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Love and Principles of Touch

What I like about principles is that they are universal.

Meaning that you can apply those principles to all areas of your life.

So what is a principle a touch?

Love. Love is a principle. A moral principle.

Love. It isn’t happening unless she desires or is ready.

Do not arouse or awaken her love or affection to you (oh man) until she is ready.

The time for lovemaking is when she is ready. Love is made when the husband/Husband desires his spouse and would like her to show his love to him/Him by giving herself to him. Lovemaking is not one sided. One may love the other but if it is not returned then they, the two of them made love.

Surely it is a holy jealous bond. She is his. But also he is hers. He is her husband. He is the one who loves her therefore he will do what pleases her when she is ready. Otherwise it’s not love but servile submission whereby she feels used.

Body parts can be touched. Head, face, lips, shoulders hips, feet, hands. And the more private parts. The universal principle of love applies to all of these parts.

The universal principle of timing also applies as to when do you or are you commanded by God to do, for your greatest good and pleasure and His Glory!

Touch requires movement by the one touching. Now as a physical therapist I must use my hands and fingers and body position in order to work on the muscles in a way that makes them feel better, reliefs pain and or helps them move better.

Universal ideas. The idea of initiation, permission and happiness.

Someone initiates and gets permission. And both make sure they get feedback from the other as to “Is what we are doing making each other happy and happier?”

The one initiating an act of touch for the first time must get permission first.

1 The initiator. I am the one touching them thus initiating what I would like to do for them that they more than likely have never had before. So I first tell them what I am going to do.

2 Permission. I ask them if that is okay mainly because sometimes it’s going to hurt for me to work the knot out. I have to ask them to let me know if it’s to much.

3 Happiness. Figuring out by way of communication what makes them the happiest. Often it’s a first time client so I will be touching them for the first time (as I do physical therapy). Usually the neck and should muscles are where a lot of tension is held. So I want to release that tension so they are happier for love desires the happiness of the object of its affection. So they go through a little pain then feel better and I’m happy to have helped them. The primary goal is to make them happy.

4 Now I want them to sense their body as they move. How do they feel? How does it feel when you move? Then pause to remember. The mind and body must connect with the new better feeling or way of movement.

And for in the bedroom, this means that she would be better loved if time was taken out every now and then for the mind to remember what was it that made me feel that way?

In this way a new memory of how the now better feeling person is. This is me, I feel better. I am satisfied and got what I wanted, which was to feel better.

The problem with most people in back, neck or any pain is because the body has learned to move wrong and has forgotten what right is. It’s more of a mind and a programming of what the body senses as easy. The movement that should be easiest to us, which was also the best movement for us, which was learned as a baby as it learned to pick its head up, pick its feet up, roll over, crawl, kneel, stand, side step then walk.

Making love is movement.

I would have to say that the majority of people over 30 are not fit enough nor do they have a correct enough posture for proper movement in bed. Which means that they are moving inefficiently and will tire to soon.

The command in the Bible is for each of them to “drink their fill of love.” Song 5:1. How can you get your fill if you have to quit due to lack of energy and then just make yourself happy.

She has to be ready and want him. She should let him know what he could do to make himself desirable.

I get my principle of movement from what is call the Feldendkrais method.

In the Feldenkrais method, which helps all kinds of people move and feel better. The older and more messed up you are the better it works.

One of the steps in his method is to move a certain way. Move your head, shoulders, hips, feet, leg etc a certain way.

Step two stop and remember that movement.

Step three do the movement again but figure out how you could do it easier.

Sense, feel to make it easier.

Step four, stop to program the idea in your mind as to what was easy. Stop right when you feel the slightest bit of using more effort.

Within that easy movement there is distance, speed and angles that could be modified so long as there is “No Fear” or pain. Or a sense that you are having to work harder to do the same thing.

Step five. Remember how it felt. Pause to let the mind and body put what just happened together. So that it could be repeated. In this way the frequency of pleasure in movement can be increased. Thus the frequency of love in this manner is repeated.

Step 7. Move again trying to make it easier and feel even better. This applies both to a bad back and neck as it does in the bedroom. I don’t intend to be speaking euphemistically but am rather more like seeing similarities between movement and physical therapy and movement when touch someone for the first time in marriage. Due to the Song of Songs and love being much on my mind while working, seeing the similarities just happens.

Try something else, but each new position or touch then goes through the same steps. I would only suppose so by what I thinks so far to be logically but not by experience. lol.

Remember how it felt. And how you got to that feeling and communicate back to your spouse. Both need feedback from each other all along the way. Love each other.

The body is designed for small basic fearless and easy movements at first then when repeated enough times the foundation is built and more distance can be added to the movement, speed and various angles.

You see what I’m thinking is that both have to be happy really happy. The command is to drink your fill. How much, how often and how intense do you want it? God says that the bedroom with you spouse is where he commands you to get it and should be your greatest joy to do.

If both have to be happy and fully satisfied then wouldn’t it follow that both would be happiest at the same time. Meaning the same simple, easiest (easy is relative), and sensed as feeling good, should please both and when she is fully satisfies so will he because he desired to please you fully. And when he is fully satisfied so will she be because her greatest desire was to please him. Yet the male is the initiator so that he first seeks her pleasure before his own and is happiest when she is satisfied for love is self less.

Now I must say here that I haven’t slept with a woman in over 20 years and am combining what I know about movement, pleasure, love and the Bible all together.

It boggles my mind to know that God knows and commands the best sex.

I mean He tells us not to lust before marriage.

I know some men who were saved young and lusted very very little and I know guys who needed 5 girlfriends and watched porn all day desiring the beauty of women over and over again that was not their wife.

Imagine how a woman would feel if a man had only desired one woman in his life. He never desired nor lusted after another and when he found the one he desired she new in his heart was only affection for her.

I’m not saying anyone did this but Adam before he sinned. Nor am I saying it could be fully accomplished, but it is what God commands. He commands things that are good for us. It is good for a woman to stay a virgin before marriage. It is good for the both of them to not lust. The eyes are meant to be satisfied, as to being delighted and happy to see private parts, in the marriage context only.

Many men are deceived into thinking that the greatest pleasures in life are outside of the marriage bed. No, No No!

Mother’s teach your daughter’s at a young age that the best God has for them as far as physical pleasure in this world goes, is in marriage to a proven godly man. And its best if both are virgins who have never touched another.

Would knowing some principles of touch beforehand help?

Interesting how all of this was on my mind. I just wanted it down and hopefully helps someone. I suppose some things weren’t so clear and I hope I didn’t offend someone but believe some things should be said to young boys and girls earlier. Use what is said with discretion, but I strongly believe that a girl going through “crushes” should read Solomon’s song of songs to know what true love is and feels like.

Principles of touch

Pressure or intensity, angle, distance or length of the touch, speed, duration or time spent doing the same thing or pauses, position, timing of variations any probably more.

Short distance for long time at one angle and speed.

Medium distance for long time at one angle and speed.

Long distance for long time at same angle and speed.

Short distance for long time at one angle and speed in different position.

Medium distance for long time at same angle and speed.

Long distance for long time at one angle and speed in different position.

All six principles of touch have their own variation. Plus,

all six principles could be done in different orders, which leads to thousands of various combinations of figuring out what makes you spouse happy, then happier and happiest and time it when they please.




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Saved in 2000 at age 27. Nearly immediately I fell in love with the Song and grew very fast the first two years memorizing large portions of scripture purifying my mind the started chewing on meat to soon and struggled for 12 years and Christ has me on track like always but I just took the long way around and now I love leading others closer to Christ by seeing His love reflected in Solomons love for an enemy slave girl.

I have experienced God's love to me in the Song in ways that words can't express. There are many portion of the Word where she experiences extra ordinary outpouring of the Holy Spirit of God. If you have a burning desire for a close intimate relationship with God by experiencing His Love to you over and over again at greater and greater heights, depths, lengths and breaths then The Song of Songs is where you need to be.

I can help you with this process of Growing in the experience of God's love. As of 7-23-16 I have experienced everything prior to chapter 8. The Song of Song is progressive in experience. Meaning that if you are mature then you can experience the joys and extraordinary outpourings of God's Love shed abroad in your heart.

If you are not so mature then the delights in the first chapter of the Song will satisfy your thirst for experiencing the Love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Many Christian are living in sin because they do not know how to experience God's love and get hooked on Loving Him. It feels good to be loved and to love Him. His burden is not heavy and His yoke is light, Jesus said in Matt. 10:28

I believe God wants to use me to help beautify His Bride through the Song of Solomon.

If you see the book literally you will not understand nor grasp the Love God has for you. If you see the book and the verses in it relating to Christ's love to you then I would love to show you how to experience this Love to the fullest. I will pray for you daily and guide you every step of the way.

16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.

20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.

I grew up going to church but was a hypocrite. I lived my life how I chose but went to church on Sunday because my family went.

Mom and Dad divorced when I was about 5.

About this time I was sexually abused by "Bob" a made up name. This incident changed my life for the worst. I had no clue how to deal with it.

As I got older I grew in my hatred for Bob. I didn't blame anyone of my family because I was to young to know any better. Some of what happened during the abuse was in a bathroom. So overtime I would use the bathroom and look at my private parts that night would replay in my mind. My hatred for Bob would continue to grow each time.

Now I know this only happened to me one night. I can't image the pain other's go through who have had this happen to them over and over. Even as I write this now I cry with many tears for those hurting. God love you even though you may not know it or feel it. Go to Him in your time of need.

I was a really bad teenager. I only cared about myself and not even my family. I always came first in my mind. Even at the expense of hurting others. I was growing in my hatred for God by now.

I was going to church and was learned that God was in control. I thought well, if God was in control then He must have let me be sexually abused. I didn't understand this, How could a good and loving God allow this. I hated Him for it. My hatred for Bob grew as well. I was still using the bathroom and memories kept coming back. My heart grew even harder for Bob and God. As far as I was concerned God would have nothing to do with my life so I lived even worse. I thought I would be in jail or dead and I really didn't care, I thought it could be much worse than reliving your painful past over and over again. Little did I know that God's plan later would be to use these events to give me a burning passion for the closest most intimate love relationship with Himself through Christ mainly through the love poem in the Song of Songs in the Bible.

I remember hating Bob so much that the only thing that would relieve my pain was actually thinking he would suffer forever for what he did. I grew so much in my hatred for him that I had to continue to think that he would get even worse than what I imaged before. After some time I would only be relieved of hatred for him unless I thought he would burn in a hotter and hotter hell for all the suffering he put me through.

I never told my mom or family what happened, although I think some of them knew something had happened.

I grew up quite rebellious and even went to jail at the age of 20. I was living the fast life pursuing all my sinful desires and wanting more. It never seemed to be enough. I was quite happy in my sin but I just wanted more of it.

I lived life thinking I would die at a young age, riding motorcycle and living on the edge put me in the hospital many times and I should have been dead.

California at age 26.

I moved to California for a job opportunity at the age of 27. While trying to figure out what radio stations to program in my car, I ran across a RC Sproul talking about "people who have the faith that saves and people who only say that have faith" only the people who have the faith that saves will go to heaven. I thought "I don't think I have the faith that saves because my life was so bad." I searched the scriptures to try to get this faith. I found a church and thought people there could help me get this faith that saves. All along God kept showing me how sinful I was and that I deserved punishment from Him for living my life hating Him.

One weekend I read Matthew, Mark, Luke and John desperately trying to find out how to get this faith that saves. By now I knew that if you had the faith that saves that Jesus would be saving you from a life of sin. I still liked my sin and Jesus sure wasn't saving me from a life of sin, so I rightly concluded that I didn't have the faith that saves.

By the time I got to John, I saw "believe" everywhere. John 3:16 and other verses and wow the whole book was written so that you may believe. John 20:31 "these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in his name." So at night I would pray "I believe Jesus died for me, I believe, I believe. This was just an intellectual belief. I knew that in history and the Bible that Jesus died for everyone, so I believed it. But this belief did not change my life.

I would go on night after night saying the same prayer only to wake up the next day wanting to fulfill my sinful desires. The prayer wasn't working so I started to word it different each time hoping some prayer would work. After about 2 weeks of this I was fed up with it all, nothing was happening. I still was living in my sin and wanted more of it. A Christian hates their sin and does something about it, and certainly they don't continue to make plans to sin. The prayers weren't working so I gave up. I thought to myself "God, I tried with all my might, I searched the Scriptures, went to church, read the Bible and prayed all to no avail. If Im going to be saved your going to have to do it because I tried."

So I quit praying but still the Bible kept calling me so I read more. 3 Days later I was laying in a tanning bed and God convicted me really hard that I had offended Him by the life I was living. I was so scared of God, where could I run. You can't hide from God. It seemed like forever that I was under these terrors of being punished by a Holy Angry God. This lasted about 10 minutes then this is how I understood it. God let me understand that all that anger that He had for me for all my sin should come my way but He had poured that anger out on Jesus 2,000 years ago. I immediately started weeping an couldn't stop for about 20 minutes. All the sins that I could think of I confessed for that 20 minutes one after another after another, I was so sorrowful and grieved it physically hurt inside.

After I stopped crying I thought that was the weirdest thing that ever happened. I walked out of the tanning salon and stood outside and everything seemed so beautiful, the tree's, the birds, even the air seemed pleasant. Now I was really wondering what was going on.

I pondered all of this as I drove to work that day. I brought my Bible to work and was thinking what am I doing, I want to take my Bible to work so I can read it. As soon as I got to work I started reading my Bible. I couldn't believe what I was reading!! It all was so wonderful. It felt so good to just read my Bible. My client showed up and as I was training them the only thing I could think about was getting back to my Bible. I read all night and slept about 2 hours and was reading again.

I had sinful things in my apartment and I rounded everything evil up and threw it in the garbage. It was weird I was thinking but it felt good so I left it all in the garbage. I called my girlfriend to break it up and she thought I had another girl, I said no, I just think this is wrong we shouldn't be sleeping together. She didn't understand so I told her I was a Christian now and she still thought I had another girlfriend. She said "Im glad your a Christian, so am I" I thought to myself, "I have a strong conviction that sleeping together is wrong and she thought it was okay" I wondered how she could think that. Anyway we broke up.

I kept reading my bible and repenting, there was so much to repent of and I had lived a very sinful life. I was a thief for some part of my life and all the people I stole from kept coming to mind. I owed so much money. I was instantly in debt about $80,000. As I could I paid them back. As of 7-18-2016 I still owe about $25,000 but it sure is a joy to be paying them back.

The first week of being saved a car just about ran me over, they hit me but I wasn't hurt at all. The guy in the car felt so bad. I just looked at him and said "God bless you and have a great day, I am okay" smiled at him and moved on. Now I was really wondering what was going on because I normally would have cussed him out left and right and instead of cussing I blessed him. That was so weird. But again it felt good. I learned to do good by what my conscience told me was good and that it felt good. I got hooked on this feeling good by doing good and did it more often.

About two weeks after being saved I thought of Bob. I immediately prayed for him, something like "Lord help him.." then I stopped praying and said out loud "What am I doing?" I'm praying for a man that I hated my whole life, but it feels good and right, so I did it again. I stopped again midway in the prayer and started pacing around. I was trying to make sense of what was going on and couldn't figure it out. But again it made me happy to pray for him so I did. Bob would often come to mind when I went to the bathroom and each time I would pray for Him. The more I did this the less weird it got. And the greater my love grew for him.

I started memorizing large portions of scripture and this was wonderful because it felt like the words were cleaning my mind and as Proverbs 2:10 "For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul." I wanted more and more of this pleasantness. So I memorized even more and the joy got more and more.

Then this life changing advice came:

A friend from church told me to find a book of the Bible and really understand it. Read through the Bible and pick one and read it over and over and study it and really get it. So I started in Genesis and read through. When I got to Proverbs I really liked it so I thought that would be the book. I started by memorizing all of Proverbs chapter 3. After that I thought maybe there is a better book than Proverbs. So I read on. Then I came to Song of Solomon. I read it with quite some confusion. It wasn't as good as the other books, I didn't know why. So I bought a commentary on it. George Burrowes commentary on the Song of Solomon.

In the commentary I found that George and other saw the book as illustrating God's love to the Church. And not only illustrating it but displaying the Love of Christ better than any other book. This caught my attention big time, because I was having a burning desire for a closer relationship with God and desperately learning about His Love so that I could Love God. You see I had hated Him for so long that God used that old hard heart to spur me on in loving Him. I so much did not want to hate God anymore that I was on fire to learn to Love Him as much and as fast as possible. So here was a book that would help me do that. So I landed on the Song of Solomon. I committed to learning as much of this book as possible.

I memorized the first chapter and would repeat it often throughout the day. I didn't know much of what I was repeating but it sure made me happier and on fire for God. I grew so fast repeating the first chapter over and over again all day, like a dozen times a day at least. It felt so good and I never found any other book that caused me to weep so much. I would often weep everyday just reading it. I was to immature to know what was going on. Even though it hurt to weep so much, I felt like my heart was being cleansed from the filth that was in it by repeating it over and over again so I did. As I read the commentary I understood more and more. What God was doing in me through the Song was greater and faster than any other portion of Scripture so I tended to stay there often. I was so excited about God that I thought it funny that other's in church weren't the same way. Some where happy but it seemed most of them didn't seem to care much about God. They would talk about work, football the weather. The only thing I wanted to talk about was Jesus and God and how can I grow closer to Him.

About this time there was a mission trip to Ireland.

I started to have convictions that I should try to find Bob and witness to him. I kept praying for him but how could he be saved if he hadn't heard the Gospel that has power unto salvation. So I asked family if they had any information. Like me before, my family hated him and thought he deserved hell. After some time I got his name but no location or phone number. Either they didn't know where he was or didn't want to tell me. I prayed some more and then started to get stronger convictions to do something about finding Bob.

So I went on the internet and typed in "his name and child molestation sex offender court" thinking that some court record would have some info leading to where I may find him" I even talked to a private eye and he couldn't help. So I googled some key words and spent hours each day looking through each page. I believed it was God's will for me to witness to Bob. I wanted him to be saved. Really bad. So much so that I thought God would save Bob if I were to witness to him. So I didn't stop searching for him. I kept my computer on each day and went page by page. It took two years to go through about 15,000 pages but I found someone who matched his name in a prison for molesting his grandchildren. I wrote the prison and he wrote back. All kinds of emotions went through my body when I saw his letter from the jail. I didn't open it right away but two hours later God gave me enough courage to face my fears again and I opened the letter. He admitted to being the one who molested me. We wrote back and forth I told him I was angry before but now I was saved and that I loved him and believed God wanted me to talk to him. He read my letters over and over again. I shared the gospel in each one.

I got mad at Bob 2x. Once he said that he love me. I got really angry with him. He didn't love me. That night it was hard to love Bob, I had to call a friend to pray for me to repent, after he prayed I felt greater love for Bob. Then I wrote him back saying "I'm sorry but you can't say that you loved me. You did not love me you lusted after me." He admitted he didn't love as he should have and admitted that it was lust and sinful. Finally some conviction. Yet I only thought he was saying that because I was being nice to him. All his family had left him and he said I was the only "friend" he had.

Wether or not it was true Bob said that he had cancer in his arm and that the help the prison gives was not enough and if he had money he could see a different doctor and get help. I sent him some money and since I was in jail before I knew what it was like to be in there without money, so I sent him money.

About 4-5 months in the economy went down, it was 2008. Work was hard. I still sent him money and I had to work harder. This was a really good lesson for me because I had to "work hard for the benefit of someone who did not deserve it." This was one of the greatest blessing ever because I realized with great certainty that Jesus was in me. This is what Jesus did. Jesus worked his whole life for me and I didn't deserve it!! Christ was in me! This was one of the best feelings ever and it put me in worship for months.

Then a mission trip to Croatia.

Each time I had to leave my business and amazing as it is I was completely okay each time. I am a self employed personal trainer and it is normally absurd to just leave and start over, but each time I had enough work within 2 weeks of coming back. This is a flat out miracle. I trusted God to provide and he did. How many people can start up a business in 2 weeks. Only with the help of God. God was teaching me early on in my walk that as long as I did what He wanted me to do then I had nothing to worry about.

About 3 years saved now.

I Taught the 4 year old's at church Sunday morning for 10 years.

Left my business 2x for mission trips and God miraculously provided when I came back.

I taught 5 x a week plus held a job.

Sunday morning to the kids.
Sunday night with the 5th graders
Friday afternoons at Good News Clubs. Sponsored by Child Evangelism Fellowship.
Friday Nights with the Kids teaching through Pilgrims Progress, I did this 2x
Teaching Monday afternoons at a nursing home. I taught through the Song of Songs once then John, then Romans then back to the Song again! I love the Song of Songs.
I grew up hating God for what happened to me, and now I love Him because He first loved me. My passion is for children to grow up loving God and not hating Him.

My other passion which has become ever greater is to help others see the Love of Christ to His Church in the Song of Songs!!

I would love to help you, just let me know and I will lead you and pray for you.

God demonstrates His love to us in sending His one and only Son to suffer in our place, taking our sins upon Himself so that whoever believes they get to heaven because of what He did for us will not perish but have everlasting life.

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