better than wine.
She was already to some degree closer to him than he was to her for she “loved his name.” Loved his holy name. She loved someone who God loved. They both love His son. A king who would bring peace between Jew and Gentile by the proclamation of God’s Name. In the Temple and in their life experience.
Her heart was to some degree united to his more than his was to hers until his feelings towards her are roused. Professing her love to him/Him roused his love to her. She says with a powerful holy fire in her heart to God’s 3rd kingly Messiah as he walks close enough for her to smell him and think of him. The burning zeal in her heart for him kept her from keeping silent and she said to him whom she loves,
“Pleasing is the fragrance of your anointing oils, your name is like oils poured forth.” Solomon’s song of songs 1:3
The feeling she got, she lets us know. We can intellectually know what she felt because she made a comparison to something more common to all, like the good pleasurable feeling you get when you smell holy anointing oils and think of who it is that is being anointed by God for a special purpose!
To bring peace, and build a temple where God could come down and dwell with the people in a closer more intimate way than before.
Solomon helped to reign in a time when the people were able to draw nearer by faith and love. No more wilderness walking and experience a time of peace and what it feels like to be closer to God.
To have someone genuinely express their love to him, is what roused his love and holy delight to and in her.
It is pleasing her, to hear his name.
This feeling of love and its zeal was intense, very strong, could sense it fairly easily is delight or joy! Unspeakable and full of glorification.
She knows of Christ Solomon for when they mentioned his name at his first anointing she was there falling in love with the young king.
Love extends and goes forth then if we sense it and better know it then we grow in the knowledge of the love of God. Now the better idea of God is cherished.
Cherished more as love grows. Cherish your beloved and friend.
The mention of his name rouses her feelings towards him.
The thought of the experience being better than wine motivated her to want an even closer and more intimate relationship as the sense of his/His love casted out all fear and gave power for a stricter union.
Context is making love
Him to her,
“I am yours.” “What do you want of me?”
He wants to make her happy for she is happy when she feels loved.
He belongs to her for her good and happiness.
Yet, he doesn’t really know what really makes her happy. Where to kiss, how to kiss, when to kiss. What to say, when to say it. How to touch her. When to touch her. How to move. Distance to move. Speed, pressure, angle, and for how long at a certain speed, angle, pressure and distance.
Sensitive sexual information for some people is in this section. I fully believe God, the God of love would like for some things to be not in metaphors like Solomon did but would like for some things to be spelled out more clearly for most guys who have been selfish their whole life then become Christians and want to do it right. (pardon the pun).
Speed.
Super super slow, pause, super slow, pause, slow, pause longer, slow to moderate speed, pause, moderate speed, pause, moderate, pause longer, slow, pause, moderate, pause, moderate to fast, pause, faster, pause, fast, pause longer, etc. Then you can do the same with amount of pressure, angle and distance. Then the combinations are endless.
And don’t forget she had G-spots. One on the outside, one about the first inch in, one two inches in on the belly button side, then two by the cervix (one below it and one above, most men may not be able to reach these. 5 G-spots). Keeping the goal of her drinking her fill of feeling loved by him. Then vice versa.
Now you have 5 spots “under the tree” whereby he can rouse her love and she can rouse his. Song 8:5.
“Under the apple tree I roused you; there your mother conceived you, there she who was in labor gave you birth.”
Variety and combinations in making love really has no end.
Spot 1 has an amount of pressure she likes, distance, time spent there, speed, and angle. Spot 2 and spot 3.
Now add in various sounds, smells, sights, locations, positions, pressure, speed, angle, distance, time spent there, clothing, words, sounds, music etc. She could even do a kegel exercise (her squeezing him while making love). I would think no one should be lacking in variety.
As a virgin or “garden locked” our bride in Solomon’s song of songs had not shared any of these intimate experiences with anyone.
12 A garden locked is my sister, my bride,
A rock garden locked, a spring sealed up.
13 Your shoots are an orchard of pomegranates
With choice fruits, henna with nard plants,
14 Nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon,
With all the trees of frankincense,
Myrrh and aloes, along with all the finest spices.” Song 4:13-15.
Notice also that he mentions “nard plants” by themselves and also in combination with another spice. What each person likes, and the combinations will need to be discovered and the sincerest intimate communication is crucial.
Proverbs talks about “words set in silver”. This speaks of context. Meaning when you do anything. Is the timing right. Is it when they want you to not only how or what but when. The context and timing is precious and valuable to them like “words set in sliver.”
Pausing and our memory
Why so many pauses? For remembering. During the pause the mind goes back to remembering what was felt. What parts of the body were touching the bed, what parts where touching each other, how deep he went, how it felt with a certain speed, distance and angle, how he looked, what he said, how he said it, how she felt when he said things, the smell, the sounds etc.
Him to her during the pause? “Oh, my love. How did that feel? What was good?” “What made you happy?” Remember that his goal is to love her and loves jealousy for what she feels is good is foremost on his mind. Neither her nor him knows. This is the first time they have been together in this most intimate way.
During the pause both will want to be on the same page as to what is good, right and lovely.
Then it can be remembered for next time. During the pause when the mind is running the past 1,2, 3, 4 minutes and remembering billions of bits of information. Like, dislikes, approval, heightened feelings (mountain top experiences like the top of Senir, Hammon and Amana.) Song 4:8.
Might be a low mountain or even what may feel like nothing is working and all is going backwards of what you hoped. Now get better. Pause. Remember. Repeat.
Did she feel loved? Did she feel like a sex object, used, left out, ashamed, angry, upset, anxious, desire, joy, peace, delight, awe, gratitude, satisfied but wanting more etc.
Pausing our memory and the feeling.
In the memory of a good feeling the mind recalls what caused that good feeling of being loved. What was happening and how she felt. The experience of being loved by him was “better than wine” Song 1:2
It like her reliving the loving event over and over again in her mind. Know if he also remembers the speed, distance, angle and duration of time that made her feel good then he could do it again.
If she asks for him to do speed 1, distance 1, pressure 1, angle 1 for 1 more minute then he would know what to do as well. This gets both on the same page. So that the two will be one in the bedroom as well as in everyday life. Having, sharing and delighting in the same mind, loving will and emotions.
How does he know what speed is best for her good and pleasure?
How does he know what is good and what is better?
How does he know what will bring her to an emotional high with him loving her?
Communication is key. He belongs to her, and she can ask of him what she wishes. And generally, he should agree and then show love to her in the way in which is for her physical, spiritual, mental and emotional good.
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