This is when you have feelings for someone and they are more than the other person feelings back.
Do not arouse love until it/she desires.
Love desires to be roused when it wants to. In this sense love has personality because Love has an ability to desire.
When does love desire to be roused?
Love is a feeling. If that feeling isn’t there then it needs to be awakend. If the feeling is sleeping the it can be roused.
What roused her out of bed or sleep?
To long away from her beloved 3:1. A sight of him 5:4 or so.
A guy who likes a girl that isn’t showing any affection back will often have aroused love before it/she desired. Those feelings at that level, a deeper more intimate level, than just being friends or acquittances is not mutual. Meaning he desires more and she doesn’t. What would it feel like to be dating her? To have those feelings now is arousing love before the proper time. The emotions need to be consistent with truth. And consistent with each level of deeper intimacy.
Closer hearts. He wants closer and she doesn’t. He should not arouse extra feelings for her. Extra is above and beyond the current proper level. Can he have feelings for her like a boyfriend and girlfriend do? No because she is not his girlfriend. Should she act like she is his girlfriend? If so then she would not go around dating one guy one day and another guy after that. She would keep herself for him. Assuming dating to be exclusive. But she is free to date anyone else, so if the man gets jealous and has a cruel painful feeling seeing her date someone else then he has roused jealousy only because he thought in his mind that she was his. That she was his girlfriend that she could not give your feelings to another. He is thinking her feelings belong to him. That is not truth but lies. Her thoughts and feelings are her own and their should be nothing between a guy desiring a girl that doesn’t respond to his advances. Truth is that she is available to anyone, not just him.
So there is rousing love by having feelings, to high of feelings for the truth of the situation. Thus sparking love and feeling in oneself to to high a degree by believing a lie. Do not do this! Do not arouse love until she desires.
He could desire her which is fine and Lord Willing they will marry. But for now he can’t have jealousy for nothing of her belongs to him in that way. There is no jealous bond. No agreement yet. But he can have feelings for her in the sense of desire. Desire is an affection of the heart. Love is also an affection. When the woman desired is not presently his girlfriend then he desires her to be his. This desire is good and holy if he desires her for the right Biblical reasons. This desire if it is a spark from God will manifest itself in some action. He will be near her if possible. He will make advances. He will make an effort to get to know he more which usually manifest itself in asking for a date, so that they could get to know each other better. And see if the sparks start flying on both sides.
When the woman reciprocates and agrees with being boyfriend and girlfriend. The idea is that they can’t date anyone else. Time with him alone. She belongs to him in a dating sense. Her thoughts and feelings are to be shared with him and her not getting closer to another unless they break it off. You can let yourself have feelings now consistent with the new relationship. If she were to give her thoughts and feelings to another man then rousing jealousy is inevitable and will be painful, rightfully so now. Because they had agreed that the dating would be exclusive. Maybe even a promise ring is given. Promising to not date anyone else. Promising to tell the truth. And making an outward profession to all other guys that she is in some way or degree spoken for.
Love is a feeling. It is a feeling you have towards someone. That feeling has different levels or degree’s. You can have feelings for someone your heard of. You can have feelings for someone you met. You can have more feelings for someone you met and have know for a while. You can have even more feeling for someone you met, have known and are now dating. Meaning you are allowed to have jealous feelings. If either one is seen flirting with another then certainly for jealousy to arise will be normal if you love the person that is giving their feelings to another. For those feeling belonged to you whom she promised to not give her heart to another in that way. If no jealousy then no love.
Most would say that arousing love before it desires relates to lust or inappropriate touching or sex before marriage. But I do believe that a guy or girl could rouse love in the sense of feeling jealousy when love didn’t desire to be roused nor was it the proper time to have that feeling in the context.
So three times this warning to not rouse or awaken love until it so desires shows up.
Once after their first amazing date that ended with her in the banquet house overwhelmed by his love and embraced by his golden arms.
Another time the warning comes up is after engagement and after she learns to hold him even tighter.
So at each level of deeper intimacy and closeness we get the warning to not arouse or awaken love until it/she desires.
The 3rd time it shows up is when they are married.
You can let your feelings go higher than she is willing to reciprocate and be on the same page.
Okay all of that was just thought of but not reread, but I wrote it and want it out there because I believe it would help. For our own good and God’s glory “Do not arouse or awaken love unit it/she desires.” Song of songs 2:7, 3:5 and 8:4.