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God commands the happiest sex!

In Solomon’s song of Songs 5:1 God commands the married couple to “Drink your fill of love.

God commands married couples to have the happiest sex! They hare to “Drink their fill of love.”

What is your fill? Drink it up along with your spouse.

The Love Poem was written so that we can know what love is and see it illustrated.

So far we learned that love casts out fear, for she had no fear in drawing near to him. She wanted to be closer physically, religiously and heart to heart spiritually (soul). She did not fear because he was a man of Godly character.

The young Solomon loved God. He was a virgin at one time in his life. Song 1:2-3:4 explain the time when he was a virgin.

The young woman in the Song with a flame above all other flames in her heart is a holy virgin as well. Neither of them had been touched sexually.

Now they are married and its the wedding night.

What do you think is going through the mind of the holy virgin?

What do you think is foremost on the mind of Solomon?

Yeah, “Drinking their fill of love

Why would they be thinking it?

The woman would be thinking it because her mother told her about love when she was a young girl. Song 8:2

Her mother taught her at the right time all about love.

Her mother taught her that love is jealous and it’s cruelty is as painful as the fire of hell and you don’t want to have sex before marriage.

Her mother taught her that God wanted her to stay a virgin until married.

Her mother taught her about love, love to God, love to her husband, love to neighbors and enemies. And her mother taught her about love in the bedroom.

Now we have Solomon’s Song of Songs so we can use what was going on in their holy minds right before having sex for the first time ever!

Talk about intimate!

We get to look into the hearts and minds of two holy people having sex. Wow! And its in the Bible, so we can use it to teach us about love in the bedroom, correct those who know what love is and are trying to get it more and more right and rebuke those who know better and aren’t doing it right.

After their wedding he adored her beauty, including her breasts.

So the context is that she at least is half naked.

God wants the couple to experience love.

God wants them to experience love from their lover to the fullest.

God command the end goal but not clearly defining the means to that end.

Drink your fill of love” Drink infers that you are thirsty.

You are thirsty, you desire something. The experience of love with your lover. You can have that experience to the fullest. It is commanded by God.

Is your thirst satisfied at some point when drinking your fill of love?

Yes, I do believe this verse is usually fulfilled when a person climaxesl. It’s the idea built into the word climax. It’s your peak of enjoyment and pleasure. It’s a climax of your enjoyment and pleasure. How thirsty are you? “Drink your fill” There can also be a partial fulfillment that is enough. The point here is that both spouses are to have it in their heart to do their best to fully please the other person, which may or may not include a physical orgasm. This command doesn’t mean that you have to give them the best orgasm ever each time either but that striving for better and better sex is not sinful.

Know the couple in the Holy Love Song knew this. It sure looks like someone told them to drink their fill right before they did.

Drink you fill of love

After the man got all his hearts desire fulfilled he says,

I have come into my garden, my love, my bride;
I have gathered my myrrh along with my balsam.
I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey;
I have drunk my wine and my milk.
” Solomon’s song of Songs 5:1

So after having be fully satisfied he is happy as can be. She has pleased him in the bedroom because she loved him.

Interesting how the Song only records him letting her know he was fully satisfied. Not that she wasn’t but it only records her wanting to please him and then him letting her know he was pleased.

So the idea is to look at it from how it is in the text so that we get a right idea of love. A holy love particularly between two virgins on their wedding night.

She never comments on herself drinking her fill. She is supposed to as best as is possible and as he is able. Drinking your fill is the goal. Having it reached for both would be great. Having it reached for one person when the other doesn’t is what the Poem seems to be suggesting.

She may not orgasm. But she can be happy if he is! I believe this is what is illustrated. Because she wanted him to come inter her garden and eat. He went and ate and was satisfied. She got what she wanted. She wanted him to come into her garden and eat and drink up love.

Her happiness or what pleased her was to please her husband, she clearly loved and and wanted him to be happy and pleased with her and what she had for him.

He clearly was pleased with her and what precious, valuable and delightful varieties of love she had stored up for him. She was his. She wanted to give all of herself completely to him to fully satisfy him and she got what she wanted therefore her happiness was in his. Her happiness was placed in the object of her affection.

Her happiness and drinking her fill of love came not necessarily from orgasm but from him being fully satisfied with her.

A holy love in the bedroom is not selfish.

She is not selfish here, clearly she is not selfish!

It was her first time. So maybe he didn’t know much and neither did she so who knows what really went on, but he was satisfied. The command is to both of them to drink their fill. To eat and drink to full satisfaction. Which means that drinking your fill is the goal but may not be reached. The goal then is to get better and better at letting your partner drink their fill of your love.

An eden like love has been restored. Both are naked and unashamed.

Love desires to please the beloved. She desired to please him.

Is he satisfied with her? Yes. To what degree? To the degree in which she wanted to. She want him to gather, eat and drink of her love. And he did gather, eat and drink of his Bride’s love. Therefore she got what she wanted and he got what was his. Her to her best ability.

I can’t remember how much I said of this so far but I will say it again! These are holy virgins having sex. Her mother taught her that if she truly loved her husband then she would want him to come and gather, eat and drink up his fill of love. She now on their wedding night wanted him to drink his fill so she would have peace of mind knowing she was doing what God wanted her to do in the bedroom and she also wanted what God wanted therefore her will and God’s were one. God wanted her to please her husband and she wanted to please her husband. Therefore she will be rewarded in heaven for having holy sex. This is far better than more punishment in hell for sinful motives. But we know that love is not selfish. Love puts other’s happiness first before ours and puts our happiness in theirs. So that when they are happy we are happy. Love of benevolence in the bedroom to its fullest.

In simple terms “if you have it in your mind that you want to do your best to please your husband and are happy doing then you have love and not selfishness in your heart.” “Im want to do my best to please him.” If you put yourself first before him then its selfish. He should also put her first before himself. It goes both ways. He owns her and she owns him.

My point is here that there is nothing sinful about wanting to please your spouse to the fullest. Make them as happy as can be in the bedroom.

Just the opposite the more and more you make your spouse happy the more God is glorified, because in your heart is more and more love and less selfishness. How self less can you be in the bedroom?

Now imagine if both spoused put their happiness in the other person, then there would have to be mutual agreement upon what made both people happy. And happier to a full drinking. “Drink your fill. Yes, drink abundantly” Song 5:1. NASB

Notice the affirmation there, yes. “yes” This helps with the being naked and not ashamed. Adam and eve after they sinned were ashamed. Believers and non believer often feel shame when having selfish sex and they should be ashamed because love is not selfish. Love places it happens in the happiness and pleasure of the object of its affection for they are one.

You need not be naked and ashamed when having sex for the first time in marriage and you desire for your spouse to be totally pleased with you. Yes, drink your fill in marriage but not before. Don’t drink anything with your eyes either for if your right eye causes you to sin then stop whatever it is that is causing you to look with sinful desire.

The virgin woman in the Song is the example for woman on how to have holy sexual feelings especially the first time you have your clothes off and have sex!

When sinful thoughts go to other’s and not your spouse either before or after marriage then you give a part of yourself to someone else that doesn’t belong to you. This sparks jealousy. Don’t give what belongs to your beloved to another. You intimate love belongs to your spouse only.

After their wedding it’s now time for the consumption of the marriage. She is naked, least her top half then everything. But first he delights in her beautiful face then her naked body. He says,

How beautiful you are, my darling!
    Oh, how beautiful!
    Your eyes behind your veil are doves.
Your hair is like a flock of goats
    descending from the hills of Gilead.
Your teeth are like a flock of sheep just shorn,
    coming up from the washing.
Each has its twin;
    not one of them is alone.
Your lips are like a scarlet ribbon;
    your mouth is lovely.
Your temples behind your veil
    are like the halves of a pomegranate.
Your neck is like the tower of David,
    built with courses of stone;
on it hang a thousand shields,
    all of them shields of warriors.
Your breasts are like two fawns,
    like twin fawns of a gazelle
    that browse among the lilies.
Until the day breaks
    and the shadows flee,
I will go to the mountain of myrrh
    and to the hill of incense.
You are altogether beautiful, my darling;
    there is no flaw in you.

After giving her such praises and adoration of her natural beauty it would be easy for her to get prideful on those high emotional moments. She is in danger of getting prideful so he calls her down from the holy mountains of praise and says,

Come with me from Lebanon, my bride,
    come with me from Lebanon.
Descend from the crest of Amana,
    from the top of Senir, the summit of Hermon,
from the lions’ dens
    and the mountain haunts of leopards

She listen to him and looks his way and now he is ravished with not only her physical beauty but her love and humility in such a time of so great a praise and so he delights in her moral beauty as well and says,

You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride;
    you have stolen my heart
with one glance of your eyes,
    with one jewel of your necklace.
10 How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride!
    How much more pleasing is your love than wine,
and the fragrance of your perfume
    more than any spice!
11 Your lips drop sweetness as the honeycomb, my bride;
    milk and honey are under your tongue.
The fragrance of your garments
    is like the fragrance of Lebanon

Then he praises her being more intimately related to him and the fact that she is a virgin and says,

12 “You are a garden locked up, my love, my bride;
    you are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain.

There is absolutely nothing missing about her.

Your plants are an orchard of pomegranates
    with choice fruits,
    with henna and nard,
14     nard and saffron,
    calamus and cinnamon,
    with every kind of incense tree,
    with myrrh and aloes
    and all the finest spices.
15 You are a garden fountain,
    a well of flowing water
    streaming down from Lebanon

Then she calls on the power of nature, God to help her be pleasing to her husband and says with a flame above all other flames in her heart,

Awake, north wind,
    and come, south wind!
Blow on my garden,
    that its fragrance may spread everywhere.
Let my beloved come into his garden
    and taste its choice fruits.

Then he lets her know he is fully satisfied with her and her love.

I have come into my garden, my love, my bride;
I have gathered my myrrh along with my balsam.
I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey;
I have drunk my wine and my milk.
” Solomon’s Song of songs 4:1-5:1

What are you comments on this command “Drink your fill”?

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Saved in 2000 at age 27. Nearly immediately I fell in love with the Song and grew very fast the first two years memorizing large portions of scripture purifying my mind the started chewing on meat to soon and struggled for 12 years and Christ has me on track like always but I just took the long way around and now I love leading others closer to Christ by seeing His love reflected in Solomons love for an enemy slave girl.

I have experienced God's love to me in the Song in ways that words can't express. There are many portion of the Word where she experiences extra ordinary outpouring of the Holy Spirit of God. If you have a burning desire for a close intimate relationship with God by experiencing His Love to you over and over again at greater and greater heights, depths, lengths and breaths then The Song of Songs is where you need to be.

I can help you with this process of Growing in the experience of God's love. As of 7-23-16 I have experienced everything prior to chapter 8. The Song of Song is progressive in experience. Meaning that if you are mature then you can experience the joys and extraordinary outpourings of God's Love shed abroad in your heart.

If you are not so mature then the delights in the first chapter of the Song will satisfy your thirst for experiencing the Love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Many Christian are living in sin because they do not know how to experience God's love and get hooked on Loving Him. It feels good to be loved and to love Him. His burden is not heavy and His yoke is light, Jesus said in Matt. 10:28

I believe God wants to use me to help beautify His Bride through the Song of Solomon.

If you see the book literally you will not understand nor grasp the Love God has for you. If you see the book and the verses in it relating to Christ's love to you then I would love to show you how to experience this Love to the fullest. I will pray for you daily and guide you every step of the way.

16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.

20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.

I grew up going to church but was a hypocrite. I lived my life how I chose but went to church on Sunday because my family went.

Mom and Dad divorced when I was about 5.

About this time I was sexually abused by "Bob" a made up name. This incident changed my life for the worst. I had no clue how to deal with it.

As I got older I grew in my hatred for Bob. I didn't blame anyone of my family because I was to young to know any better. Some of what happened during the abuse was in a bathroom. So overtime I would use the bathroom and look at my private parts that night would replay in my mind. My hatred for Bob would continue to grow each time.

Now I know this only happened to me one night. I can't image the pain other's go through who have had this happen to them over and over. Even as I write this now I cry with many tears for those hurting. God love you even though you may not know it or feel it. Go to Him in your time of need.

I was a really bad teenager. I only cared about myself and not even my family. I always came first in my mind. Even at the expense of hurting others. I was growing in my hatred for God by now.

I was going to church and was learned that God was in control. I thought well, if God was in control then He must have let me be sexually abused. I didn't understand this, How could a good and loving God allow this. I hated Him for it. My hatred for Bob grew as well. I was still using the bathroom and memories kept coming back. My heart grew even harder for Bob and God. As far as I was concerned God would have nothing to do with my life so I lived even worse. I thought I would be in jail or dead and I really didn't care, I thought it could be much worse than reliving your painful past over and over again. Little did I know that God's plan later would be to use these events to give me a burning passion for the closest most intimate love relationship with Himself through Christ mainly through the love poem in the Song of Songs in the Bible.

I remember hating Bob so much that the only thing that would relieve my pain was actually thinking he would suffer forever for what he did. I grew so much in my hatred for him that I had to continue to think that he would get even worse than what I imaged before. After some time I would only be relieved of hatred for him unless I thought he would burn in a hotter and hotter hell for all the suffering he put me through.

I never told my mom or family what happened, although I think some of them knew something had happened.

I grew up quite rebellious and even went to jail at the age of 20. I was living the fast life pursuing all my sinful desires and wanting more. It never seemed to be enough. I was quite happy in my sin but I just wanted more of it.

I lived life thinking I would die at a young age, riding motorcycle and living on the edge put me in the hospital many times and I should have been dead.

California at age 26.

I moved to California for a job opportunity at the age of 27. While trying to figure out what radio stations to program in my car, I ran across a RC Sproul talking about "people who have the faith that saves and people who only say that have faith" only the people who have the faith that saves will go to heaven. I thought "I don't think I have the faith that saves because my life was so bad." I searched the scriptures to try to get this faith. I found a church and thought people there could help me get this faith that saves. All along God kept showing me how sinful I was and that I deserved punishment from Him for living my life hating Him.

One weekend I read Matthew, Mark, Luke and John desperately trying to find out how to get this faith that saves. By now I knew that if you had the faith that saves that Jesus would be saving you from a life of sin. I still liked my sin and Jesus sure wasn't saving me from a life of sin, so I rightly concluded that I didn't have the faith that saves.

By the time I got to John, I saw "believe" everywhere. John 3:16 and other verses and wow the whole book was written so that you may believe. John 20:31 "these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in his name." So at night I would pray "I believe Jesus died for me, I believe, I believe. This was just an intellectual belief. I knew that in history and the Bible that Jesus died for everyone, so I believed it. But this belief did not change my life.

I would go on night after night saying the same prayer only to wake up the next day wanting to fulfill my sinful desires. The prayer wasn't working so I started to word it different each time hoping some prayer would work. After about 2 weeks of this I was fed up with it all, nothing was happening. I still was living in my sin and wanted more of it. A Christian hates their sin and does something about it, and certainly they don't continue to make plans to sin. The prayers weren't working so I gave up. I thought to myself "God, I tried with all my might, I searched the Scriptures, went to church, read the Bible and prayed all to no avail. If Im going to be saved your going to have to do it because I tried."

So I quit praying but still the Bible kept calling me so I read more. 3 Days later I was laying in a tanning bed and God convicted me really hard that I had offended Him by the life I was living. I was so scared of God, where could I run. You can't hide from God. It seemed like forever that I was under these terrors of being punished by a Holy Angry God. This lasted about 10 minutes then this is how I understood it. God let me understand that all that anger that He had for me for all my sin should come my way but He had poured that anger out on Jesus 2,000 years ago. I immediately started weeping an couldn't stop for about 20 minutes. All the sins that I could think of I confessed for that 20 minutes one after another after another, I was so sorrowful and grieved it physically hurt inside.

After I stopped crying I thought that was the weirdest thing that ever happened. I walked out of the tanning salon and stood outside and everything seemed so beautiful, the tree's, the birds, even the air seemed pleasant. Now I was really wondering what was going on.

I pondered all of this as I drove to work that day. I brought my Bible to work and was thinking what am I doing, I want to take my Bible to work so I can read it. As soon as I got to work I started reading my Bible. I couldn't believe what I was reading!! It all was so wonderful. It felt so good to just read my Bible. My client showed up and as I was training them the only thing I could think about was getting back to my Bible. I read all night and slept about 2 hours and was reading again.

I had sinful things in my apartment and I rounded everything evil up and threw it in the garbage. It was weird I was thinking but it felt good so I left it all in the garbage. I called my girlfriend to break it up and she thought I had another girl, I said no, I just think this is wrong we shouldn't be sleeping together. She didn't understand so I told her I was a Christian now and she still thought I had another girlfriend. She said "Im glad your a Christian, so am I" I thought to myself, "I have a strong conviction that sleeping together is wrong and she thought it was okay" I wondered how she could think that. Anyway we broke up.

I kept reading my bible and repenting, there was so much to repent of and I had lived a very sinful life. I was a thief for some part of my life and all the people I stole from kept coming to mind. I owed so much money. I was instantly in debt about $80,000. As I could I paid them back. As of 7-18-2016 I still owe about $25,000 but it sure is a joy to be paying them back.

The first week of being saved a car just about ran me over, they hit me but I wasn't hurt at all. The guy in the car felt so bad. I just looked at him and said "God bless you and have a great day, I am okay" smiled at him and moved on. Now I was really wondering what was going on because I normally would have cussed him out left and right and instead of cussing I blessed him. That was so weird. But again it felt good. I learned to do good by what my conscience told me was good and that it felt good. I got hooked on this feeling good by doing good and did it more often.

About two weeks after being saved I thought of Bob. I immediately prayed for him, something like "Lord help him.." then I stopped praying and said out loud "What am I doing?" I'm praying for a man that I hated my whole life, but it feels good and right, so I did it again. I stopped again midway in the prayer and started pacing around. I was trying to make sense of what was going on and couldn't figure it out. But again it made me happy to pray for him so I did. Bob would often come to mind when I went to the bathroom and each time I would pray for Him. The more I did this the less weird it got. And the greater my love grew for him.

I started memorizing large portions of scripture and this was wonderful because it felt like the words were cleaning my mind and as Proverbs 2:10 "For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul." I wanted more and more of this pleasantness. So I memorized even more and the joy got more and more.

Then this life changing advice came:

A friend from church told me to find a book of the Bible and really understand it. Read through the Bible and pick one and read it over and over and study it and really get it. So I started in Genesis and read through. When I got to Proverbs I really liked it so I thought that would be the book. I started by memorizing all of Proverbs chapter 3. After that I thought maybe there is a better book than Proverbs. So I read on. Then I came to Song of Solomon. I read it with quite some confusion. It wasn't as good as the other books, I didn't know why. So I bought a commentary on it. George Burrowes commentary on the Song of Solomon.

In the commentary I found that George and other saw the book as illustrating God's love to the Church. And not only illustrating it but displaying the Love of Christ better than any other book. This caught my attention big time, because I was having a burning desire for a closer relationship with God and desperately learning about His Love so that I could Love God. You see I had hated Him for so long that God used that old hard heart to spur me on in loving Him. I so much did not want to hate God anymore that I was on fire to learn to Love Him as much and as fast as possible. So here was a book that would help me do that. So I landed on the Song of Solomon. I committed to learning as much of this book as possible.

I memorized the first chapter and would repeat it often throughout the day. I didn't know much of what I was repeating but it sure made me happier and on fire for God. I grew so fast repeating the first chapter over and over again all day, like a dozen times a day at least. It felt so good and I never found any other book that caused me to weep so much. I would often weep everyday just reading it. I was to immature to know what was going on. Even though it hurt to weep so much, I felt like my heart was being cleansed from the filth that was in it by repeating it over and over again so I did. As I read the commentary I understood more and more. What God was doing in me through the Song was greater and faster than any other portion of Scripture so I tended to stay there often. I was so excited about God that I thought it funny that other's in church weren't the same way. Some where happy but it seemed most of them didn't seem to care much about God. They would talk about work, football the weather. The only thing I wanted to talk about was Jesus and God and how can I grow closer to Him.

About this time there was a mission trip to Ireland.

I started to have convictions that I should try to find Bob and witness to him. I kept praying for him but how could he be saved if he hadn't heard the Gospel that has power unto salvation. So I asked family if they had any information. Like me before, my family hated him and thought he deserved hell. After some time I got his name but no location or phone number. Either they didn't know where he was or didn't want to tell me. I prayed some more and then started to get stronger convictions to do something about finding Bob.

So I went on the internet and typed in "his name and child molestation sex offender court" thinking that some court record would have some info leading to where I may find him" I even talked to a private eye and he couldn't help. So I googled some key words and spent hours each day looking through each page. I believed it was God's will for me to witness to Bob. I wanted him to be saved. Really bad. So much so that I thought God would save Bob if I were to witness to him. So I didn't stop searching for him. I kept my computer on each day and went page by page. It took two years to go through about 15,000 pages but I found someone who matched his name in a prison for molesting his grandchildren. I wrote the prison and he wrote back. All kinds of emotions went through my body when I saw his letter from the jail. I didn't open it right away but two hours later God gave me enough courage to face my fears again and I opened the letter. He admitted to being the one who molested me. We wrote back and forth I told him I was angry before but now I was saved and that I loved him and believed God wanted me to talk to him. He read my letters over and over again. I shared the gospel in each one.

I got mad at Bob 2x. Once he said that he love me. I got really angry with him. He didn't love me. That night it was hard to love Bob, I had to call a friend to pray for me to repent, after he prayed I felt greater love for Bob. Then I wrote him back saying "I'm sorry but you can't say that you loved me. You did not love me you lusted after me." He admitted he didn't love as he should have and admitted that it was lust and sinful. Finally some conviction. Yet I only thought he was saying that because I was being nice to him. All his family had left him and he said I was the only "friend" he had.

Wether or not it was true Bob said that he had cancer in his arm and that the help the prison gives was not enough and if he had money he could see a different doctor and get help. I sent him some money and since I was in jail before I knew what it was like to be in there without money, so I sent him money.

About 4-5 months in the economy went down, it was 2008. Work was hard. I still sent him money and I had to work harder. This was a really good lesson for me because I had to "work hard for the benefit of someone who did not deserve it." This was one of the greatest blessing ever because I realized with great certainty that Jesus was in me. This is what Jesus did. Jesus worked his whole life for me and I didn't deserve it!! Christ was in me! This was one of the best feelings ever and it put me in worship for months.

Then a mission trip to Croatia.

Each time I had to leave my business and amazing as it is I was completely okay each time. I am a self employed personal trainer and it is normally absurd to just leave and start over, but each time I had enough work within 2 weeks of coming back. This is a flat out miracle. I trusted God to provide and he did. How many people can start up a business in 2 weeks. Only with the help of God. God was teaching me early on in my walk that as long as I did what He wanted me to do then I had nothing to worry about.

About 3 years saved now.

I Taught the 4 year old's at church Sunday morning for 10 years.

Left my business 2x for mission trips and God miraculously provided when I came back.

I taught 5 x a week plus held a job.

Sunday morning to the kids.
Sunday night with the 5th graders
Friday afternoons at Good News Clubs. Sponsored by Child Evangelism Fellowship.
Friday Nights with the Kids teaching through Pilgrims Progress, I did this 2x
Teaching Monday afternoons at a nursing home. I taught through the Song of Songs once then John, then Romans then back to the Song again! I love the Song of Songs.
I grew up hating God for what happened to me, and now I love Him because He first loved me. My passion is for children to grow up loving God and not hating Him.

My other passion which has become ever greater is to help others see the Love of Christ to His Church in the Song of Songs!!

I would love to help you, just let me know and I will lead you and pray for you.

God demonstrates His love to us in sending His one and only Son to suffer in our place, taking our sins upon Himself so that whoever believes they get to heaven because of what He did for us will not perish but have everlasting life.

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