A husband and wife are one once married. This oneness is similar to how the head and body are one and function as one.
Yet have different roles. The head tells the body what to do and the body obeys. The head cares for the body for it is his body.
A husband and wife are one similar to how the heart and arm or soul and body are one. The husband is the head, and the wife is the body. He lovingly and wisely leads and she follows. He loves her as his own for she is his and he is hers.
When Christ Solomon and Naamah got married they were one positionally but practically speaking had a long way to go until they both were heart to heart and functioning harmoniously as one in every situation. The superlative power of love had the power to unite the souls of both of them to the point that they were inseparable. Her role was to leave father and mother, cleave to her husband and become one with him similar to how Jesus Christ left the Father, put on flesh and died for His Bride (all believers) so that they could be one with Him. This is Pauls drift in Ephesian 5:25ff.
We see the couple reach a complete functional oneness after going through many ups and downs of life and marriage. The power of love never failed to keep drawing them closer and closer to the point where he could trust her to always be there to do her part as the arm is ready to show its love to the head.
Meaning that a disobedient arm could not say to the head or heart, “Put me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm.” For the arm then could not be trusted to do it’s part in the union because it would be willingly disobedient. She is not off his heart, and she wants him to put her on his heart. He has not forgotten her, and she is now asking him to remember her, but it’s more of a matter of fact that she has made it to the point where she isn’t leaving him. He will always be in her heart and her will in line with his as an arm has no will of its own but does the will of the heart and head.
She is not only positionally one with him, but by now she is one with him and acting like it in every way possible. So that she could so to speak, say to the head coach, “Put me in.” and he could trust her to do her part. Remember when she didn’t answer the door when he came how. They were positionally one at the time, but they weren’t acting as one because she stayed too long in bed and didn’t open the door for her husband to come in. But now by Song 8:6 she is one with him and can be trusted to live and act as one, therefore she says to him,
“Set me as a seal upon your heart as a seal upon your arm for love is as strong to unite hearts as death has power to separate hearts.” Song 8:6
“Seal” She uses the word seal or signet ring to give the impression of “mutual ownership”. (pun intended), lol.
At engagement she said, “My beloved is mine and I am his.” Solomon’s song of song 2:16 Love enables us to freely give ourselves to the other person. Yet, compare a mature couple that truly loves each other with a couple just getting engaged. How functionally one is a couple that just got engaged with the harmony and sweet function of a mature couple.
At the end they are one in every way not only one as they promised at engagement and marriage but in all practical purposes in the relationship neither one of them is ever intentionally selfish causing a disharmony or temporary feelings of separation. Each one doing their part like a perfect dance. Husband and wife. She is his glory.
Not perfect but oh so close.
Met a couple once where I asked the wife, “If the harmony between the head and arm is 100% then, what percent of harmony would you say you and your husband have?” She said, “I don’t think it gets any better than this.” She was age 70 married for years and was the wife of an elder.
Not that the relationship is perfect, but rather there is no inentional continuing in disobedience, ignorance, disharmony, no grudges, no feelings of separation coming from intentional sin. For example, we may have no intention of stubbing our toe going to the bathroom late at night, but it happens and we keep moving forward without much delay at all. No evil intent. We may fall in the marriage but repentance and reconcilation comes quicker and quicker. Race to repentance and love.
It is good to keep in mind that the essence and nature of oneness in two things.
1 Her being in him and him in her heart. Mutual indwelling of hearts.
2 Love Which is similar to the oneness that The Father and Son share which is similar to the oneness that Jesus Christ wanted and prayed for Him and His Bride in John 17:20 “My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, 21 that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you.”
This oneness continues after death with Jesus Christ even when we don’t have a body.
There it is revealed how the Father and the Son are one in love, that we might be induced in like manner to be one with them, and with one another, agreeable to Christ’s prayer, John 17:21–23, “That they all may be one; as thou Father art in me and I in thee.
The oneness that the Father and Son have is founded on the mutual indwelling of one in the other. The Father in the Son and the Son in the Father, both bond by Love, the Holy Spirit who is God, for God is Love. First Person and His Love, The Holy Spirit is in the Son. The Son and the Holy Spirit is in the Father.
Similar, the husband is in the heart of the bride and so is the 3rd Person of the Trinity, the Holy Spirit. So also, the wife is in the heart of the husband, set upon his heart and the Holy Spirit or the essence and nature of God is in her which is Love. Her in him and him in her and the 3rd Person in the relationship is the glue holding it all together and forever making the union stricter as both get closer to God in Christ. Abiding. Fully cleaved.
Rephrasing Song 8:6-7 “Set me as a seal upon your heart as a seal upon your arm for love is strong to unite hearts as death is strong to separate.”
Since we are functioning as one, fully belong to each other, inseparable, and are bond by the superlative power of love then set me as a seal of ownership on your heart and arm.
This oneness is symbolized in some marriages by the husband and wife each holding separate lit candles and then they light one candle, the same one, at the same time for the couple has positionally become one.
A Celtic knot is often used to show “interconnectedness”.
What is she asking him to do? “Set her as a seal upon his heart…”
What does it mean for her to be sealed to his heart?
What is his heart? The heart is a faculty of the soul. The heart is the seat of the emotions. Love dwells and is from this faculty of the soul therefore Jesus said, “We are to love Him will all our heart…”
This has to deal with a soul connection. The invisible part of our being. Her being in his mind and her love to him never “sleeping” 5:2.
What does it mean for him to set her as a seal upon his heart?
To put her in his mind and love her from his heart in a way that he could trust her to do her part continually in the relationship is what it is to set her as a seal upon his heart. She is of the same mind and will with him and she isn’t going anywhere therefore he could set her as a seal upon his heart.
She was sealed to his heart and arm due to the superlative strength of their love, the ever-increasing intensity of their love’s jealousy. Love being like a flame from YHWH. The everlasting durability and inestimable value of their love. Song 8:6-7
Inseparable. Trust. Love and obedience. Same mind. Same will. Knowledge of each other.
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How could she say that? Because he was in her as Christ Jesus is in believers and as the Father is in the Son.
1 In the mind
2 On the heart
1 Because who he is, what he is like and his will for her was always in her. Meaning in her thoughts and on her mind. “name” Solomon’s song of songs 1:3
2 She is sealed to his heart and can be set upon his heart because she has him in her mind and on her heart. Meaning she loves him. Her love to him binds them to each other in a way that they are sealed. Her affections for him don’t leave for she is sealed to his heart.
1 Him being in her thoughts and on her mind is more like him being sealed to her heart.
When Christ Solomon was in her and she in him.
How often does your spouse leave your mind and you are intentionally selfish?
? Set me as an inseparable image and likeness of your heart.
When she is in him (upon his heart) and he is in her (upon her heart) in love, there will be undivided respect one to the other.
When they are one and acting like it there will be an undivided love and respect on to the other.
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