This is a summary of the first date, engagement, wedding day, married life and conclusion of the union of the king of peace and the queen of peace in Solomon’s Song of Songs.
Love is a flame above all other flames that has strength to unite lovers and overcome all opposition.
The first meeting and first date
Her desire for him. They met when young and at his first anointing where her mind danced with sweet thoughts of him kissing her over and over again. She expresses her ardent fearless feelings for him. She wants him to take her away with him in a hurry because he was a loving holy king.
His desire for her. He takes her back to the palace. She makes peace with the daughters of Jerusalem. It’s noon, he is a shepherd and time to rest the sheep. She goes with him and finds peace and rest next to him under the apple tree. They adore each other over and over again. He takes her to a banquet hall where there is a banner over her that says love. She swoons. Gets faint. Yet he holds her in his arms, and she is beyond bliss!!
Thier desire for the good of each other. He proposes to her at her mother’s house. She is absolutely excited about his proposal for there is a burning love in both their hearts. Yet she thinks of her Gentile past and issues in her heart and life that will hinder the relationship from blossoming. She hates the sin and issues with a passion so she says to him, “Catch the foxes that are ruining our relationship from blossoming.” His heart is in agreement with hers. He gives himself to her promising to catch the foxes. She gives herself to him and they are engaged.
Getting closer the night before the wedding.
Her desire for him before marriage and it satisfied by a closer heart to heart relationship. The nights apart from him start to get very long. One night being apart from him was to much to bear. She got up went everywhere looking for him. The watchmen helped her find him. She held him tight until she got the same feeling as a new-born baby being held in the arms of a mother.
King David dies.
Wedding and wedding night (hot and spicy)
They get married at one the most glorious and expensive weddings thus far. Bathsheba crowns Solomon the day of his wedding. The day his heart rejoiced with joy unspeakable and full of glory!
The wedding night she is half naked and he lets her know how she looks to him. Sweetly saying how each feature is beautiful and lovely with the most appropriate analogies. Wants her to listen to him she glances his way and that one glance ravishes his heart. Praises her virginity. Says to her that they will go together all night long reaching some of the greatest heights of feelings, one after the other. She calls upon the forces of nature to help her please her husband from head to toe. She does so and he says,
They both drank their fill of love!!
The two are one, but not acting like it in some ways.
One night he was out late working. She has washed and went to bed. He comes home knocking when she was in bed. She heard him but her love was sleeping. He knocked saying sweet thing so that she would answer the door. She is having trouble because she just went to bed and now has to get up again and wash again etc. She opens the door to late, he is gone, she calls and he doesn’t answer. Her heart sunk deeply and painfully knowing he was gone.
Time for God’s discipline on her. She needed to learn to give all of herself to her husband. No time of the day is her own. Evening the nights and early mornings. Even though she gave all of herself to him in promise, yet in life she wouldn’t get out of bed soon enough to show some love to her husband. She feels guilty and ashamed knowing her love had slept. She goes out through the holy city of Jerusalem looking for her husband and not knowing where he is. The watchmen beat her and take her covering. Now she is feeling guilty, ashamed and no covering and beaten.
You would think that she would get out of bed and quickly open the door next time.
The daughters of Jerusalem find her in her miserable situation in the streets. She is not feeling loved but has a burning desire for her husband. He was no ordinary husband but if you were to line them all up, he would be the greatest. She asks them if they have seen her husband above myriads. They ask her what makes him so special. She responds that he is not only the most glorious king but also humble. His leadership was flawless and precious like pure gold.
““His eyes are like doves
Beside streams of water,
Bathed in milk,
And [p]reposed in their setting.
13 “His cheeks are like a bed of balsam,
Banks of sweet-scented herbs;
His lips are lilies
Dripping with liquid myrrh.
14 “His hands are rods of gold
Set with beryl;
His abdomen is carved ivory
Inlaid with [q]sapphires.
15 “His legs are pillars of alabaster
Set on pedestals of pure gold;
His appearance is like Lebanon
Choice as the cedars.
After she explains to them who he was, what he was like and her relationship to him, they ask the beaten, ashamed and guilty bride who is the most beautiful woman, dark yet lovely in Christ, “Where did your beloved go?”
She remembered that he browsed among the lilies in the garden.
They go together to the garden and along the way she repents of her selfishness and not answering his call. She has learned to give herself completely to him always and in every way.
She is beaten with no covering and sorrowful for her lack of love and what does he do? He adores her! Nothing but a vehement burning flame of love in his heart for her.
She has learned to give him all her heart and life. And to him she is as beautiful as Tirzah. A city that was beautiful no matter where you looked! He says,
4 “[c]You are as beautiful as Tirzah, my darling,
As lovely as Jerusalem,
As awesome as [d]an army with banners.
5 “Turn your eyes away from me,
For they have confused me;
Your hair is like a flock of goats
That have descended from Gilead.
6 “Your teeth are like a flock of ewes
Which have come up from their washing,
All of which bear twins,
And not one among them has [e]lost her young.
7 “Your temples are like a slice of a pomegranate
Behind your veil.
8 “There are sixty queens and eighty concubines,
And [f]maidens without number;
9 But my dove, my perfect one, is [g]unique:
She is her mother’s [h]only daughter;
She is the pure child of the one who bore her.” Song 6:4ff
After the adoration of her beloved husband, she is maturing and shining bright.
The queens and combines see her and they proclaimed with joy and awe,
“Who is this that grows like the dawn,
As beautiful as the full moon,
As pure as the sun,
As awesome as an army with banners?’
After doing more work laboring in love in God’s kingdom she wants to see if there is fruit from her labor. Heads towards the vineyards in the valley and before you know it, jealous for the glory of God and good of all peoples, the former Gentile finds herself preaching peace with God and His king, sharing an Old Testament version of the Gospel among the chariots of kings and nobles.
All God’s people want her to come back so that they may gaze upon her.
She comes back in absolute joy! Dancing a specific way that reminded people of times when Jews and Gentiles worked together for the glory of God.
Her husband king takes her back to the palace and adores her beauty again with the sweetest words ever so far. Wants to make love to her. They do so and he is so effective that she never doubts his love again. She has given herself completely to him and his cause at all expense the whole time not doubting his love or desire for her.
Time to go to the desert and countryside together to proclaim the Name of God and peace for the new world order has come. She promises him that when they get there, and she is by his side that she will express her love to him. Knew feelings she has had and some old ones.
The Love Song illustrates one emotional high after the other. The next one I think is the most exciting.
She is so on fire for him while they are in public in the desert sharing the good news, but she can’t display the level of affection she wanted to. Her heart is blazing on fire, beating fast and ardent for him but she needs to hold back because they are in public. She gets more and more excited holding back any outward display of affection. It is too much for her body and she faints in his arms again! The first time was on their first date when she swoons in the banquet hall and now again in the countryside!
After some time in the desert with her husband she gets to know him really well and vice versa. They become heart to heart and the relationship is in perfect harmony. Yeah, sounds fairytale right. But I think God gave this couple an extra dose of love so that we could get a better idea of it in action or in its closest to perfect form on earth.
Jerusalem is up from all sides, as the couple goes back home all God’s people in Jerusalem say,
“Who is this coming up from the desert leaning on her beloved?”
Leaning on her beloved, knowing they are so close that if you were to look at their hearts you would see her heart as a reflection of his. His idea of himself was the same as her idea of him in her heart and vice versa. They were in harmony functioning beautifully as a couple, they were one due to the superlative power of love. Therefore, she says to him, while leaning on him,
6 “Put me like a seal over your heart,
Like a seal on your arm.
For love is as strong as death,
Its jealousy for the glory of God and good of the beloved is as vehement as the fire of hell;
Its flashes are flashes of fire,
The very flame of the Lord.
7 “Many waters cannot quench love,
Nor will rivers overflow it;
If a man were to give all the riches of his house for love,
It would be utterly despised.” Solomon’s song of songs 8:5-7
Throughout her experience of being united to a type of Jesus Christ the bride got a good, right, pure and sweet idea of love. He drew her closer by his love.
Her brothers, who formally hated her and enslaved her, now come to ask her for advice. The queen and her brothers have a sister. Her breasts are not fully mature and no one has ever asked her to marry. She says to them,
““If she is a wall,
We will build on her a battlement of silver;
But if she is a door,
We will barricade her with planks of cedar.”
King Solomon is there and is in state of perfect peace and contentment for his bride has made him so. She gives tribute to her husband king Solomon and the workers of her vineyard.
She turns to talk to all the other couples in the gardens and ask them to tell her whats on their mind and in their hearts. Love of course. Love for the beloved. They want they beloved husband to be wise and loving and overcome anything holding them back from a closer more intimate relationship so that God could get the Glory, they would be happier and have a better idea of what love is.
Saved in 2000 at age 27. Nearly immediately I fell in love with the Song and grew very fast the first two years memorizing large portions of scripture purifying my mind the started chewing on meat to soon and struggled for 12 years and Christ has me on track like always but I just took the long way around and now I love leading others closer to Christ by seeing His love reflected in Solomons love for an enemy slave girl.
I have experienced God's love to me in the Song in ways that words can't express. There are many portion of the Word where she experiences extra ordinary outpouring of the Holy Spirit of God. If you have a burning desire for a close intimate relationship with God by experiencing His Love to you over and over again at greater and greater heights, depths, lengths and breaths then The Song of Songs is where you need to be.
I can help you with this process of Growing in the experience of God's love. As of 7-23-16 I have experienced everything prior to chapter 8. The Song of Song is progressive in experience. Meaning that if you are mature then you can experience the joys and extraordinary outpourings of God's Love shed abroad in your heart.
If you are not so mature then the delights in the first chapter of the Song will satisfy your thirst for experiencing the Love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Many Christian are living in sin because they do not know how to experience God's love and get hooked on Loving Him. It feels good to be loved and to love Him. His burden is not heavy and His yoke is light, Jesus said in Matt. 10:28
I believe God wants to use me to help beautify His Bride through the Song of Solomon.
If you see the book literally you will not understand nor grasp the Love God has for you. If you see the book and the verses in it relating to Christ's love to you then I would love to show you how to experience this Love to the fullest. I will pray for you daily and guide you every step of the way.
16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.
I grew up going to church but was a hypocrite. I lived my life how I chose but went to church on Sunday because my family went.
Mom and Dad divorced when I was about 5.
About this time I was sexually abused by "Bob" a made up name. This incident changed my life for the worst. I had no clue how to deal with it.
As I got older I grew in my hatred for Bob. I didn't blame anyone of my family because I was to young to know any better. Some of what happened during the abuse was in a bathroom. So overtime I would use the bathroom and look at my private parts that night would replay in my mind. My hatred for Bob would continue to grow each time.
Now I know this only happened to me one night. I can't image the pain other's go through who have had this happen to them over and over. Even as I write this now I cry with many tears for those hurting. God love you even though you may not know it or feel it. Go to Him in your time of need.
I was a really bad teenager. I only cared about myself and not even my family. I always came first in my mind. Even at the expense of hurting others. I was growing in my hatred for God by now.
I was going to church and was learned that God was in control. I thought well, if God was in control then He must have let me be sexually abused. I didn't understand this, How could a good and loving God allow this. I hated Him for it. My hatred for Bob grew as well. I was still using the bathroom and memories kept coming back. My heart grew even harder for Bob and God. As far as I was concerned God would have nothing to do with my life so I lived even worse. I thought I would be in jail or dead and I really didn't care, I thought it could be much worse than reliving your painful past over and over again. Little did I know that God's plan later would be to use these events to give me a burning passion for the closest most intimate love relationship with Himself through Christ mainly through the love poem in the Song of Songs in the Bible.
I remember hating Bob so much that the only thing that would relieve my pain was actually thinking he would suffer forever for what he did. I grew so much in my hatred for him that I had to continue to think that he would get even worse than what I imaged before. After some time I would only be relieved of hatred for him unless I thought he would burn in a hotter and hotter hell for all the suffering he put me through.
I never told my mom or family what happened, although I think some of them knew something had happened.
I grew up quite rebellious and even went to jail at the age of 20. I was living the fast life pursuing all my sinful desires and wanting more. It never seemed to be enough. I was quite happy in my sin but I just wanted more of it.
I lived life thinking I would die at a young age, riding motorcycle and living on the edge put me in the hospital many times and I should have been dead.
California at age 26.
I moved to California for a job opportunity at the age of 27. While trying to figure out what radio stations to program in my car, I ran across a RC Sproul talking about "people who have the faith that saves and people who only say that have faith" only the people who have the faith that saves will go to heaven. I thought "I don't think I have the faith that saves because my life was so bad." I searched the scriptures to try to get this faith. I found a church and thought people there could help me get this faith that saves. All along God kept showing me how sinful I was and that I deserved punishment from Him for living my life hating Him.
One weekend I read Matthew, Mark, Luke and John desperately trying to find out how to get this faith that saves. By now I knew that if you had the faith that saves that Jesus would be saving you from a life of sin. I still liked my sin and Jesus sure wasn't saving me from a life of sin, so I rightly concluded that I didn't have the faith that saves.
By the time I got to John, I saw "believe" everywhere. John 3:16 and other verses and wow the whole book was written so that you may believe. John 20:31 "these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in his name." So at night I would pray "I believe Jesus died for me, I believe, I believe. This was just an intellectual belief. I knew that in history and the Bible that Jesus died for everyone, so I believed it. But this belief did not change my life.
I would go on night after night saying the same prayer only to wake up the next day wanting to fulfill my sinful desires. The prayer wasn't working so I started to word it different each time hoping some prayer would work. After about 2 weeks of this I was fed up with it all, nothing was happening. I still was living in my sin and wanted more of it. A Christian hates their sin and does something about it, and certainly they don't continue to make plans to sin. The prayers weren't working so I gave up. I thought to myself "God, I tried with all my might, I searched the Scriptures, went to church, read the Bible and prayed all to no avail. If Im going to be saved your going to have to do it because I tried."
So I quit praying but still the Bible kept calling me so I read more. 3 Days later I was laying in a tanning bed and God convicted me really hard that I had offended Him by the life I was living. I was so scared of God, where could I run. You can't hide from God. It seemed like forever that I was under these terrors of being punished by a Holy Angry God. This lasted about 10 minutes then this is how I understood it. God let me understand that all that anger that He had for me for all my sin should come my way but He had poured that anger out on Jesus 2,000 years ago. I immediately started weeping an couldn't stop for about 20 minutes. All the sins that I could think of I confessed for that 20 minutes one after another after another, I was so sorrowful and grieved it physically hurt inside.
After I stopped crying I thought that was the weirdest thing that ever happened. I walked out of the tanning salon and stood outside and everything seemed so beautiful, the tree's, the birds, even the air seemed pleasant. Now I was really wondering what was going on.
I pondered all of this as I drove to work that day. I brought my Bible to work and was thinking what am I doing, I want to take my Bible to work so I can read it. As soon as I got to work I started reading my Bible. I couldn't believe what I was reading!! It all was so wonderful. It felt so good to just read my Bible. My client showed up and as I was training them the only thing I could think about was getting back to my Bible. I read all night and slept about 2 hours and was reading again.
I had sinful things in my apartment and I rounded everything evil up and threw it in the garbage. It was weird I was thinking but it felt good so I left it all in the garbage. I called my girlfriend to break it up and she thought I had another girl, I said no, I just think this is wrong we shouldn't be sleeping together. She didn't understand so I told her I was a Christian now and she still thought I had another girlfriend. She said "Im glad your a Christian, so am I" I thought to myself, "I have a strong conviction that sleeping together is wrong and she thought it was okay" I wondered how she could think that. Anyway we broke up.
I kept reading my bible and repenting, there was so much to repent of and I had lived a very sinful life. I was a thief for some part of my life and all the people I stole from kept coming to mind. I owed so much money. I was instantly in debt about $80,000. As I could I paid them back. As of 7-18-2016 I still owe about $25,000 but it sure is a joy to be paying them back.
The first week of being saved a car just about ran me over, they hit me but I wasn't hurt at all. The guy in the car felt so bad. I just looked at him and said "God bless you and have a great day, I am okay" smiled at him and moved on. Now I was really wondering what was going on because I normally would have cussed him out left and right and instead of cussing I blessed him. That was so weird. But again it felt good. I learned to do good by what my conscience told me was good and that it felt good. I got hooked on this feeling good by doing good and did it more often.
About two weeks after being saved I thought of Bob. I immediately prayed for him, something like "Lord help him.." then I stopped praying and said out loud "What am I doing?" I'm praying for a man that I hated my whole life, but it feels good and right, so I did it again. I stopped again midway in the prayer and started pacing around. I was trying to make sense of what was going on and couldn't figure it out. But again it made me happy to pray for him so I did. Bob would often come to mind when I went to the bathroom and each time I would pray for Him. The more I did this the less weird it got. And the greater my love grew for him.
I started memorizing large portions of scripture and this was wonderful because it felt like the words were cleaning my mind and as Proverbs 2:10 "For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul." I wanted more and more of this pleasantness. So I memorized even more and the joy got more and more.
Then this life changing advice came:
A friend from church told me to find a book of the Bible and really understand it. Read through the Bible and pick one and read it over and over and study it and really get it. So I started in Genesis and read through. When I got to Proverbs I really liked it so I thought that would be the book. I started by memorizing all of Proverbs chapter 3. After that I thought maybe there is a better book than Proverbs. So I read on. Then I came to Song of Solomon. I read it with quite some confusion. It wasn't as good as the other books, I didn't know why. So I bought a commentary on it. George Burrowes commentary on the Song of Solomon.
In the commentary I found that George and other saw the book as illustrating God's love to the Church. And not only illustrating it but displaying the Love of Christ better than any other book. This caught my attention big time, because I was having a burning desire for a closer relationship with God and desperately learning about His Love so that I could Love God. You see I had hated Him for so long that God used that old hard heart to spur me on in loving Him. I so much did not want to hate God anymore that I was on fire to learn to Love Him as much and as fast as possible. So here was a book that would help me do that. So I landed on the Song of Solomon. I committed to learning as much of this book as possible.
I memorized the first chapter and would repeat it often throughout the day. I didn't know much of what I was repeating but it sure made me happier and on fire for God. I grew so fast repeating the first chapter over and over again all day, like a dozen times a day at least. It felt so good and I never found any other book that caused me to weep so much. I would often weep everyday just reading it. I was to immature to know what was going on. Even though it hurt to weep so much, I felt like my heart was being cleansed from the filth that was in it by repeating it over and over again so I did. As I read the commentary I understood more and more. What God was doing in me through the Song was greater and faster than any other portion of Scripture so I tended to stay there often. I was so excited about God that I thought it funny that other's in church weren't the same way. Some where happy but it seemed most of them didn't seem to care much about God. They would talk about work, football the weather. The only thing I wanted to talk about was Jesus and God and how can I grow closer to Him.
About this time there was a mission trip to Ireland.
I started to have convictions that I should try to find Bob and witness to him. I kept praying for him but how could he be saved if he hadn't heard the Gospel that has power unto salvation. So I asked family if they had any information. Like me before, my family hated him and thought he deserved hell. After some time I got his name but no location or phone number. Either they didn't know where he was or didn't want to tell me. I prayed some more and then started to get stronger convictions to do something about finding Bob.
So I went on the internet and typed in "his name and child molestation sex offender court" thinking that some court record would have some info leading to where I may find him" I even talked to a private eye and he couldn't help. So I googled some key words and spent hours each day looking through each page. I believed it was God's will for me to witness to Bob. I wanted him to be saved. Really bad. So much so that I thought God would save Bob if I were to witness to him. So I didn't stop searching for him. I kept my computer on each day and went page by page. It took two years to go through about 15,000 pages but I found someone who matched his name in a prison for molesting his grandchildren. I wrote the prison and he wrote back. All kinds of emotions went through my body when I saw his letter from the jail. I didn't open it right away but two hours later God gave me enough courage to face my fears again and I opened the letter. He admitted to being the one who molested me. We wrote back and forth I told him I was angry before but now I was saved and that I loved him and believed God wanted me to talk to him. He read my letters over and over again. I shared the gospel in each one.
I got mad at Bob 2x. Once he said that he love me. I got really angry with him. He didn't love me. That night it was hard to love Bob, I had to call a friend to pray for me to repent, after he prayed I felt greater love for Bob. Then I wrote him back saying "I'm sorry but you can't say that you loved me. You did not love me you lusted after me." He admitted he didn't love as he should have and admitted that it was lust and sinful. Finally some conviction. Yet I only thought he was saying that because I was being nice to him. All his family had left him and he said I was the only "friend" he had.
Wether or not it was true Bob said that he had cancer in his arm and that the help the prison gives was not enough and if he had money he could see a different doctor and get help. I sent him some money and since I was in jail before I knew what it was like to be in there without money, so I sent him money.
About 4-5 months in the economy went down, it was 2008. Work was hard. I still sent him money and I had to work harder. This was a really good lesson for me because I had to "work hard for the benefit of someone who did not deserve it." This was one of the greatest blessing ever because I realized with great certainty that Jesus was in me. This is what Jesus did. Jesus worked his whole life for me and I didn't deserve it!! Christ was in me! This was one of the best feelings ever and it put me in worship for months.
Then a mission trip to Croatia.
Each time I had to leave my business and amazing as it is I was completely okay each time. I am a self employed personal trainer and it is normally absurd to just leave and start over, but each time I had enough work within 2 weeks of coming back. This is a flat out miracle. I trusted God to provide and he did. How many people can start up a business in 2 weeks. Only with the help of God. God was teaching me early on in my walk that as long as I did what He wanted me to do then I had nothing to worry about.
About 3 years saved now.
I Taught the 4 year old's at church Sunday morning for 10 years.
Left my business 2x for mission trips and God miraculously provided when I came back.
I taught 5 x a week plus held a job.
Sunday morning to the kids.
Sunday night with the 5th graders
Friday afternoons at Good News Clubs. Sponsored by Child Evangelism Fellowship.
Friday Nights with the Kids teaching through Pilgrims Progress, I did this 2x
Teaching Monday afternoons at a nursing home. I taught through the Song of Songs once then John, then Romans then back to the Song again! I love the Song of Songs.
I grew up hating God for what happened to me, and now I love Him because He first loved me. My passion is for children to grow up loving God and not hating Him.
My other passion which has become ever greater is to help others see the Love of Christ to His Church in the Song of Songs!!
I would love to help you, just let me know and I will lead you and pray for you.
God demonstrates His love to us in sending His one and only Son to suffer in our place, taking our sins upon Himself so that whoever believes they get to heaven because of what He did for us will not perish but have everlasting life.