In both a Godly marriage with true love in it and the mystical marriage of Jesus Christ to His Bride there are many things similar therefore many analogies can be made.
Solomon’s Song of Songs is the best love poem Solomon wrote out of 1,005 of them. In a marriage wether mystical or physical where the two are getting closer and closer, love is at the center making it all happen. Because love unites hearts and selfishness separates.
In any relationship where there is true love there is a desire to be both physically and spiritually and emotionally close and to forever get closer to the ones/Ones we have affection for. (ones = Family members and friends. Ones capitalized are God and Jesus by the power of the Holy Spirit who is love.)
In any relationship where the Holy Spirit is there is a forever increasing desire to be close and get closer.
There was a time soon in the brides life when her fiancé felt so far away from her. It was as if there were not only one big wall separating them from each other but many of them.
The man of her dreams had just proposed and given himself to her and she received him and reciprocated her love to him and gave herself to him and then glories in the fact and says,
“My beloved is mine, and I am His” Song 2:16
They are engaged!!
Now there is a break in the Love Song right after the engagement. Certain things lead up to their engagement so that they got closer to the point of making a commitment to each other in the relationship.
What causes her to feel separated is not so clear.
Are they spiritually and emotionally close but physically at a distance when in the next verse she says,
“Until the day breaks and the shadows flee away, turn my beloved and be like a gazelle on the mountains” that separate you from me 2:17.
“Mountains” = What she sees as huge things that separate them from each other.
“Shadows” = Is a reference to the cruel darkness in her heart she senses while either physically, spiritually or emotionally separated from him.
“Turn” = She feels as if he has left her or is leaving physically, spiritually and emotionally (or all of them) and wants him to turn and come back. She wants to feel like he is drawing near and closer to her rather than going further away. ( A simple illustration of this is looking at her the whole time she is talking to you. Looking away is like turning away, looking at her, reading her face, feeling her emotions and knowing what she means not always what she says is the man “turning”)
“Until the day breaks” Once he has overcome the great mountains that separate them and gets closer to her and she feels better, this would be when the “day breaks and shadows flee“. She wants good feelings to come and the bad ones to go away!
“be like a gazelle” I need you to be wise in how you show love. Skilled like a gazelle on mountains. Sometimes they just want us men to understand. This means that she has a certain feeling. Everything she is saying is to help us understand what she is feeling. So during that time they want us to be wise. Wisdom is using whatever we know and have toward a certain end or goal. If the goal is to understand which when we understand and say to them “I understand” this is being sensitive to their feelings. So be wise and use your two ears to listen to her and forget about the football game. Be wise and use your eyes to look at her the whole time so you can better know what she is feeling, even if you don’t know what your doing, at least try and get better and better. Be wise and use past experience. Think back to a time when something made you frustrated, upset, angry, horrible, depressed or cruel like being in hell and then say “I UNDERSTAND“. SAY I UNDERSTAND after looking at her, listening and sensing what she felt if understanding was the goal. I often ask my sister “Do you want me to understand or give you solutions to your issues?” She sometime says just understand. Then other times she says, understand and help her. I had a girlfriend once that said I always was getting out my “tool box” trying to fix her and the situation when all she wanted was for me to understand. To understand in a situation is a means to an end. The goal is to get closer to her emotionally by understanding her feelings in certain situations. Doing so will help the cruel dark shadowy feelings to flee and allow the good, happy, safe and felling loved emotions to shine like the sun in the morning.
Im not saying that the difficult mountain she wants him to overcome is him learning to understand her but it is an example of one of the mountains needed to be climbed. Leaning what love is is another, communication is another, getting over selfishness and pride are others etc. Anything that can cause separation is a mountain needed to be overcome.
Solomon says it poetically but here are some other ways women often say it.
1 This relationship doesn’t seem to be going anywhere and I want it to, I want you to do your part but your so insensitive to my feelings.
But usually they just say,
2 “Your so insensitive” “Be more sensitive to my feelings” ( now most guys are completely lost when a woman says this because men are usually less in touch with their own feelings so how could they be sensitive to someone who is really in touch with their emotions and feelings) Isn’t God wonderful to have a woman in a love song put her feelings into words so that us men can logically understand and be able to show her some love at a time when the one we love really needs it!
3 There are problems in this relationship bigger then I can handle (mountains) and it feels like your going further away from me (turn), I need you to be wise and skillfully (like a gazelle) and overcome whatever it is that’s making me feel these cruel feelings because I want to feel loved, safe and happily close to you (day breaking and shadows fleeing).
Now you know what to do when she had bad dark feelings she wants gone and good feelings to come. When it feels like your going further aways and wants you closer.
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